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The Grinch Girl ME

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

While the word Christmas is used in the Grinch story, we emphasize holidays of all kinds in our classroom. This is a season when all must be included. My emphasis is sharing of love, joy, food and traditions. ALL traditions! A classroom must be inclusive. Our country should be inclusive as well. I have been on the outside of holiday events, and felt like the Grinch at times.

Holidays are not always fun for families with divorce. As a step parent, I have, at times, felt like I was;
a step below,
a step behind, and
just out of step
with the rest of the family. I have had to become very creative, make my own traditions, and celebrate holidays in my own way. Being left out alone in the cold can really hurt.

There are times when I also wanted to stop Christmas, but it keeps on coming every year. December 25th is usually NOT a Currier and Ives or Norman Rockwell type of event for me. I had to find my own way to celebrate! Now this Grinch girl steps to the beat of my own drum!
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SVELTEWARRIOR 12/11/2013 9:15PM

    I agree,you have to celebrate your way!!!!!!!!

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DIANER2014 12/10/2013 10:49PM

    Well said!

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GRAMMYEAC 12/10/2013 10:08PM

    We are beginning to see this now that our grandchildren are being shared with the ex. You've captured both the initial pain, and the creativity that is necessary to establish new traditions to keep holidays special.

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MEXGAL1 12/10/2013 7:21PM

    we are all different but for sure we are responsible for finding our own joy!

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MJ7DM33 12/10/2013 7:08PM

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JACKIE542 12/10/2013 1:46PM

    I so understand this. Need to find our own joy, perhaps a hike. emoticon

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CINDHOLM 12/10/2013 1:00PM

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DEBBYFROMMT 12/10/2013 10:23AM

    A beautiful line from a wonderful book!

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ADARKARA 12/10/2013 9:56AM

    I know what you mean! While I'm not divorced, I am the only cousin without children, which sometimes makes me feel like a second class citizen. (I don't even WANT children.)

Hubby and I do dinner at home with each other and our pup, and we have a great, relaxed time!

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PGHP31CK 12/10/2013 9:36AM

    Well said!

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KMVBBAM 12/10/2013 9:27AM

    I know how you feel, I've been a step-parent for 25 years and I've found we have strength and creativity. emoticon

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SISSY_24 12/10/2013 8:56AM

    emoticon I'm always out of step! emoticon

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SWEETNEEY 12/10/2013 8:21AM

    Nice.

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PATTYKLAVER 12/10/2013 8:14AM

    I've felt like the outsider looking in and it's uncomfortable at best. I'm glad you realize that you have to do things your way to make your life special. It took me awhile and I did a lot of thinking about what the holidays are really about. Now I can go to the beat of my own drummer, do things for others more easily, and feel better about how I handle the holidays. Now to change the rest of the world...!

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SANDRALEET 12/10/2013 8:03AM

    Jesus said invite those who can not invite you back Help others who need help and you will be blessed

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SETTIMIA 12/10/2013 7:59AM

    I really understand, all my immediate family has died, and I dread xmas, but doing things that make you happy will help.



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SCOOTER4263 12/10/2013 7:54AM

    I spent last Christmas alone for the first time in my 58 year life, and I can tell you: a rocking chair, a hot beverage, a good book and a good dog can cover a multitude of other failings.

Another suggestion: if certain people won't bring Christmas to you, you go take Christmas to others. A day ladling soup for the homeless not only takes your mind off your own troubles, it incorporates more of what the Son was talking about than cookies and gift exchanges. You could also throw your own Christmas party and invite all the other "out-of-steps" you know - even ones you only know slightly.

Every tradition had a first time sometime - you're right on course starting your own new ones.

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NASFKAB 12/10/2013 7:48AM

  great all the best

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MSLZZY 12/10/2013 7:36AM

    I've been there so I try to let it go and please me. HUGS!

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SHAWFAN 12/10/2013 7:11AM

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PYNETREE 12/10/2013 7:10AM

    Find you own JOY!

I hope this holiday season you are able to grasp the Beauty, Peace and Enjoyment !

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1CRAZYDOG 12/10/2013 7:09AM

    There are so many, many situations that leave us having to "re-invent" ourselves so to speak. . . make our own traditions. There is so much pressure during this season for things to be perfect! But that just doesn't happen!

For various reason, my family has had to re-invent our holiday traditions, too. It's not easy, it's a process, but it happens.

OMG . . . kind of like applying the sparky way to life, eh!

Thank you for writing this wonderful blog.

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TWEETYKC00 12/10/2013 6:33AM

    So true, I hope you can find a way to have a nice holiday season with just a little less hassle.

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RIDLEYRIDER 12/10/2013 6:32AM

  Christmas is aimed for a target audience these days, you are right about that. We can only make the best of it and move forward.

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THINFITFEMINIST 12/10/2013 6:13AM

    Excellent blog. And you are correct. Christmas seems a bit directed towards certain groups and not all inclusive.

I am a middle-aged childless single woman living on her own in a male-dominated hierarchy state. Yep, I feel a little out of step. And that is just fine.

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STARTINGINLIMBO 12/10/2013 6:09AM

    I know you know it's all about Him for you. Keep your focus on why He came into the world the way He did. You'll do fine. :)
This youtube story is really good for pondering about that:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=
0KpS6XqHmBE&feature=share

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2BDYNAMIC 12/10/2013 6:07AM

    It is good to see another view regarding this occasion ............ For many it is sad, depressing and disappointing ........... My entire family 'broke up' shall we say ........... (Hardly anyone speaks) ......I know what it feels like to be out in the cold' and on the outside looking in)....... so I find the peace and joy with those who do matter and care ........... Even if it is my Spark friends and a wee circle around me ........ We can just enjoy one another .......... great blog and so creative .......... Sending YOU some emoticon to show you matter .......... (and again: I bet your students (kid) love you for a teacher ........ sounds like you are a lot of fun!! ....... emoticon

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