Co-dependent and finding my way...
Sunday, December 08, 2013
Weighing 385 pounds didn't seem so bad, I am tall with the proverbial "big bones." Against the wishes of my mate, I explored job opportunities and made the decision in 1975 to go into business for myself. I chose street maintenances services, eventually grew to 5 street sweepers, traffic maintenance signalization, signage for small villages, communities, schools, and shopping centers and malls. Boys were eventually in preschool, with me in office, and eventually branched to pavement marking, snow removal and salt spreading. Business was successful, 20 employees, and the marriage was a disaster, compounded by hubby quitting his job to work for the business...... Oil on water, in 1981, we separated, the beginning of a 5 year divorce battle, and forced dissolution of the business. I had made many contacts in the government and contracting arena, and was the first woman certified in contracting for the GCRTA and 2nd by the City of Cleveland. I needed a rest....I thought I would take a break, and be a mom for 6 months, taking time to figure our my priorities. However..My largest Client reached out, made an offer I could not refuse, and in 4 days, I had a new job in Cleveland for one of the leading Contractors and asphalt producers in Ohio. The next 17 years were wonderful, I was respected, sought after socially, respected in my industry, active in my church, and was able to raise my sons in great style, in a 130 year old century home, in the country, swimming pool, yard man, entertaining, always
With home help, and lived happily single, dating, and eating and drinking rich food, bourbon,
Coca cola, and remarkably very little junk food or desserts. I continued my love of music, with use of company loge, attended and entertained at over 200 concerts. I also pursued my love of fundraising, have a real knack for it, and loved giving back. At 404 pounds, made the decision quite on a whim to have my stomach stapled, and an stomach obulation, whereby my stomach was enclosed in a mesh enclosure to prohibit stretching. The process was too
Successful, I was nauseated constantly, could not swallow but sips of water, and in 8 mos lost
125 pounds, and 80% of my hair. Again, no exercise was ever promoted. In a consultation, the physicians talked about reversal, my BP was 90/45, I was a mess. A recommendation was made to try eating 1/2 c popcorn, kernel at a time, several times a day. Something opened up and within 3 mos, I was tolerating solid food. The obulation is still in place, shows on X-rays, and always a topic of diagnostic discussion. I regained every bit of the weight plus another 25, bringing me to about 430. . I was on the go, feeding my nerves, remarried briefly for 2 years...a huge mistake...
But a learning experience in my life. You know, if I had not been successful, never a shortage of friends, dates, would I gave gotten a grip on what I was doing my body?? I will never know.