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Tuesday, December 10, 2013



Today is day 3 of my streak!

Yes, once again I had to start my streak over...and once again, I am okay with that! I don't see the end of a streak as a bad thing. I just see it as a chance to start fresh. And as Martha Stewart would say, its a good thing!



Until now, I haven't blogged yet this month, and I've missed it. Blogging helps me to stay accountable and on track. Plus, my Spark friends leave such awesome supportive comments on my blogs, and I can't tell you how much each one of those comments means to me.

The reason I haven't blogged this month is because someone who I thought was a friend sent me a pretty rude Sparkmail, which not only hurt my feelings but also kind of sunk my self esteem pretty low.

Isn't it really silly to let ONE person cause such a negative effect on me?



I have spent most of my life feeling inferior, unloved and not good enough. Blame it on a bad childhood and abusive first marriage...or blame it on me. I can take the blame now, because I have finally wised up in my old age and realized that I am in charge of my own happiness and self esteem. I can't change anything that happened in my life before, but I can take charge of my life now. And I choose to love myself, and to be my own hero. I choose to accept myself and to think I'm pretty awesome! I am strong, determined and I am slowly stealing my life back from a prison of obesity. Not everyone is going to like me, but I like myself. And I think thats a pretty good thing, too!




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LORIVIOLA 4/19/2014 9:22AM

    sending good thoughts and joy to banish the negative comment you were given.
have a great day.

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GRAMPIAN 2/21/2014 6:17AM

  Don't let snide comments undermine you - you're doing well. emoticon

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EFFRAYECHILDE 12/23/2013 8:33AM

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ACTIONHEROFOX 12/21/2013 10:16AM

    You are an inspiration! I read your blogs, even if I don't always leave a comment. I take them to heart and I feel like you're teaching me. I too have had someone belittle me on Sparkpeople. I just turned my tail up to them and left the message board they posted on. There are people like that everywhere and you'll encounter them from time to time. What you got to do is just keep telling yourself how fabulous you really are. People love to make fun of me out here in the physical world and I'll smile and tell them that I don't care what they think because I know I'm a fabulous genius. Sometimes they'll argue and I'll let them know I can't hear them over my fabulousness. emoticon
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MAGGIEVAN 12/21/2013 12:56AM

    Great ideas!nice to see you again.

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MRSRIGS1 12/17/2013 12:03PM

    YOU are awesome! emoticon

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STARBUCKSAMORE 12/17/2013 8:53AM

    You are a talented, motivating writer ... Don't be silenced by low-functioning people.
They are using hurt as a tool to communicate because they simply don't know how to do it in a way that's more productive and respectful. My husband does this and is slowly learning how to be higher functioning in this regard bless his soul!

But, the lesson I learned from him is it's his issue, not mine.

You are wonderful! Thanks for taking the time to search out quotes and visuals ... It truly is a delight to read your posts! emoticon

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WHOVIAN3 12/16/2013 8:32AM

    Sorry someone made you feel that way :( I too always felt inferior! still do at times. I love spark people,I love the encouragement I get when blogging,and little messages on my wall!! And I so enjoy looking at yours! Glad you are not letting it keep you down!
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DALLALAH 12/15/2013 11:07PM

    I love how you validated yourself by saying "I am in charge of my own happiness and self-esteem." Thank you for reminding me to do the same emoticon

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FIFIFRIZZLE 12/15/2013 2:52PM

    Sometimes it's nice to take a break. I hope you enjoyed it and have come back refreshed. And to what a welcome!

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IMEMINE1 12/15/2013 10:00AM

    This is a great blog. Just count on the ones that love you and not on that one bad (jealous) person. emoticon

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SIERRAGOLD 12/15/2013 7:13AM

    What a coward the spark person was to HIDE behind your direct mail, and to say anything negative at all to you. Who do they think they are?!

She/he must be really jealous of you and full of self hate. So you don't want someone like that to be talking to you anyway. Think of all the fake, manipulative, evil people out in the world that you can think of in the media and in history. You know you don't WANT them to like you anyway. When I run into people like that, I just say I'm glad you are uneasy around me... that tells me all I need to know about you. It gives you a heads up to who doesn't have your best interest at heart and is mentally/psychologically unbalanced. Online it's so much more difficult to weed those people out, since there's no way to see or hear the real person behind the written word.

