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What did you say?

Friday, November 29, 2013

I have been having this problem lately that people misconstrue what I am saying. I am not certain if what I am saying is coming out wrong, or if people are just so rushed and frantic that they aren't listening to what I am ACTUALLY saying. If it is my misspoken words then that is cause for concern, because that can be a warning sign for a relapse with my mental health symptoms. I will watch and see if anything else pops up. If I catch it quickly enough I can head it off. But if it is just other people not listening then there is not much I can do about that. I have noticed that a lot of people don't listen very well. Maybe it is my quiet, introvert nature that makes me want to watch and listen, or maybe it is just my low stress lifestyle that allows me the time to take my time and really pay attention. I have caught myself drifting off during conversations a few times, but I really try not to, and refocus when I notice I'm drifting. Anybody else notice this kind of thing?

I walked Cooper for an hour this morning. We got about another 4 inches of fluffy snow last night, so he was hopping through drifts, and leaping over puddles of slush. It was a real workout for him. I am just glad I finally got a new coat and gloves.
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    I suspect it is more likely people are just not really listening,
    1475 days ago
    What a great reminder to take a deep breath and be more mindful about speaking clearly. Most humans are incredibly lazy about communication!
    1476 days ago
    It is so hard to figure out people. Sometimes it is a combination of their own life issues and misunderstanding what they hear. Hope it gets better
    1476 days ago
    people do not listen.... they are so preoccupied with things in their own head or around them they do not pay attention...... don't think things are wrong with you!
    1476 days ago
    you seem to be an observant person. I tend to do things by myself and so I find myself in crowds. It's interesting to observe others who are with a group. The interaction of the group persona. I think introverts have that ability. I just need to know how to turn that into an advantage.
    1476 days ago
    I agree that people don't listen well and are especially busy and distracted this time of you. Perhaps when you find yourself in the situation where someone has misunderstood your intended message, you can ask them to repeat back what they thought you said. This is probably best done with someone you love and trust and who knows you well, so they can honestly let you know if it is a potential concern or just bad communication.
    1477 days ago
    I do that at times, so you're not alone.
    1477 days ago
    Very few people are good at "active listening" - I find myself all too often not paying attention, and I really make an effort to *listen* and hear what people are saying, not what I think they are saying! But I find that as I get older it does happen that sometimes what comes out of my mouth isn't what I meant to say, so hard to know always if it is *you* the speaker, or *they* the listener at fault!
    1477 days ago
    you are very in tune to your own health conditions and to how you fit in with the world around you. and when things don't jive you 'validate' and get feedback from people around you--very healthy ! I think this time of year, with all the seasonal busyness, focus required for bad weather driving, normal day to day stressors of the school year routine people are starting to run on fumes and just don't have what it takes to truly focus on what is being said (and not said) if it is just random people who misunderstand what you are saying it is probably not a big deal, but if people who know you well, and understand your slant on life, humor etc are missing the meaning then maybe you need to follow up
    1477 days ago
    My daughters have always told me that I never listen. They say I have a certain face when they know that I am not. Its like starring off into space. I have come to realize that the listening is basically forming an answer in my head. I have lately thou make sure that the person that is talking is now getting my full attention. Hopefully my response will be a good one. Glad Cooper and you had had a nice walk. All the snow was definitely a workout.

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    1477 days ago
    I think most people are busy forming their response so they are not truly listening. I have been guilty of this myself but like you I try to keep my focus on the other person. We do all get distracted sometimes!
    1477 days ago
    I notice that very few people actually listen. They just hear as much as they think they need to in order to respond.
    1477 days ago
    I think it is your low stress lifestyle. I am single and have a relatively low stress lifestyle too. But i sometimes don't realize how much people have going on with working, kids and activites, the holidays, etc etc. So don't take it to heart!
    1477 days ago
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