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Monday, November 25, 2013

As I have already written, I had a nightmare about friendship friday night. Saturday I called both friends - the woman who had been attacked by a neighbour as well as the woman I lodged wiith some years ago. Both conversations was really good and I felt energised and good about myself.

Today I have finally written a letter that I have thought about for a while now. It is anopther friend, not closed, who has been diagnosed with cancer with very small chances of surviving. Hi was the guy who summoned us to form an ukuleleband and during the years I have known him hew has also taken initiative to a little choir with us that lived at the same farm - there is about ten houses on that land and we had singers in all parts...although only one soprano and one bass... anyway, this very kind and humorous guy had been ill for quite a while, he has been diabetic (typ!) always and last year had a little stroke and know it is cancer in lungs, spread to liver and ... no goo prognosis at all, doctors did not want to do chemotherapy because it is beyond that, but he and his wife wanted it anyway in hope to get some more time together.

I am not close enough to visit - and learned that they have asked not to get any as his immune system is vulnerable. And I have thought that I wanted to write a thank you note to him for all his kindness during the years, but it feels a little morbid "I know you are dying!" and I also feel a little shy, is it my place to do that.

And then I remember the woman who sent me flowers in the midst of my cancer misery, she was not close and had no obvious reason but it made me feel good, somebody cared. So I have written the letter and I hope that it will be recieved well.

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GRAYLADY13 11/29/2013 11:27PM

    I had a friend who die of lung cancer, she wouldn't let me visit. We corresponded by email everyday and that made her happy. She had a daughter who was helping her.

I think you will for a long time be very grateful you wrote the letter. Brave of you and kind for him but you will remember and feel good about it. Never be afraid to share love, kindness, caring as it gives you back three fold what you send out. Not that we even think that when we do our acts of love, caring and kindness.

Every day I want to give love to someone, to many some ones!

Meddy you are a wonderful blessing to the world, know that and share away.

Much love to you,

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TOKIEMOON 11/25/2013 7:26PM

    Reaching out when someone is terminally ill is very difficult. I do think you did the right thing, and I'm sure it will be welcomed. Bless you for showing such compassion.

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MOTHEPRO 11/25/2013 10:41AM

    emoticon I'm sure he'll appreciate the letter.

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MAGNOLIA416 11/25/2013 9:16AM

    That was a nice gesture!

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JOYINKY 11/25/2013 8:25AM

    I know the letter will be received well; bless you for reaching out to your friends. Remembering and sharing the good times is a gift. Sad when people stay away when they "don't know what to say". emoticon

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INGMARIE 11/25/2013 8:11AM

    emoticon Random acts of kindness, I think your letter will be received well.
Have a great day and Happy Thanksgiving. emoticon

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KITT52 11/25/2013 7:08AM

    no act of kindness goes un noticed.....have a healthy day

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CHRISTASP 11/25/2013 6:49AM

    Good for you for taking these steps. Admirable.
My guess is your letter will do your friend good.

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