Hang in there and be glad they showed their true selves when they did. Imagine if you ever did meet them and then found out the hard way?

Take care and I hope you feel like blogging again like you were. You're on the right track!

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DIANER2014 12/14/2013 12:11PM

    You are so supportive and motivating, hard to imagine anyone being rude to you. i'm glad you're back and as positive as ever! Love your blog! emoticon

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GEORGE815 12/14/2013 11:40AM

    Good luck!

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JANISMKW 12/13/2013 4:47PM

    Love your blog! You are a role model of self-esteem, which is SO important and so hard for many of us. I'll remember that line about "stealing my life back..."
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Don't let the haters live rent-free in your head. (You probably have already moved on.)
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DESIZGIRL 12/13/2013 1:10PM

    Pixie, you are steadfast and true. I'm with Amber and Ginger!

You are an inspiration to us all, and we are so appreciative!

Streak on, woman!

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DEEKELLYE 12/13/2013 12:52PM

    I don't have an unkind word to say about you. You are honest, kind, smart and caring. I can't believe somebody would send you a spark mail like that.

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NEWMOM20121 12/13/2013 8:50AM

    Your blogs have been missed.

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FITGRANDMA120 12/13/2013 12:58AM

    I was on Spark people a long time ago and let one person get to me and so I quit. This time I've been a member over a year and like you said, the end of a streak is not necessarily a bad thing. It seems like you're just starting a new beginning.

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ROXYCARIN 12/13/2013 12:49AM

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WENDYANNE61 12/13/2013 12:29AM

    Pixie - so sorry to hear that someone was nasty to you! You have personally helped me to pick up the pieces and start new streaks again and again - you are FANTASTIC! emoticon

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SEATTLE58 12/13/2013 12:11AM

    I love all your emails and can't ever imagine why anyone would ever want to criticize you, my dear friend! I love and appreciate all the encouragement your every email gives! Loving you emoticon

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LIVELYGIRL2 12/12/2013 10:55PM

  I've read several blogs of people reporting someone said something mean or rude.

I'm pretty surprised.

I've never seen anything that Ic ould figure out that someone would think of something to critizize. Unless they say something STUPID about breaking a streak. In my opinion, unless someone totally goes off the deep end of weeks and months... eating some Christmas party meals is to be expected, or a couple of treats. I don't know if your referring to that.

And once in awhile, someone gets real sensitive and hurt by an innocent remark and takes it wrong.

But I'm thinking that it probably wasn't the case with you.

You know that the vast majority of people like your blogs. If they don't , they don't have to read them or comment.

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KATIE5668 12/12/2013 10:53PM

    I would have to say..looking at the response to your blog..
1-whoever sent any kind of negative item to you was not wise.
2-obviously a LOT of people think you are wonderful..you should listen to them!
3-Love yourself..an excellent message..we all need to learn to do that. It is not selfish or self serving..it is needed for our well being.

Thank you for a meaningful blog ..for sharing your raw emotions & hurt with us &
for pointing a way to healing & moving on.

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LIVE_AMAZINGLY 12/12/2013 10:37PM

    I've had people say the most horrible things to me via spark mail. When I confront them - which I do - one even told me, "Well, it's not like it's real people. It's just a computer screen. Well, anyone who would say that is rationalizing and trying to come up for an excuse for their bullying. And there are lots of 'bullies behind keyboards'.

Remember "Hurt people hurt people". And, remember that bullies are generally cowards that build themselves up at another's expense. Bullies have really low self-esteem and are insecure people, even if they convince themselves otherwise with their denials.

I know it hurts. A lot of people just 'delete', but I say, "Once you have read their unkind comments you can't take that back out of your mind, so they got away with doing that to you." So, I confront them in some way. Cause the only thing that stops bullies is calling them on their behavior. If I just delete their comments they got away with their bullying, and they continue to do so, going on to various others to bully. So, I talk to them about what has happened in a respectful but firm way and ask them not to return to my page to leave comments or email. Sometimes it upsets them mightily, but the bullying stops. If their comments were really over the top I will report them right away, and certainly will report them if they continue contact after I have asked them to stop all contact.

There are ALL kinds of people out there. Just because it is online doesn’t mean you won’t run into those types. In fact, due to being able to ‘hide’ you will run into (more) unseemly people online.

