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Nelson Mandela, my Dad, and forgiveness

Friday, December 06, 2013

In my life, two great men exemplified forgiveness: my father, Bill Gray, and Nelson Mandela. With my father, I saw the attitude of peace and kindness toward all lived out. With Dr. Mandela, I read about and saw in movie form forgiveness.
Still, for me it was not easy. I had married a wonderful man with a horrible problem of alcoholism. I bore many scars in my heart, and I saw the same in my sons. Even after the divorce, it took me years to live free of an unforgiving attitude. I had to purposely redirect my thoughts often, for I wanted someone to blame for my bad day, bad luck or bad attitude.
The bottom line is that I am responsible for my day and my attitude. I am blessed by God, so the luck part doesn't really matter. What looks bad today could turn out to be a great lesson to help me grow tomorrow. It's all about my attitude of gratitude.

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MSLZZY 12/6/2013 11:09PM

    Great lessons learned from those who learned to forgive. It takes
a lot of determination to let things go.

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TXGRANDMA 12/6/2013 9:00PM

    It seems we married the same wonderful man! You see, my first husband was also an alcoholic and a chain smoker. We had 2 daughters and were married 24 years before we divorced. I would probably still be with him, but in early 1997 the physical abuse surfaced, and I wouldn't take that! We split after that (January 3) and the divorce was final in September of that year. It now seems like my life with him was another time, very long ago. I would almost think it never existed if not for my dear daughters! Current DH and I have been married 12 years as of August 2013. Looking forward to many more! emoticon

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MJ7DM33 12/6/2013 8:59PM

  Great blog! Thx for sharing!

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GRAMMYEAC 12/6/2013 8:49PM

    Awesome! What an insightful person you are! And to have been able to apply your knowledge and improve yourself!

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SVELTEWARRIOR 12/6/2013 5:26PM

    Beautiful Blog!!!!!!!!!!

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ROZOZ68 12/6/2013 2:03PM

    From the heart! Thanks!

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BEFIT016 12/6/2013 1:29PM

    Forgiveness allows us to overcome feelings of anger, bitterness, and revenge. You AND Dr Mandela have accomplished that.

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NASFKAB 12/6/2013 1:24PM

  so hard to forgive

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MAGGIEVAN 12/6/2013 1:21PM

    Thanks for sharing.

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PGHP31CK 12/6/2013 12:38PM

    emoticon Thank you for sharing so honestly.

Forgiveness is a discipline and a process -- sometimes it takes 70 x 7 x 700!

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JSTETSER 12/6/2013 10:47AM

    Forgiveness is a difficult lesson to live out every single day.

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JACKIE542 12/6/2013 8:55AM

    Beautiful, thank you. emoticon

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THEMINT2 12/6/2013 8:34AM

    Powerful post and lesson - thank you!

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SWEETNEEY 12/6/2013 8:26AM

    thank you for reminding me about moving on and examples of those who have had to endure much more than I do/did and demonstrate a good spirit inspite of it.

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NUTRON3 12/6/2013 8:17AM

    Good post!

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MAWMAW101 12/6/2013 8:14AM

    Thank you for a great start to my day! It is blogs like yours that help us all.
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KELLIEBEAN 12/6/2013 8:07AM

    Forgiveness really is the key to a peaceful life.

Thank you for sharing this!

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1CRAZYDOG 12/6/2013 8:00AM

    OH my dear . . . you words are like a shining beacon on the dark! FORGIVENESS . . . it really does set us free. We must never forget the lessons learned BUT forgiveness . . . that gives US peace to move forward.

Thanks for sharing such a beautiful tribute to both your Dad's and Nelson Mandella's examples. Lessons to be remembered.


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CANADIANFROG09 12/6/2013 7:53AM

    WOW!!! what a great blog.
All so true, thank you so much for sharing. emoticon

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JOANIE69 12/6/2013 7:33AM

    What a beautiful tribute, and how you sum it all up is something I agree with 100%:

"The bottom line is that I am responsible for my day and my attitude. I am blessed by God, so the luck part doesn't really matter. What looks bad today could turn out to be a great lesson to help me grow tomorrow. It's all about my attitude of gratitude. "

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SANDRALEET 12/6/2013 7:29AM

    I learned yesterday to whot extent the life of the none white were treated Hard to believe that people could be so evil

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HOLLYM48 12/6/2013 7:04AM

    Awesome blog. Thanks for a great reminder!

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BEWELL48 12/6/2013 6:57AM

    Thank you. Forgiveness will set one free. It is a gift that is often forgotten.
May we all remember Nelson Mandela as an example of a life well lived.
An attitude of gratitude, practiced each day, can be one of the best remedies for whatever ails us!

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IOEINC 12/6/2013 6:46AM

    It truly is a blessing to be able to forgive another's transgressions and to recognize it is their problem and not yours. Better to learn from the experiences and move on than continue to keep bitterness in your heart. You become a better person for it.

Thank you for a very lovely, inspiring blog!!

Have a fabulous Friday!!


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MAMISHELI53 12/6/2013 6:30AM

    So true. Thanks for sharing that. emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 12/6/2013 6:22AM

    Great blog. Have a wonderful day.

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    To me forgiveness means: what I think another did to me never really happened. Now to understand this sentence takes some real deep thinking. To live it takes a lifetime of practice. The other persons actions took place but my interpretation was in error. Everything and everyone is a blessing and a messenger of Love when viewed from above the battleground of our lower thoughts.

I loved this blog and you are wonderful to have in my Spark Life.

Thank you!


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STALEYK 12/6/2013 6:07AM

    How true! I think it is an ongoing process for most of us daily. If it's not the BIG things its the little things that eat at us and we need to leave that bitterness behind us and not take it with us on our daily walk.

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WENDYJM4 12/6/2013 5:57AM

    so true

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    So true. Good thoughts. We never want satan to steal our joy.

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ROX525 12/6/2013 5:50AM

    Good for you. Thank you for this uplifting blog. Have a great day.

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