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Saturday, November 23, 2013

emoticon Warning: Tough love ahead! This is from myself to myself, this is just for my accountability and will probably have no interest for anyone else but if you are that bored you are more than welcome to read it ha ha! It might be a tad harsh in places, but it comes from a good place and I'm sturdy I can take it. emoticon



So apparently the last couple of reality checks fell on deaf ears. I see a lot of talk with no action. I keep hearing the following:

"I really need to stop eating like this... emoticon "

"I need to try harder to have better days."

"I am frustrated that I keep doing this, I'll do better tomorrow..."

Funny though, the thoughts are all there, even the action plans aren't too shabby, but then day in and day out you keep making poor choices. Why are you making these choices? I think it's a mixture of a few different reasons....

I think part of it is that you are so close to your goal weight (within 30 pounds) that you are getting nervous about getting to your goal and getting to maintenance. I also know that you plan on having a tummy tuck, and even though it is something you want it is also something super scary. I mean surgery, pain?! *SHRIEKS IN HORROR* I think sometimes you prolong this whole weight loss gig because of your future plans. Well knock it off! Don't worry about what you may or may not chose to do a year from now. Don't sabotage yourself just because you are afraid to reach your goals. I know you are afraid of what might change as you continue losing this weight. You have already lost a "best friend" because of your choices to lose weight, what else might you lose as you lose the rest of this weight? Your true friends and family will love you no matter what, so just remember the people that count will always be there for you. I know you worry that you don't know how to be a "normal sized" person, but I have a feeling it really isn't much different, other than the part where it's less physically exhausting because you don't have to lug around the extra weight. No matter what being "normal sized" might entail, I know you can figure it out!

I also know that "it's the Holidays" and that you absolutely love food. But is that an excuse? Not really. There are tons of people who love food and love the Holidays and enjoy them without gaining weight. There are even those Super Stars who lose weight during the holidays. Now I'm not going to lie to you, Holiday time does present extra obstacles, but with careful planning you could overcome it, you just simply chose not to.

I didn't want to go there, but today was the perfect example. You enjoyed lunch out with your Gammie and your Mom, you even shared some dessert with them. You indulged, but that really wasn't a huge deal. You could have easily been VERY careful the rest of the day and come out with a fairly decent day... but instead you used the idea that the day was already in the toilet, so why not just eat something super unhealthy for dinner too? In fact, I couldn't help but notice that you really let your healthy habits go out the window. You didn't weigh or track your food like you normally do. I have seen you use that food scale almost everyday for a year... so I know that you know how, again you CHOSE not to.

This weight loss journey is all about choices. Each day, each meal, each workout you chose to do or not is all based on your choices. No one can do this for you. You have support, you have the best Spark Friends in the world that continue to encourage you, but they can't do the work for you. They can't prepare your meals and slap unhealthy foods out of your hands... they can't come over and stand over you while you do your workout. They offer advice and support but you need to take that and do the work.

I feel like I shouldn't be having to tell you this right now... do you realize how awesome you are? You have lost 80 pounds! Not only have you lost the weight you have done it your way, on your own terms! How cool is that? You didn't follow any plans, you found a way that works for you and you put a lot of time and effort into it. You made some bad choices along the way but you made more good choices and that is what got you to where you are. So why do you continue to make bad choices? What is the benefit you are getting? I know you think the food is yummy, and I can imagine it tastes good... but does it make you feel good? I know it doesn't because you keep telling yourself you won't continue down this path, but you keep doing it. I know you aren't quitting but is being off track for an extended period of time just a stones throw away from quitting? It just might be! I have faith in you, and I know you will snap out of this, but I just really needed to express my concern for you right now. The pounds aren't piling themselves back on but it just looks like that is where you are headed, so if I could do anything to prevent it, I had to at least try! emoticon



Okay, I'm done talking to myself now. It might seem silly but it has helped me in the past, and all I know is I REALLY need the help right now. I will always fight for this, but I really need to start winning some of the battles. I have had months at a time where this was second nature to me and so easy, and I have had weeks where it was the hardest thing I've ever done. I know if I can make it past this rough time that I will find my way back to where things come easily. I just need to do the work to get back to that happy place. :) emoticon
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LORIVIOLA 4/12/2014 8:12AM

    Thank you for sharing this awesome blog.
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GRAMPIAN 2/2/2014 5:43AM

  A good dose of common sense! emoticon

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WHITEANGEL4 1/11/2014 8:02PM

    Accepting your faults and downfall make it so much easier to move head Thanks for sharing and pointing out some of my own eaknesses and doubts

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CAROLINAKIWI 12/13/2013 4:56PM

    That is a conversation I should be having with myself - including " a whole can of whoop ass!" It just seems like I continue to sabotage myself. Hang in there! I will try to do the same.

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KIN59VARA 12/7/2013 5:29PM

    I love your pictures.

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ADF1981 12/3/2013 7:42PM

    Awww! I know you've been having a rough time with it all. It does sound like part of the issue maybe that you are afraid of the future. Just remember what you said about taking it one day at a time. Like, you may want the tummy tuck but if it scares you just maybe say you will cross that bridge when you get there. It might not be as bad as you think and you may decide not to do the surgery.

