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People who don't understand

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

People, sometimes no matter how hard you try to get them to understand, just don't. In this particular instance I'm talking about family.

When we were little my parents started the tradition of putting a box of Smarties in my Christmas stocking and a KitKat for my sister. A couple of days ago, I told them I didn't want any this year. They scoffed at me saying that the way I exercise, "it won't hurt you" and that it was "tradition". That hurt to hear. And they completely missed the point.

Yes, I do have days where I screw up in the eating department. But I do try my best to limit those days. It doesn't always work, that's true. I try not to beat myself up when it happens. We're all human, we all make mistakes. We are not perfect.

Still, it'd be nice if they listened to me.
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    You're growing up, and don't like the same things it sounds like. Next time, try really hard to think of something you really would like eating and ask for that to be in your stocking. People gave me a lot of candy over the past couple of months, and I gained weight from it. It's really easy, and I see why you wouldn't want to deal with that. I really love the idea of sharing it with others. I live with my mom and my brother, and they're always giving me candy, for all the holidays. But I'm just not going to eat it anymore. It's just something that, for me, is something that I cannot handle. If I have any, I have a LOT. Anyway, good luck on thinking of diplomatic ways of dealing with this in the future. Ask for protein bars! I think I'm going to do that in the future.
    1113 days ago
  • _BABE_
    I know it's hard to be around "stuff" you like and not be tempted but what I have learned is that your environment is never going to be completely clean. If you take that box of smarties and put it in a candy dish for all you will have succeeded in moving past it and feel stronger as a result. Your mom loves you and your sister and is only thinking of the good ol'days and keeping traditions alive.
    1532 days ago
    Thanks for the support guys...I'm thinking to wait till I go back to school. Then put them in a bowl so all my classmates can enjoy :)
    1532 days ago
    I totally understand how you feel but a lot of people have trouble giving up "traditions". I agree with several others. Just let them have their tradition, say thanks, and then dispose of the unwanted food as soon as possible. I either bring it to work or throw it away.
    1533 days ago
    1535 days ago
    I understand. When people say "oh, come on. You can eat it. One piece won't hurt...have a second portion..." they don't understand. That is one of the great things about SP. We have a community of people who DO understand. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1535 days ago
    I think there is a miscommunication issue here. Both sides sound like they are hurting. It is also probably hurting your family that you are denying them the joy of continuing this tradition of putting these pieces of candy in your stocking.

    What you ultimately end up eating is in your control, so let them have this tradition, but don't feel obligated to actually consume the Smarties. There might be somewhere local that you can donate them to (a food pantry?), or you can share them with friends.
    1535 days ago
  • DIANE7786
    "It's tradition!" Holidays are a traditional excuse for family and friends to eat more junk. I've been eating healthy for several years. People who know me well still give me gifts of holiday junk food. I thank them. There was a time I enjoyed eating junk and wouldn't have understood why anyone wouldn't. I've changed. They haven't. Explaining once again causes unnecessary aggravation. I take junk food gifts to the office, give it other friends (regifting!) or toss it in the trash without regret.
    1535 days ago
  • PEGGY11
    Those smarties represent their love for you. Perhaps if there is a candy dish handy you could open them and put them in there for everyone else. emoticon
    1535 days ago
    is there any way you can just accept them and say "thank you" and then discretely give them to someone else? that way you can honor their wish for tradition and handle the food situation in a way that is positive for you too (you will see yourself letting the food go somewhere else rather than feel bad about eating it). my mother always gives me marshmallow peeps at Easter because they were my favorite as a kid. its just her way of showing me that she has fond memories of me as a child. I say thanks, then take them home--eat the head off of one, feed the rest to the dogs and send the remainder to my husbands workplace.

    1535 days ago
  • JAROL7
    You are SO right. How often have I heard, "You don't have any weight to lose" and they think they are being kind. Well I know and the scale knows. Yes, you and I try to limit the damage. I've gone over my calorie limit 20 out of the 124 days that I've been on this journey. But you and I both know that when that happens, we get right back on the plan the very next day. Keep up the good work. You will make it!!! This life is for real.
    1535 days ago
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