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Practicing Plan B

Saturday, November 23, 2013

I've been talking with a friend lately about one of my biggest struggles: using hurdles/obstacles/roadblocks as an excuse or reason to give up on something I am working towards. And what goes on in my head when I do hit an obstacle sounds something like this: See? Whenever you try to reach your goal, something always happens to stop you. You aren't worthy of achieving this goal, and this is just a sign of your unworthiness and that this path isn't for you. Might as well just give up, because you can't do this. Oh, and might as well also save yourself from this pain in the future too, by never even starting up any other goals because you aren't worthy of those, either and you will always be stopped by these obstacles/signs. I don't think all of this consciously, but in listening more to my inner dialogue more lately I am realizing how I talk like this to myself.

But after talking with my friend John about this and committing to changing this behavior of mine, I had my first test today:

Today was my second day of using the "energy lamp" that my sister bought me when moving from AZ to SD, given my depression issues. Yesterday was great; it was amazing how much it really did help with my mood/energy. So I plugged it in today enthusiastically and guess what? It died. Just like that. Poof. Dead. Aaargh!!

I felt the old thinking patterns come up, "Are you kidding me?! I find something that helps me and it dies after only TWO uses?? Crap! Must be another sign!"
But this time, I caught myself in the middle of this pissy, negative self talk and did something different: Plan B.



First I went through the manuals entire troubleshooting guide; nothing. Then I went to their website to get their phone number, but they are not staffed on weekends. Crud. Still not giving up, I went to their "contact us: link and found that I could send an inquiry directly to their company. Recognizing that the emailed inquiry won't likely be handled any faster than calling them on Monday, I sent one anyway. I didn't want to wait until Monday to give myself two full days to talk myself out of action and into giving up like I have in the past. So I sent them an inquiry that stated that yes, the unit is one year old but was only used TWICE and it is unacceptable that it died and that I expect assistance with a replacement unit.

Who knows how they respond. And I don't even care if they refuse to replace it, I will just move on to the next step by purchasing a new one...from a new company. But the point is that instead of letting it get me down and discourage me that something positive I was doing for my health hit an obstacle ALREADY, I moved on and took action.

Might not seem like much to many of you, but for me it was HUGE. The more I practice moving past obstacles in little ways like this, the better prepared I will be when I hit big ones later on, like running injuries, etc.

I am really quite proud of myself! :)
Erika





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DDOORN 12/5/2013 11:17AM

    Plan Bs, Cs, Ds etc...wonderful resilience!

Thx for swinging by my SparkPage!

Don

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HONEYBEAR1461 12/2/2013 2:10AM

    Good on you for not letting it get you into a negative thinking and acting on it. How did you go with the company? Did they respond?



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RUNNER12COM 11/30/2013 3:10PM

    Really, they only thing that can stop you is you. Once you get a handle on that, the sky is the limit!

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JUNESHOPE 11/28/2013 9:58PM

    emoticon Great job working through it.

We can do this! emoticon

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DAWNEDUK8 11/25/2013 4:31AM

    Great job! I have thought about buying one of those as well. I work part time for a doctor that suggests using them. I definitely get the winter blues as well. Keep going; action is better than reaction. I wouldn't even worry about waiting for them to get back to you. Just get another one and if you're lucky then they will give you a replacement and you will have a backup one, because you never know when one might act up. Good luck!

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REALLY_ROBIN 11/24/2013 10:53AM

  I recently bought a meditation CD that is filled with positive comments about living a healthy lifestyle. I've used it once and it was amazing. Now to get it on my IPod so it's easier to use, than my daughters clunky CD player. Combating negative self talk, I think, has to be out number one priority if we are to achieve our goals. And remembering that we would never talk to a friend the way we talk to ourselves. Which is ridiculous that we would ever do this to ourselves. I certainly hope the company rights the wrong of your defective energy lamp...but if not, you sound like your well on your way to defeating negative self talk!!! Cheers and hugs...Robin

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GYPSY145 11/24/2013 12:21AM

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Mom XO

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SNATCHCARRIE 11/23/2013 2:55PM

    Good show! Sh*t happens to us all. And sometimes it's annoying to always be dealing with something, but c'est la vie. And as your posters say, keep calm and carry on and never give up. I should really look into getting one of those lamps. I've heard great things about them. And given that it gets dark up here in Canada at 5pm now, I bet it would really help.

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NATPLUMMER 11/23/2013 2:20PM

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