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I Shocked Everyone in Line w/a Simple Statement

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Ran into an old friend
I hadn't seen in many years.
As we waited in the store's
Check-out line, I said,
"Let's keep in-touch."
"Just facebook me," she replied.
Sorry, I don't FB.
Or anything else.
Just a little email and
Occasionally on the phone.
The looks on people's faces
Were shock and disbelief.
So I guess I'll never
See or hear from my old friend
Again. There's no such
Thing anymore
As talking face-to-face or
Getting together.

(p.s. I prefer to remain as untethered as possible to all things electronic. )

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
ISPARKLE77 12/13/2013 1:04AM

    emoticon I really do miss the old way of communicating. It was so much better than the way people choose to communicate today. Todays gadgets have gone to the extreme in my opinion. Hopefully your friend will still get back to you so the two of you can catch up on what has been happening in both of your lives.

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PRAIRIECROCUS 12/13/2013 12:01AM


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MSLZZY 12/12/2013 9:56PM

    Very smart. There is so much out there. I do text to DS and his GF as they are both hearing impaired.

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ALEXSGIRL1 12/12/2013 6:02PM

    I hate all the gadgets my self just talk to me no texting and emailing etc hugs my friend

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MADEIT3 12/12/2013 9:48AM

    The world is changing way too fast for this old woman. I'm with you. I did FB for about two weeks, then shut it down. I prefer to meet with my friends for lunch or dinner, or over coffee.

I remember reading in high school - way back in the 60's - that someday we'd all sit in our little homes in front of a screen. And I can remember how we all laughed. But it's come true. So sad...

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AWESOMECHELZ 12/12/2013 9:28AM

    I used to be on Facebook and closed the account twice and came back and now, I am not there anymore. A BIG waste of time AND energy. I guess you and I are in a different world. Maybe there is still hope for the young through us....or not. emoticon Regardless, let's keep SPARKING! emoticon

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NANCY- 12/12/2013 8:48AM

    That may serve you well, and being untethered is great.
I do use Facebook to stay in touch, for me it is better than the annual Christmas card. Plus I get to "see" my friends and family in posted pics. Not the same as in real life, but is much better than no contact.
If it were not for Skype, I wouldn't get to see, hear and talk to my 18 month old granddaughter.
I am not chained, the technology is but a tool for when the distance is vast, to keep those in our heart near.

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HIP-WITCH 12/12/2013 2:37AM

    How true!! emoticon Kinda makes me miss the good old days... emoticon Hopefully Christmas will pry a few people away from their computers. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Emmy :))

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BTRX71 12/12/2013 12:54AM

    Nope. I am not facebook. I like snail mail and email for writing and the telephone for actually talking to those in my life. emoticon I enjoy the personal conversations. Not everyone needs to know every thought or step of my day!

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LIVINGFREE19 12/11/2013 11:51PM

    Some people don't want to deal with technology, and I get that, as a matter of fact, I don't like it much myself!

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SHERYLDS 12/11/2013 8:36PM

    I just bought myself a basic cell phone and the Verizon salesrep spent 20 minutes trying to get me to buy a smartphone.
"but don't you text maam"
"but don't you use aps"
"but if you want to watch tv on your cell phone" .... no
boy was she disappointed.

and don't get me started with Facebook
I'm libel to post the status of my BM emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 12/11/2013 8:02PM

    I thought I was the only person left in the world NOT on facebook!!

I like to talk to people -- and preferably to get together in a way that doesn't involve stuffing our faces!!

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DEBIGENE 12/11/2013 7:50PM

    I so agree with you as does most people here that posted. BUT we are sadly so few and far between as the majority of the younger generations are in too much of a hurry to do without their phones and the instant connection and gratification. Truth of the matter is it has taught them to be rude, now don't get excited on me, not everyone but def the majority. People can't even do personal business without talking on the phone to someone else at the same time and then they wonder why they didn't hear what was said to them by the person face to face. I deal with it all day long as I am a receptionist at a hospital and I know what I am talking about. Too many people think they are just too important to miss out on something.
What happened to cell phones being for emergencies ??

ooops sorry for the rant. I'll shut up now. emoticon

Comment edited on: 12/11/2013 7:53:20 PM

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WALLAHALLA 12/11/2013 7:33PM

    I was shocked to learn this year that the coaches are not allowed to communicate with parents or students by any means other than Twitter. We had to set up an account in order to get necessary announcements. They were shocked that we don't text. Our phones aren't even set up for it, so we have to access Twitter through the computer. I don't see why they can't send emails, but rules are rules.

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CATLADY52 12/11/2013 6:51PM

    I feel much the same way. emoticon

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LIKINMENOW 12/11/2013 2:21PM

    Good for you...I do not like facebook. It isn't a way to have a friendship. I find it very sad to see our children visiting on facebook only. Like you said, what happen to face-to-face or even a phone call?