I do hope that this doesn't happen to you again. I do understand the emotional toll it takes, and hate to see anyone else here go through that.

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PHOENIXFARM 12/12/2013 10:36PM

  Just read your blog! Awesome!! You are a wonderful person! You write a fantastic blog! Never doubt yourself or it will be the world's loss! Never be silent, we need to hear what you have to say! Mary

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JOANNHUNT 12/12/2013 8:05PM

    AWESOME BLOG LADY. DON'T EVER LET NEGATIVE, HURTFUL PEOPLE INTO YOUR HEAD.

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MSROZZIE 12/12/2013 6:53PM

    emoticon emoticon God loves you and so do I! Don't fret over the frivolous! Don't tense over the trivial! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BETHFIRM 12/12/2013 5:52PM

  pIXIE...I ONLY SUBSCRIBE TO ONE BLOG AFTER 2 YEARS OF READING THEM AND THAT IS YOURS. DON'T LET 1 PERSON TAKE YOU AWAY FROM ALL OF YOUR READERS!!!!

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SPARKLINGME176 12/12/2013 5:51PM

    emoticon me too!

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MCCC75 12/12/2013 4:20PM

    Pixie -- so glad to read your blog. I want you to really hear this --- the way you write your blog-- you always speak to my heart and say what I am thinking. You are a terrific writer!! Thanks so much for being there for all of us. You are a WONDERFUL person and you give so much of yourself to others. Do not let the turkeys get you down! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARYDURHAM1959 12/12/2013 3:03PM

    emoticon Hang in there. Remember we are doing this for ourselves, not the approval of everyone else. Glad to see you back blogging. You are an inspiration! emoticon

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LIVINGLOVINLIFE 12/12/2013 12:01PM

    Hi Pixie; I don't spark as much as I used to, but wanted to just let you know I think you are pretty special. You have always been nice to me and very supportive. People do say hateful things to each other, and those of us that deal with poor self esteem and low self worth are so sensitive to what others say about us. We need to be more assertive and stand up for ourselves. You are so right about being responsible for our own actions. We need to love ourselves as much as we love others. So here's hugs to you. Keep up the good works that you do. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JUSTYNA7 12/12/2013 10:47AM

    You really do need a hug today! Sorry someone wrote a rude note to you. It does happen. There are people on this site after all... many who also have been abused or feel they have the right to pass their bad day onto another person. But they must be the tip of the iceburg because look at all these well wishers. Thank you for reminding me that I am responsible for my own happiness. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TSCRAPPER 12/12/2013 10:13AM

    You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem and smarter than you think! Christopher Robin. Have a great day! emoticon

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AJB121299 12/12/2013 9:00AM

    good luck

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ANNROW0354 12/12/2013 8:29AM

    I heard someone say that 10% of the people out there aren't going to like you no matter what you do. Yet, it always seems that it's that 10% we base our self-image on.
Love yourself first and then you can love others and let them love you. And those that don't.....well, they are missing out!
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PURPLEPEONY 12/12/2013 8:13AM

    We love you Pixie! You are emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ELEPHANTGIRL75 12/12/2013 7:42AM

    Wow, can't believe someone on here would do that. Hopefully it is a lesson learned that you can't let others get you down. Been there, done that, got the postcard. Keep going, you can do it. Thanks for such an inspiring blog.

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SEAGLASS1215 12/12/2013 5:19AM

    Great blog! As Dr. Phil says: "Don't give your power away." In other words, don't let the actions of someone else affect how you feel about your self - that is giving them your power.

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JANAYA2424 12/12/2013 1:58AM

    Three things comes to mind. 1: Who needs enemies when you have friends like that. There will always be those "friends" and over time you don't lose friends you just find out who are your real ones. 2: Misery loves company. There are just those who aren't "happy" unless they are making someone else miserable. I agree with a previous comment. We need to forgive people like that because most likely, they aren't the one who is going to be losing any sleep over it and we deserve to be at peace. 3: For some reason the negative is so much easier to believe. However, just because it's easier to believe DOES NOT mean it's true. I'm so glad you decided to let it roll off you like water off a duck's back. This is just part of what makes you so inspirational and powerful. You go girl!! emoticon emoticon just emoticon

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