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WWGAL2 11/29/2013 9:02AM

  i just stumbled across this blog and i am so glad i did.
i needed to hear all of this for myself. i felt like you were talking to me. we know what we need to do, but sometimes we are like a stubborn little child who just doesn't want to do it.
listen to what you told yourself because it was done in a spirit of love and concern. just do it.
and thanks for sharing.

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SCRAPBECCA 11/26/2013 5:22PM

    Once again you have delivered just what I needed to hear!

I am headed to my mom's tonight to help set up for Thanksgiving dinner and I was thinking I might just stop for a snack to tide me over until dinner at her place in a hour or so. Duh, I think I can last 1 hour without a snack that would be unhealthy and would most likely lead to a full scale binge later!

So I am having some fizzy water instead and packing up my food scale . I am determined to focus on everything that I can do to lose the 6 or 8 pounds that I have put back on in the last 2 months of poor choices. And I plan to ring in the new year feeling good about all of the smart choices I made in December. emoticon

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SUNNYBEACHGIRL 11/26/2013 10:01AM

    Sometimes you just have to be honest with yourself so you can continue the journey

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WENDYANNE61 11/26/2013 7:03AM

    Gosh - that really gave me a boot up the .....! Just what I needed to read while heading towards Christmas and all its dales and valleys! Hope you get to that happy place really soon!

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KAB7801 11/26/2013 6:42AM

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But don't beat yourself up too bad!
One day at a time

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IAMAGEMLOVER 11/25/2013 9:54PM

    emoticon m emoticon I had to have one of these discussions with myself about exercising. I was off track for months. Luckily I have gone back to the gym and pool but it was difficult. Tough love is not just for our children.

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GARVCO 11/25/2013 8:12PM

    Love what you had to say about choices...that is so right.

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SCUBAMUM 11/25/2013 6:47PM

    Exactly what I needed to hear right now! We can do this TOGETHER! Don't let me down, and I won't let you down - deal?
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2ABBYNORMAL 11/25/2013 5:16PM

    Great blog!
How did you get in my head? lol
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TAYGRL 11/25/2013 5:10PM

    I find myself irresistibly drawn to your virtual "kicks in the pants". Please pardon me while I "borrow" them.

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KANOE10 11/25/2013 4:29PM

    You have developed your own eating plan and it worked. I know you will get through this rough patch and feel more motivated. Sometimes I tell myself not to be lazy and get to that gym. You can do it.
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1DERLAND14 11/25/2013 3:10PM

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DONNA91730 11/25/2013 2:26PM

    Nodded though every word. Have had the same talks with myself so many times. I'm finally doing what I need to do once I decided yes, this IS what I want. You will too.

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JENJENN7 11/25/2013 2:18PM

    Thanks for the lecture emoticon
You may have meant it for yourself only but it hits a spot!
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KLONG8 11/25/2013 1:14PM

    How relatible was this blog? It was so on the money for me. Thanks for giving yourself a talking to and sharing it for those of us out here that are in the same space. Well done!

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ANNABELLISABEL 11/25/2013 12:20PM

    I'm glad I'm not the only one who does things like this!

Good luck through the holidays!

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PGHP31CK 11/25/2013 11:35AM

    Love your blog! Thank you for sharing so honestly.

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SLIMMINGSHAY 11/25/2013 11:31AM

    Good luck. Don't lose sight of your goals


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PURPLEPEONY 11/25/2013 10:40AM

    I could`ve written this EXACT blog! I`ve lost almost 60lbs. but this past week I`ve been way off track...which is exactly what you said "just a stones throw away from quitting"
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JRTITTLE 11/25/2013 10:20AM

  Thanks for sharing and very well said! It was something I needed to hear!

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PERUSER918 11/25/2013 9:09AM

    Enjoyed your blog.

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2BSCOOBIE 11/25/2013 6:47AM

    I think I needed to hear this today! Thank you!!

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KONA509 11/25/2013 6:13AM

    Thank you--the head slap I needed this week!

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BEANIES_MOM 11/25/2013 6:02AM

    Awesome blog! I think that completing the weight loss part of this journey is about the scariest thing there is... I don't know what I will do when I get to my goal weight, but I know that it will be a whole new adventure and that scares the crap out of me lol. You are strong and awesome and capable, so don't ever forget it!

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ASCIESZKA 11/25/2013 1:21AM

    Thank you for sharing!

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BRENDA_G50 11/24/2013 10:04PM

    Are you sure this pep talk wasn't meant for us??? emoticon I'm asking that question because it really hit me up-beside-the-head like a concerned friend or mother would do when they wanted to get your attention..."for your own good".

All I can say is emoticon Thank you for posting this (even if it wasn't aimed at me personally). I really needed to hear this to get off my backside and get back to working on my program like I was a year ago. emoticon

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JAMER123 11/24/2013 9:31PM

    You could be talking about me! I have made it to 96# but not nearing my goal and will need a tummy tuck to rid myself of all the extra skin and adipose tissue!! To both of us and all the others progressing, even like the tortoise, keep up the great work!! We can all do it!!
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DIANNEMT 11/24/2013 6:41PM

    Print this out and keep it handy!! Great words to yourself!

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JSEATTLE 11/24/2013 6:20PM

  We all go through tough times. You are facing yours head-on. But don't be too hard on yourself either. This too will pass and you will be back on track soon.

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