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Thursday, November 28, 2013

"At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us." Albert Schweitzer

To everyone in the Spark community, you are truly the sparks helping Sasha and I through this transition. Thank you for your incredible compassion, generosity of spirit, and love.

I enter into this day with the intention to be grateful for all I have: my amazing daughter, amazing family, incredible friends (you are all included), and my health.

Speaking of my's been a very very bumpy ride for a year now. There has been a lot of binging, a lot of self-loathing, a lot of shame for my unskillful ways of eating.

Thanksgiving for me is the perfect day to turn all of that around. I know that might sound odd to some, for it's generally a day when there is a lot of overeating of decadent foods. But I have chosen to retreat today. My daughter is off with my family and I have chosen to spend the day in reflection.

I have had about two months of large public gatherings honoring my late husband and I decided that for the next month I wanted calm, quiet time.

So I begin today, ready to nurture myself, ready to become whole again, ready to take the best care of myself that I can, so that I can then take excellent care of my Sasha.

May you all have a healthy, happy holiday. And thank you again for all of your support. It has and continues to mean so much to me.

“We think we have to do something to be grateful for or something has to be done in order for us to be grateful when gratitude is a state of being.”
— Iyanla Vanzant

I'm attaching some photos of her from a tribute concert held for my husband on Monday night at BB Kings.
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

MARYANNGI 1/24/2014 6:34PM

    Events like the passing of your DH can create strange behaviors. In the time that I was CL for the WRJ&G, I didn't see you as a binge eater. I also agree with your friend. Sometimes we give ourselves titles and they become who we are - they become larger than life. They take on a life of their own and can overwhelm us.

I also want to thank you for helping me look at me own situation differently. I was recently diagnosed with severe arthritis in my left hip and am looking at a replacement within the next 18-24 months. I let it become everything. No More!

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 11/30/2013 7:38PM


Thanks for sharing Julie.


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NEWCHINELO 11/30/2013 10:35AM

    you will come out of this,a stronger fulfilled woman!

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ALEXSGIRL1 11/29/2013 7:52PM

    what a beautiful tribute and what a beautiful daughter . I hope the next year is easier for you and you continue in peace and love and healing

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KRISZTA11 11/29/2013 4:38PM


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KANOE10 11/29/2013 11:04AM

    I hope you had a calm peaceful day. I loved the pictures of your daughter. You show such strength and determination in finding ways to heal from this difficult year. I know you will find your way. I keep you and your daughters in my prayers. You have wonderful friends here at Spark who are supporting you for each tiny step you take.

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_JODI404 11/28/2013 7:23PM


I hope that retreating for yourself today turned out to be just what you needed.

Making the time, and making yourself a priority for loving, self-care is the best gift you can give to yourself.

It's been a very long, hard year for you. I'm happy to see that you are ready to step forward now and work towards health and wellness in body, mind and spirit.

I know you read a lot. Are you familiar with Brene Brown? I'm taking her 6weeks e-course right now, and it is fabulous. As you mention shame, I think her book 'The Gifts of Imperfection' would resonate with you. It encompasses perfectionism, numbing, self love and a whole lot more.

The pictures are awesome. Sasha is beautiful and looks quite at home on the stage!

Happy Thanksgiving my friend.
Peace & love,

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MNABOY 11/28/2013 7:01PM

    My prayer for you is for peace, comfort and thanksgiving.

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MILLISMA 11/28/2013 6:55PM

    You are a truly amazing lady. You have so much insight and your blogs are wonderful. You continue to find your way through the difficult hand life has dealt you. I keep you and Sasha in my prayers .

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HOLLYM48 11/28/2013 5:28PM

    Hugs to you and prayers for healing for you and your daughter. Life throws us a lot of curve balls, it is up to us to catch them and do the best that we can or let them knock us down. Your spirit is beautiful and you will get thru this. All the best to you!

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PHOENIX1949 11/28/2013 5:04PM

    emoticon Reflection is good. I have learned much from your Blogs so know you have a large repertoire to pull from for guidance.

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 11/28/2013 4:40PM

    emoticon You and your daughter are both so beautiful. Always in my prayers.

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    I will keep you in my prayers as you continue to find your way through the changes that life has dealt you and continues to deal you. Life is a series of changes.
Hugs, Audra

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SUEPERWOMAN 11/28/2013 2:58PM

I am glad that you are wanting to take care of yourself, and it's also heartwarming to see what an indelible mark your husband made on so many, through his music and just by being HIM. You were blessed to have him, and I wish it could have lasted forever.

Happy Thanksgiving. Please take care of my friend. She is a wonderful woman.

Love, Ginger

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TINAJANE76 11/28/2013 2:32PM

    I'm so grateful for our friendship too, Julie. I know this past year has been filled with lots of turmoil, but I think today represents a new chapter for you--the beginning of a new year where you can release the troubles of your past and emerge a new woman who's confident, loving and beautiful in every way. Looking forward to being with you every step of the way.

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KRICKET4 11/28/2013 2:14PM

    Thanks for sharing your pictures. Your daughter is beautiful.
Wishing you peace on this Thanksgiving day.

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    I think it's great that you are taking some quiet time for yourself. The pics are lovely and so is your daughter... Very precious.

Happy Thanksgiving and may the coming year be one filled with great health and renewed peace for you. emoticon

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CHANTENAY 11/28/2013 1:28PM

    What a darling daughter you have. Thanks for sharing the photos. Enjoy your time in peaceful reflection. It goes far in healing and health. I always said as a mother that I need to take care of myself in order to take care of my kids.

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DOGLADY13 11/28/2013 12:02PM

    Beautiful. You sound so at peace and calm. I hope today is all you hope it would be and that you find some measure of healing and grace.

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SETTIMIA 11/28/2013 11:37AM

    Hello again

Your blog always touches me deeply, I thank you for being so in tune with your emotions and sharing with others.

I know that they help me to reflect on my own losses, the fifth anniversary of my brother is next Monday, and I feel like hiding myself away, but instead will take a leaf out of your book and celebrate his life.

You are an amazingly strong woman, never forget that

Grazie mille


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MARILYNROBERT 11/28/2013 11:37AM

    I love seeing pictures of your daughter. I wish the best of the rest of the year for the two of you. emoticon

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LCERVERA 11/28/2013 11:26AM

    Have a peaceful day. I hope it is a comfort to you today. By the way, LOVED the pictures of Sasha. She is gorgeous and it looks like she has quite a stage presence! Was your husband a musician?
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NUOVAELLE 11/28/2013 10:57AM

    Happy Thanksgiving to both you and your daughter. May your gratitude come back to you in generous servings of happiness and joy!
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WORKNPROGRESS49 11/28/2013 10:19AM

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ONEKIDSMOM 11/28/2013 10:12AM

    Good for you. May you be blessed in the nurturing YOU need today. emoticon

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WALLINMW 11/28/2013 10:06AM

  You can do this...ONE pound at a time!

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