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Another Update on My Wife

Thursday, November 21, 2013

My wife has now been in the hospital for nearly three weeks with a serious internal infection. She has had two surgeries and is now dealing with a secondary infection. Although the infection is starting to respond, progress has been slow. The biggest problem now is that she shas no appetite - not even for her favorite foods. She also has lost much of her strength and can no longer support her own weight. Doctors told us yesterday that once her infection is cleared, they will transfer her to a rehab hospital where she will stay at least 2 more weeks. While necessary, we are both tired of hospitals at this point and will be glad when she can come home.

Thanks, everyone, for the thoughts and prayers. While I am still getting some walking in every day, my nutrition has suffered. Like many of you, I don't deal with extreme stress very well. I haven't gained a lot of weight, but my weight loss has definitely come to a stop.

Thanks again!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
PEZCATHY 12/8/2013 8:24AM

    Sending hugs and prayers to both of you. I have your names on my refrigerator, so every time I pass by it I say a quick prayer for you. I am so sorry you are both suffering so. I hope you have some community support to help you out locally with every day stuff; I know you are both so tired!

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IMEMINE1 11/29/2013 10:46AM

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KSW1963 11/27/2013 11:56PM

    Bill....I just stopped by to see what you were up to and read this blog. It sounds like you are doing what you can in a very hard situation. I'm praying for you and your wife.

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DAWN14163 11/25/2013 10:42AM

    Dear Bill, I think about you and Jackie every day and keep you both in my prayers. It's understandable that your diet has been suffering - the last thing you'll want to be thinking about is healthy cooking/shopping, much easier to just grab what's handy. I know - believe me, I'm the world's biggest emotional eater! But good to hear that you are getting some gentle exercise in every day. I truly hope Jackie is able to come home again really soon, I'm sure you'll both feel much happier then.
Keeping you in my thoughts and wishing you well xx

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HEALTHYBARB1 11/24/2013 8:43PM

    Praying and hopeful that your dw gets her appetite back soon. Hospitals are no fun but so thankful that we have health care staff to take care of us when home care is not possible. Take care of yourself...not gaining weight during a stressful time is a major accomplishment!! Thanks for sharing so we can pray with you for your dw.
Hugs Barb

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IMIN2GENES 11/24/2013 8:34PM

    Thanks for the update! Still sending lots of prayers your way! I hope your wife gets her appetite back soon. Take care of you too!

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GAILSMAILS 11/23/2013 5:05PM


You and your wife are in my prayers. None of us can explain why God has given this path to the two of you. This type of stress is very hard on you so be sure to give you immune system a boost even if it is through supplements.
Take care and thank you for keeping us informed.

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EJOY-EVELYN 11/23/2013 12:59AM

    So sorry to hear all that your family has to go through at this difficult time. You're a first class winner in my book and have stepped up to the plate in so many ways. Keep your eyes on the results you're aiming to achieve and progress will once again be yours -- as are the rewards. May your prayers, and those of your friends and loved ones sustain you and give you that wonderful peace that passes all understanding. Hug, hug -- Evelyn

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SNOWFLAKELILYM9 11/22/2013 11:28PM


Hang in there. You are doing great, still working on correct eating and any fitness with all your wife is going through and you dealing with the stress and being there to support and comfort her. You are such a survivor and example of perseverance , and an inspiration to us all. I'm praying for your wifes recovery. I'm sure the rehab will really help her get her strength back. It has already helped my MIL in just a few days.


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SVELTEWARRIOR 11/22/2013 11:09PM

    Bill, I am still saying my prayers for you and your wife. I know it is a blow about the rehab but it is necessary to make her stronger. I truley wish there was something more I could do for the both of you

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LOSINGLISA 11/22/2013 8:34PM

    Hello, Bill. I don't "know" you on Spark, but I see your comments on some other people's pages and I just read about the trial you are going through. I'm so sorry your wife is so ill and that you are walking down a very difficult path. I will pray for your wife and for you as you take care of her. You seem like such a caring and concerned husband. I'm sure that is a real blessing to her. I hope you can keep up your walks for your own emotional and mental well-being.
God bless you and your wife.