The other day I watched two teenagers sit side-by-side and communicate via their Ipod. That to me is scary. Also, they have lots of "friends" on facebook. But these people are not friends. Many of them, they barely know. Do they really know what the word "Friend" means?

I try to talk to my daughter about things like this. She tells me I don't know anything and I am way too old fashion; I need to get into the 21st century.

Jesse, I so agree with you.

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SEAJESS 12/11/2013 1:40PM

    emoticon I saw a great sign on a shop in London: "There's room for all kinds of sausages in our world!"

emoticon Here's to face-to-face never fading and best use of all the other aspects of our brave new world!

emoticon (Like you, I refuse to be a slave to my cell phone.)

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FIT4MEIN2013 12/11/2013 1:24PM

    As my family is scattered across the country and I moved 2600 miles from my home town, I don't know what I would do without Facebook to share our daily lives. If all of your friends and family are local, though, I wouldn't do it either!

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BUTEAFULL 12/11/2013 12:27PM

    sad state of current affairs isn't it, nobody seems to write letters anymore (except some with XMAS cards)

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DMSGLASS 12/11/2013 12:13PM

    I have many friends who aren't on FB and that is okay with me. I'm sure it's frustrating for them when so many assume that they can connect there. Personally, I do use FB regularly. I got on at the urging of my high school reunion committee. What a difference! And, yes, there are people whom I have met up with face-to-face after many years because we are connected through FB. That has been a blessing in so many ways.

Each person makes their choices and no one should be looked down upon because their choice is different. Good for you, standing up for what works best for you.

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DELIA38961 12/11/2013 12:06PM

    I don't do fb either , too much drama and stress and im trying to be as stress free as possible

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DDOORN 12/11/2013 12:00PM

    Definitely something to be said for unplugging and being real...


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MJEFFERSON23 12/11/2013 10:54AM

  Someone told me that Facebook is out, Instagram is in! Go figure!

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 12/11/2013 10:17AM

    I'm not on Facebook either. I don't even own a cell phone. I prefer face to face when possible. Of course I love Sparkpeople. I even have good old fashioned snail mail penpals!

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NATPLUMMER 12/11/2013 10:08AM


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SLIMSHANN 12/11/2013 10:06AM

    I never felt so lonely as when I signed up for facebook. I have about 40 friends, but they are friends I actually talk to but you see these 'friend collectors' who rack up the numbers... I am sure they have no emotional contact with most of them.
I hate my cell phone too! Sometimes I am in the lineup at the grocery store and see people looking at me.... I look back quizzically - they say 'Is that your phone ringing!" to which I jump because it is. Then usually I am too late to answer it. I am just numb to it I guess.
Spark has become my Facebook! and I still only have 40 friends. emoticon

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THINFITFEMINIST 12/11/2013 10:01AM

    I'm with you on this my friend.

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GENRE009 12/11/2013 9:45AM

    We become theathed to this site, feeling that felt talk is healing of the self and others. And I am not standing in judgment of this, because I enjoy it. But it is nice to step out of your box, and get personal with your bloggers. people are amazing & real % feel pretty much the same, but have had different journeys into stress. eva

p.s-thanks for reading my blog last nite, I usually don't get personal, and step out from behind the box, or the mask of being a writer or healer.

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EMILY0724 12/11/2013 9:33AM

    I recently quit facebook. after a couple of days, I never even think about it. I'm in total agreement with you!

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DADDYS_GIRL6 12/11/2013 9:26AM

    Thanks for sharing and it is so true!! Love it when a friend says, "let's go to lunch" and we spend all afternoon over "lunch". ;-)

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BARCLE 12/11/2013 8:58AM

    I once posted a sarky facebook status update: "not actually spoken to each other in years, must be facebook friends then". Sadly, it's rather true

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/11/2013 8:57AM

    Me too. Not a Facebook fan, not a cell phone fan.

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GOLFGMA 12/11/2013 8:37AM

    I'm getting used to this fast pace and it does allow more contact with friends and you can choose how much time you wish to spend . I don't check in daily, maybe a couple day per week. Get lots of ideas there!

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GRACE1054 12/11/2013 8:36AM

    I personally find that woman's response to direct you to Facebook more strange than your choice to not be on Facebook.
While I applaud your choosing to remain untethered to the world of social media, I know from experience that Facebook is a great way to do the initial "catch up" which often leads to the face-to-face.
How much you choose to share or participate in social media is a personal choice. But many, many people have reconnected in person through the initial electronic connection of Facebook.

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CTUPTON 12/11/2013 8:31AM


It is a new world! What I hate is everyone walking around with their cell phones glued to their ear.

chris emoticon

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WATERONE 12/11/2013 8:31AM

    You never know, she might call. Nothing wrong with preferring actual as opposed to virtual contact.

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