Wednesday, November 20, 2013
Today's challenge from SparkCoach is to write down three recent accomplishments. The message is that we often focus on our failings rather than on our accomplishments. Okay, here goes:
1. I sewed a Hello Kitty fleece sleeping bag for my 3 year old granddaughter Autumn. She LOVES it. I'm told she sleeps in it for her nap and at night.
2. I completely retired. I retired at the end of March but after a month went back to work one day per week to help out while new hires got up to speed. That has been accomplished and I am discontinuing the one day a week gig.
3. I asked my brothers to do a Thanksgiving dinner for our mother and haven't taken the responsibility back.
My 89 year old mother, who is in a wheel chair and increasingly difficult to get in and out of a car, lives in a skilled nursing facility about 1 1/2 hours away from me. The facility has 3 levels of care, Independent, Assisted Living and the Skilled Nursing. One of my brothers lives in the same facility in an Independent Living apartment. The other brother lives about 45 minutes away. They agreed to do it but have been bickering about it ever since. My older daughter and her family live in the house Mom still owns which is in the same town where Mom lives. My daughter has stepped up to provide Thanksgiving dinner for her grandmother in the event my brothers don't manage to do it.
If you haven't figured it out already, I'm the one who has been looking after Mom since my Dad died 12 years ago. As time has passed, there is increasing need for me to make the trip as Mom's health is failing. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and the traffic on holidays around here is horrendous so I want to take a year off making that trip on the holiday. We began a tradition 5 years ago of doing a Thanksmas Open House. The idea was birthed out of the difficulties of figuring out how to celebrate with different arms of the family and with friends, and with the traffic challenges on a holiday day in mind. The date for this is between Thanksgiving and Christmas. We invite our extended family members and friends and ask everyone to bring a little something. That event is scheduled for Dec. 7th this year. There is a multi-use room at the facility that I was able to reserve in which to hold it this year. That solves the problem of having to transport Mom anywhere and there is lots of room for family and friends to join us! I'm excited about that as is Mom. I've purchased holiday theme disposable tablecloths and tableware with which to decorate and am planning what my food contributions will be. That way I will be sure to have choices on hand that will fit into my plan.