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BBONET 11/22/2013 5:18PM

    emoticon Blessings to you and your wife! emoticon

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FLORIDASUN 11/22/2013 8:18AM

    Dear Bill:

I'm just so sorry to hear about your wife and this crushing challenge to you and your family. You have been a caretaker supreme and I am praying for your health and fortitude... this has been such a long and sad journey.

I am praying for you and your dear wife, God bless and keep you both safe and surrounded in his pure white light of love! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MANDELOVICH 11/22/2013 7:42AM

    I'm so sorry I missed this blog somehow and for all you and your wife are going through. It's so hard to see our loved ones suffering and seeing their bodies torture them from the inside out. May you find a wonderful hospice with lots of peace. And I really recommend the book Awakening Through Grief. It gave me a lot of insights into the beauty of dying with dignity, and how much death can teach us about life.

Thinking of you both.



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PCOH051610 11/22/2013 7:36AM


Sending hugs to both you and your dear wife. People tend to forget how hard this can be on you, the caretaker. It's physically tiring but also emotionally numbing. Nobody expects you to be a tower of strength so please be kind to yourself. That sounds selfish but your wife is going to need you long after the hospital stays so try to nurture yourself too.

Sending hugs from snowbound Newfoundland!


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JUSTME29 11/21/2013 7:50PM

    I'm so glad she is responding to treatment, but sorry that it is so slow.

I'm keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers.

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BROOKLYN_BORN 11/21/2013 6:30PM

    Successful surgery and a infection being controlled. Both good news.
Remarkable progress can be made at a rehab facility. Although not the same as home, I found it to be a good transition several times for my mother.

Keep up with the walking. I actually paced off distances through hospital corridors and parking lots during the times my mother was a patient. I found it helped.

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FITKAT62 11/21/2013 12:46PM

    You must try to focus on your health. Exercise helps you deal with stress. I also recommend a book called " 77 Questions For Skillful Living" by Michael Finkelstein. I started reading it a few days ago and find it really inspiring. It is very helpful in teaching you how to cope with stress.

Hope your wife's condition improves soon.


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KALISWALKER 11/21/2013 12:42PM

    Bill - you and Jackie are in my prayers. It's good that her condition has improved enough relatively speaking that she can leave that hospital. A few at rehab will strengthen her.

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_RAEVEN_ 11/21/2013 11:55AM

    emoticon I'm keeping you and your wife in my thoughts and sending healing thoughts and bright rainbows her way. I hope you find something to make her want to eat so she can get her strength back.
Keep us updated and take care of yourself as much as you can. In times of stress, we usually put ourselves last so taking care of ourselves is usually far down on the priority list. Sometimes just closing your eyes and hiding from the world for awhile is a big help.

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NWFL59 11/21/2013 10:27AM

    Thanks for the update on you and your wife. Both you and your wife are on my daily prayer list and I wish her a full recovery ASAP and for you to be able to maintain the results of all your previous hard work. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JAYDEE84 11/21/2013 9:45AM

    I just read your blog and went back to your past notes about your wife's health. I'm so sorry both of you are dealing with such crushing problems. Please do try to keep your own health in mind -- it's good you are able to do some walking every day. When your wife gets to come home in a few weeks, she will need a lot of help from you, and you'll want to be able to provide it. Prayers that you will soon be blessed with better and brighter days.

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JAZZEJR 11/21/2013 9:41AM

    OK, so I know this is serious, so believe me I am totally serious when I say, "Have you tried bringing her a Big Mac, fries and a shake?" That's what we do when we know the appetite needs some stimulation. Just the smell of it (as opposed to that bland hospital food) may wake up her salivary glands. It's worth a try. And I'm praying for her full recovery.

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ANDYINBC 11/21/2013 9:25AM

    Bill, thanks for sharing this update. So many of us here on a Spark really do care about what's happening for you and your DW. Yes, those hospitals can get wearisome but they do serve their purpose. I hope you two are out of there sooner than later and with much better health. Take care of yourself and keep getting those steps in. See you on the team.

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