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Dealing With Frustration

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

You've been there and so have I.

Sometimes it happens 3 or 4 times each day. We work hard, do all the right things and these little mind monkeys, gremlins, demons - Call them what you will - pop up in our paths and frustrate us to no end. Just when we think we have found the answer, the question changes, or we get sick, or hurt or simply nothing we can put our finger on happens, we just stall out.

We point fingers, mostly at ourselves. We run, swim, or cycle longer and harder. We meditate 10 minutes longer and start looking for miracle foods. We rationalize that it's natural but it's frustrating.

I'm fortunate to know Sue Frederick. I've taken a few of her classes, read some of her books and follow her on Facebook. We have a mutual friend who is sick with a chronic auto immune disease. She's a single mom, raising 3 daughters and if you met her you'd go "wow." She is that amazing.

The other day she asked for prayers on Facebook and I want to share Sue's response to the posting. In a very positive way it blew me away.

"Sometimes our task is to surrender our suffering to the divine; To go through what we're going through with love and grace and total surrender. Surrender is the hardest act - just surrendering everything to divine order. Long ago once when I was sick, a teacher said to me, "Sue if you're sick - just be sick. Surrender it to Nityananda, or the divine. Devote your suffering to God - with full and total surrender of all desire to overcome, understand or defeat it." That was the opposite of what I was doing - I'm a fighter. But those words meant everything to me and I gave myself to them completely…. "

Those words struck home to me and I wanted to share them with you. I see in my life that when I'm stuck, whether it be diet and exercise, or other issues, the easiest way to resolve the issue is acknowledge it's existence and even if for a short time, surrender to it. Our obstacles are not an indictment of our self worth. They are life and our lives come in all shapes, sizes and suprises, dont they.

If you are interested in knowing more about Sue you can find her at
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

JUMPINJULIE 12/3/2013 2:51AM

    Thank you for sharing the her response it is just what I need to read to day. So thank you.

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 11/30/2013 9:36AM

    Oh yes.

"Surrender" and "Obey"

The two words that people hear and immediately grimace with distaste.

Them's fightin' words!

We are Americans. We resist! We persevere! We overcome!

Sometimes I like to just "be" and that means "surrendering" the worlds ideals and "obeying" my own inner voice.

Your inner voice seems pretty opinionated John. I think you are doing fine and all that "work" you and I and every other frustrated soul out there does in terms of diet and exercise DOES have its benefits (even if it not getting us the washboard abs we want!)


Keep Sparking!!

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LYNMEINDERS 11/29/2013 4:04AM

    Awesome blog and so so true...
I reagularly beat myself up and am frustrated with myself because I let myself down

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NASFKAB 11/28/2013 3:39AM

  thanks for this profound thought & the link will go there once I send this all the best

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SLIMLEAF 11/27/2013 6:57PM

    An interesting thought. I'm not sure I agree with it but I'll ponder the matter.

Thanks for making me think.

Your friend


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AJDOVER1 11/27/2013 6:21PM

    thank you, John!

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GEEMAWEST 11/27/2013 6:07PM

    I like this! Will check out her website for sure.

Thanks John! emoticon

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JEANNETTE59 11/27/2013 5:07PM

  emoticon Thanks for sharing.....

Let Go and Let God emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/27/2013 4:38PM

    I found this to be true the hard way. Sometimes it's best to go to bed, rest, and pray instead of trying to do what you think you can do in order to get better. My husband does this and his illnesses are usually short lived.

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ANGELBELIEVER 11/27/2013 3:11PM

    Thanks. I'll go read more about Sue.

Comment edited on: 11/27/2013 3:12:15 PM

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KRICKET4 11/27/2013 1:07PM

    Often, the more we push the more the universe pushes back.
Surrender. Wow! (Tough pill to swallow indeed for a born fighter.)
Thanks for posting.

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PEGGY11 11/27/2013 10:44AM

    Your blog is so true. In our area there is a group who make afghans of prayer squares. Everyone ties a knot in one of the many threads and says a prayer for healing. These are given to those in need of healing prayers. emoticon emoticon

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LIFEISPURRFECT 11/27/2013 10:15AM

    "Our obstacles are not an indictment of our self worth". I love this quote. Your whole blog resonated with me as to what I was going through earlier this week. Instead of fighting with this particular obstacle, I learned to embrace the change that was occurring and I have definitely grown from the experience.

Thanks for the reminder that just because we surrender it doesn't make us weak!

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