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Emotional Turmoil

Monday, November 25, 2013

I haven't been home (Texas) in 5 years. Last time I was there was to place my father's headstone on his grave. My father died 7 years ago and it was a catalyst to my large weight gain. Anyway...heading back south to see my mother in Texas and all these emotions are starting to overwhelm me. I know people are supposed to be all excited when they go home but what happens if when you go home that is the complete opposite of how you really feel? Many, many feelings are bubbling up inside of me. I realize a lot of my emotions have to deal with grief issues. Yes, I have therapy and I think the therapy was instrumental in me turning my life around 2 years ago when I started to get healthy again. However here I am again with all the feelings RIGHT IN MY FACE! BAM!

I'd love some suggestions, if people are willing to offer them, to how to handle grief/feelings/emotionally upheaval.

Thanks for any help you can give!!
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  • BRADMILL2922
    I know it is too late now and you are back. I hope that you were able to navigate your emotions and able to enjoy your trip back some. I know it had to be hard and my heart goes out to you.

    1568 days ago
    Grief is such a difficult ocean to navigate. Everyone heals in different ways and at different times. Have you ever read C.S. Lewis' "A Grief Observed"? It's a journal of sorts through his grief at losing his wife to cancer. His vocabulary and ability to explain his emotions really gives a better understanding to some of the things I've felt in my life during moments of deep sorrow and grief. You might find it helps in some ways too. Just a thought. There's no real sure fire way to get past grief apart from just focusing more on loving those that are still with us, and loving yourself in the process. Hope you're having an amazing Thanksgiving, Melissa.
    1572 days ago
  • TREV1964
    Hi Mel,

    Whenever I return to London (The place of my birth and upbringing) I do not always look forward to going back up to Newham as much of it has changed over the past 30 years and where I grew up, so much of it simply is not there any more.

    I go up there to visit friends and to socialise with them. I do not go up there to visit graves and do not make any effort to go anywhere up there that has bad memories for me in any shape or form.

    I therefore associate a visit up to the East End of London in a relatively positive way in sense of reunion, a visit to watch a West Ham game, a concert on the south bank, a visit to the museums in Kensington, or a concert at the Albert Hall or Ronnie Scott's Jazz club in Soho.

    This keeps me associating a return to the place of my origins a general positive experience.

    I hope this suggests some ideas you may be able to use.


    1573 days ago
  • STAY39
    Good luck. I hope it all goes better and easier than expected. I hope you can find comfort in your family. Focus on all the good memories! emoticon
    1575 days ago
    1575 days ago
    ((((((BIG HUGS))))))

    It must seem very overwhelming for you. Maybe you should go see your Dad as one of the first things you do. Take with him, let him know how you are feeling and get those emotions out. It might help with dealing with the whole family get together if you have a talk with him first.
    1576 days ago
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