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Still At Goal

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Wednesday, December 04, 2013

First a moment of braggadocio - I have weighed in at goal or within 2 lbs of it for 9 months. I am absolutely thrilled about this - proud - excited - even inspired. This is a fabulous thing - and the first time I've maintained a healthy weight this long since I was in my early 40's ... which is decades ago my chickadees.

And what do you know - I just won 100 goodie points here on the spark bonus wheel - so there - I got myself a new pair of shoes - because ... there was a time I was too heavy to wear high heels. Yeah. Something to think about. I can wear them now because I exercise regularly and keep my weight down. woo woo.

I'm particularly happy about this month's "official" weigh in because it was at a different time and on a different scale from what I have been using since I reached goal in mid-March. My beloved Weight Watcher's meeting - an important anchor in my life - was canceled for being too successful. Yup. Too many of us were at goal and not paying and not enough people still on the journey were showing up to pay the rent on the space.

I completely understand the issues involved in the decision. I'm not happy about it, mind you. I just understand. And the powers that be have agreed to give us another chance after Christmas when all weight loss programs swell as people try to undo the damage of holiday excess. If they can get 30 people to join at an open house in January they'll start it back up again - and I suspect they will. I can assure you there are 300 people in my community who would benefit from weight loss.

So. I am not without hope of fitting a noon meeting only 2 miles from where I work into my weekly schedule come January. But if this doesn't happen, I will continue with the meeting I attended last night - at least once a month for a weigh in. I will go every week if I form any kind of bond with the people who attend. But weekly or monthly, that outside accountability - with someone else's tools and someone else's eyes assessing my progress - helps keep things very real for me.

I grew up with a (darling, beloved, artistic, fun, creative and inspiring) fat mother and heafty dad, I struggled with fat all through my teens. I have heavy sisters, big cousins, and live in a community where 50% of the people are overweight. 200 lb women are the average. This is quite a challenge to come up against.

Believing I can live the rest of my life fit and healthy doesn't come naturally to me - but it's a belief that has taken root in the tender soil of my psyche. I plan to do everything in my power to keep this great lifestyle going. I'm still at goal, after a fun food filled Thanksgiving. I plan to still be at goal after an even more festive Christmas holiday. And that's the holiday wish I'd give to everyone here at Spark People - that you will be able to hop into January ....Still At Goal!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
LOGOULD 12/18/2013 9:43PM

    Congratulations....Even though I am still maintaining, I am not yet to the point where I can successfully keep such a tight reign on my range. Working on it though, and you are my inspiration.

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LAILATN 12/18/2013 4:32PM

    Just saw your blog and it was very inspiring! Nice to read a true success story.


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VTRICIA 12/18/2013 2:11PM

    Keep on keeping on!

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CELIAMINER 12/17/2013 9:59AM

    Super story and excellent blog!

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MJREIMERS 12/14/2013 10:32PM

    emoticon What a great accomplishment! I guess that you are "proving" many wrong when it comes to maintaining, 1) age is irrelevant, 2) family dynamics are irrelevant, 3) past "failures" are just learning tools and 4) persistence pays off!

Keep up the great work!

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SLENDERELLA61 12/14/2013 3:19PM

    Great blog! Great accomplishment!! Thanks so much for sharing. You definitely deserve to be highlighted by our At Goal & .... Team. You are doing great!!

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MAREE1953 12/14/2013 8:21AM

    Hippity, hop, hop, hippity hop hop, January is on its way!! lol Love having you as a daily check-in buddy! Great job on the blog!

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NELLJONES 12/14/2013 8:05AM

    Great attitude! I've never thought about closing a WW meeting because it was full of non-paying lifetimers, but I can see how that can happen. It's time to infiltrate other meetings with your success. In the 12 Step meetings, most of the people there are success stories so they can as a group bolster new members. Stick with the winners, we were told. They know something a newcomer doesn't: that it works!!

WW ought to contact the local paper: WW is so successful we had to close a meeting. They'll be stuffed with new members who want what you have.

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KIMBERLY_Y 12/13/2013 11:18PM

    Bess, congratulations on the popular blog and on your 9 month maintenance. That is terrific news. And to be within 2 lbs of your goal weight is incredible. I hope I can continue to do it like you do. Thanks for sharing your up-beat thoughts. I really appreciate it.

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BOPPY_ 12/13/2013 6:59PM

    By example, you have just shown me what to do. emoticon

I need to set an upper and lower limit on my weight goal. My goal weight is 180. Since first reaching it, I've gapped between 170.9 and 188.4. I've got to reduce this range to 178 to 182.

The responsibility is entirely mine! emoticon

However, I have not been helped by the weird interactions between SparkPeople and the Fitbit web sites WRT calorie limits and exercise calories burned. I think I finally have a bead on how to set my calorie goals, now, ignoring both web sites completely. emoticon


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MEXGAL1 12/13/2013 12:07PM

    So inspiring. Good for you. You have done and are doing and will continue to do well as I believe you have the right attitude now.
Have a fantastic holiday season.

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MOONCHILD8 12/12/2013 9:08PM

    Wow! You are awesome! You are so inspiring to me. I agree it is very hard to be different and watch what you eat. It is difficult to exercise when others in the family do not. I am glad you have a couple of support groups. Weight Watchers and your spark people friends and teams. Linda from bean town

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HOLLYM48 12/12/2013 6:22PM

    Awesome job! I am still at goal almost 6 months into this and I plan on staying here for the rest of my life. We have worked way to hard to give up and go back!
Great job and I completely understand what you are saying about so many others being heavy, it becomes the norm. But it doesn't have to be and we are strong enough to know that we don't have to suffer the things that people who are overweight suffer thru daily and the healthy issues that come with it!
Keep up the excellent work, I hope your weight watchers group gets back together or you form a new one!
Congrats to you!

