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The Healthy Way to Forgive Yourself

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

I subscribe to the Daily Good and received a wonderful article this morning.

Juliana Breines, a doctoral candidate at the University of California, Berkeley, tells us self-forgiveness is critical to well-being” but it can produce “a comforting sense of moral righteousness rather than a motivating sense of moral responsibility” and offers 4 'healthy' ways to forgive ourselves.

“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.” - Bruce Lee

1. Don’t get rid of guilt. It’s not the same as shame (i.e., feeling worthless). It’s “feeling bad about one’s behavior and its consequences.”

2. Own up. Acknowledge “both positive and negative aspects of the self.”

3. Pay your dues. “…consider what kinds of reparative behaviors will actually make a difference for others or for your own personal growth” but be gentle with yourself.

4. Foster empathy for the victim. Then “self-forgiveness might be better seen as an act of humility, an honest acknowledgment of our capacity for causing harm as well as our potential for doing good.”

Seems to me this can work even is the victim is ‘us’ on our way to becoming "AWAKE! ALIVE! AWARE! and Appreciative of ALL that IS".


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SARAHSTEELIO 12/13/2013 10:46AM

    You know how sometimes the exact right thing shows up at the exact right time? This blog post is EXACTLY what I needed to read this morning. Thanks for offering it out to the universe so people like me could catch it!

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SIERRAGOLD 12/12/2013 12:09AM

    Very good blog. I really like that site... '', so I saved it. Looks like a lot of interesting articles.

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WATERMELLEN 12/11/2013 7:47PM

    Reminds me a bit of Desmond Tutu's truth and reconciliation -- because the truth needs to come first !

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ONEKIDSMOM 12/11/2013 7:19PM

    What a lovely balanced view of self-forgiveness... we *do* have to honestly face mistakes and try to improve.

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_LINDA 12/11/2013 5:36PM

    emoticon ideas!
emoticon for the links!

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HELEN_BRU 12/11/2013 12:54PM

    Will check it out. Thanks! emoticon

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CRYSTALJEM 12/11/2013 11:28AM

    The Daily Good really does share good stuff.and so do you. Thanks

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