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FELINA 12/12/2013 1:14PM

Congratulations on maintaining for nine months and through Thanksgiving!

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BOOKAPHILE 12/12/2013 11:53AM

    Well done, indeed! Doing what you need to do to maintain in spite of the temptations offered by those all around you is confidence building and empowering. It's also encouraging to those of us who aren't as far along the path as you are. I hope your ww group will be able to start again, and that you will find others who will enjoy the journey with you.

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SUNNYBEACHGIRL 12/12/2013 11:47AM

    I really understand about the going slow and feeling the result of eating something good and something high calorie. I plan to keep it off this time by being able to respond better. So sorry about your weight watchers.

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PAM_COOPER 12/12/2013 11:42AM

    Hey Bess,
Congratulations, emoticon you deserve your moment!

emoticon I love, love, love to see happy people. emoticon

It IS a wonderful feeling of knowing how to keep it under control AFTER the goal is reached and through a few ups and downs (Holidays, reunions, party's, and other trigger moments) . . .

You've done so well and I am glad for you especially here at the holidays.

It is a great feeling to be able to say "I did it AND I am keeping it off!" Thrrrrriiiiiillllling!

s for being my friend and hoping for us both to reach another milestone, and another, and another . . . . of successful maintenance together! emoticon
(btw, this gingerbread man is inedible and thereby deemed safe for your diet.)

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_LINDA 12/12/2013 11:18AM

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Fantastic work!! Its an extra hard struggle when those who surround you and are in your circle of friends are obese. Job very well done!
Great blog! emoticon
Happy Maintaining!!

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SUSIEMT 12/12/2013 11:09AM

    Woo Hoo to you Bess! Keep up the great job! I can relate to the number of overweight people in my local community! Retiring from my job and moving from San Diego I came "home" to my home state and instantly felt at "home" with my fellow chunkies. Now I feel more at home with my new community here at SparkPeople. This year I feel more hopeful that I too will stay at goal +/- 3 lbs. That is how I want to enter the new year at goal. I have my plan and I am sticking to it! Merry Christmas Bess!

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FIFIFRIZZLE 12/12/2013 10:08AM

    Wow what an inspiration.

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MOMMY445 12/12/2013 8:23AM

    woo hoo! you are definitely amazing and inspiring! have a terrific day!

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AMARILYNH 12/12/2013 7:35AM

    I can SO relate - it could have been me writing this blog (except I didn't do WW, I did SP!) I've been in my goal range since 2011 and this is the ONLY time in my life I've felt confident I could do it! My adult life was a yoyo of weight loss/gain. NO MORE! Thanks to staying accountable to my SparkFriends I'm POSITIVE I can do it! It makes a huge difference - your IRL community may be overweight, but here at SparkPeople we have a DIFFERENT community - one that is all about health and fitness! emoticon emoticon

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TORTISE110 12/12/2013 7:31AM

    You are amazing, Bess!

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WATERMELLEN 12/12/2013 7:29AM

    What a great blog! Against all odds, slowly and steadily and surely, you've taken it off and kept it off. And WILL keep it off! Love your confidence, well-earned!

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MAMMAC66 12/12/2013 7:15AM

    emoticon blog and a big congratulations on your weight loss and for maintaining for 9 months! emoticon

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KELLIEBEAN 12/12/2013 6:07AM

    I'm so happy for you. Congratulations on your accomplishments! Let's hop into January together still at goal! I'm with ya!

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CRUISEBOUND4EVR 12/12/2013 5:02AM

    emoticon blog and attitude! emoticon on your continued maintenance and success!

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BOOKLOVINGGIRL 12/11/2013 11:27AM

  emoticon on your goodie points and new pair of shoes!

also emoticon on arriving at your goal. that's emoticon !!

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BRADMILL2922 12/4/2013 11:41PM

    You deserve your moment of braggadocio! Way to go! It isn't easy to stay at your desired weight during the holidays but you are doing it and isn't it great? Who says we have to gain a bunch of weight this time of year? Not me! NOT YOU! Be proud of yourself...I am proud of you!

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STEPH-KNEE 12/4/2013 8:21PM

    You are amazing and continue to inspire us all! emoticon

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CHRISTIECAT 12/4/2013 7:51PM

    emoticon Great job! Balance and focus!

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GETULLY 12/4/2013 5:18PM

    That is amazing!!! You Rock! emoticon

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THROOPER62 12/4/2013 10:14AM

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MSLZZY 12/4/2013 9:39AM

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KANOE10 12/4/2013 8:36AM

    That is wonderful that you are Still at Goal and maintaining so well. I am sorry about your meeting and hope that many people join in January so you can continue.

You are a true success story, overcoming family and community obesity.


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SLIMMERJESSE 12/4/2013 8:33AM

    How wonderful! Congrats

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BETHGILLIGAN 12/4/2013 8:16AM

    YAY for you!! You should be proud and excited!!!!

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WESTGATE85 12/4/2013 8:13AM

  You are AMAZING! You have inspired me!!!!

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JAROL7 12/4/2013 7:59AM

    YAY! That's my next goal, to weigh in at goal weight on Jan 1 instead of starting on a diet. If I do, it will be the first time in my adult life. I usually start a crash diet on Jan 1. I made my goal on Nov 13.

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