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Excuses

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

At one point or the other we try to enforce "no more excuses" policy on ourselves.
Probably you said that many oh so many times. Any luck?
But let's take a closer look at what "excuses" really are.
Excuses is a natural way of keeping you within your habits, think about it again.
You sit on a couch all day, that's a habit. How about going out for a walk - here come excuses.
Lets call them bad excuses, your if your habits are bad - your excuses are bad.
There are good excuses too, be patient and keep reading:)
So, one way deal with excuses is to ignore them, that's what most people, who have some sort of success, do. It's point where you think of them as an evil voice. So you hate and ignore!
Better, but much more complicated way, is to resolve them, "oh, it's too cold outside" - get a hat.
You shouldn't just ignore them, cause some excuses actually make sense:)
So, you don't hate, you resolve some of them and ignore the rest...whiny once:)
Both approaches work at first, but...here's the kicker!!!

Your habits actually change, it can take 1-2 months, maybe more, but your habits eventually change. Let me assure you that it doesn't take yours to acquire habit.
This change from just doing something into habit of doing something, that's just spectacular.
Many doubt if something become a habit, like healthy eating or working out, or just staying active. One of the best ways to figure it out - look at your excuses, they always follow your habits, if you find excuses to workout - !bam!, that's your habit...easy right?
When you habits are good, they produce good excuses, these you should embrace!

That's why first approach of ignoring excuses backfires, when your habits become good, but you still ignore your good excuses.
Good excuses is like a reward that you get from having good habits, be thankful for them, cause that's what will pull you through a rough spot of your journey.
We all have problems, they can pile up, but good excuses are on our side and they will keep us on good habits - follow them and you'll be rewarded!

Ok, most people aren't reading this so...:) where comes boring shoe lace story:)
I came to this realization many times already, but it was wage or indirect or something.
But couple of days ago it was already cold out side, a bit drizzly ... I could just skip walk, no harm done. Also had some urgent work, etc.
That's when it hit me, I'm trying to find excuses to go for a walk, for instance "days are getting colder, I would walk while it's ok", "I need shoes laces", wow...that was a lame one:)
So, I went for a hunt for shoe laces...:)
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RAZRBKMOM 12/3/2013 4:03PM

    I have really enjoyed reading your blog!! you are such an encouragement!!!! emoticon

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SUEPERWOMAN 11/23/2013 8:32PM

 

AWESOME, as always~!!~

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PICKIE98 11/22/2013 7:04PM

    I love your comparison pics!! What a great motivator!!

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KAREN608 11/22/2013 6:58PM

    I did a lot of Wii walk it out game today BECAUSE the scale was down another pound in a week, so I was hyped up so figure I better use this as an excuse to keep moving, since DH was a work again (hit and miss in the winter sometimes NONE) and he hogs the TV so now was my chance.

I went all silly and did too much and will hurt tomorrow.

So some excuses are a good thing.He'll be home so I can rest my achy body and cook meals tomorrow and he will be happy.

I sure love the people on Spark who understand these things.

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_BABE_ 11/22/2013 1:55PM

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TINAJANE76 11/21/2013 1:17PM

    Love this! Going to go suit up for the gym--no excuses for me today!

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MIA-MORSEL 11/21/2013 12:31PM

    I'm still new here so I'm very keen to exercise and don't make excuses but never-the-less I enjoyed your witty blog.........hope it's still fresh in my mind around Christmas time :)

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FIT4MEIN2013 11/21/2013 11:26AM

    Well done!

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PAULOBRY 11/21/2013 7:37AM

    It's all about the title of the blog. We all make execuses, so the blog title tends to suck us in to see if there is a magic cure!

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SLIMMINGSHAY 11/20/2013 9:42PM

    Great post! in calgary, we are in a deep freeze and I"m sick. does that count? ;)

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CRAFTINWIFE 11/20/2013 8:23PM

    emoticon (And I hope you got some fun shoe laces!)

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JENNIK2 11/20/2013 6:12PM

    Great blog!

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DR1939 11/20/2013 6:12PM

    Excellent advice. When one meets an obstacle one way to deal with it is to determine if it can be worked around. That's what you did. Good on you!

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GLITTER60 11/20/2013 5:05PM

    emoticon emoticon i bundled up and went for a walk. boy did i warm up.

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WENDENANNIE 11/20/2013 3:51PM

    Great blog Andrey! You hit the nail right on the head! Excuses can be bad...or good....so can the choices we make. Looks like you have been making significant progress with your weight loss journey. Good for you! And...welcome to the Angels Amongst Us team!

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WINACHST 11/20/2013 3:12PM

    Add me to the list of those who read your blog :-)

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GARDENQE2 11/20/2013 2:31PM

    Another name for finding excuses is inertia.....
The body at rest tends to stay at rest, the body in motion tends to stay in motion.
If it takes shoelaces to start the motion, they are a powerful thing!


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CELEST 11/20/2013 2:16PM

    Your statement said, probably no one is reading this.....seems your were wrong by all the responses you got.
By the way....give me your bank details and I will put the money in for the shoe laces LOL now you have NO EXCUSE.
Loved your blog.

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ELSCO55 11/20/2013 2:11PM

    Thanks

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WELLBEING67 11/20/2013 2:08PM

    I think this could be a new mantra: Find some shoelaces! Somebody once said that if we want to, we'll find a way and if we don't want to, we'll find an excuse. Thank you for the reminder to throw away the excuses ( and find some shoelaces!) emoticon

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INNERJETTIC 11/20/2013 1:03PM

    Ha, I think more people are reading this than you thought, my friend. Great blog. Thank you for sharing your great perspective. I think I'll file this away in my 'keep' file.

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CATLADY52 11/20/2013 12:23PM

    emoticon all it takes is putting on hand warmers and a hat and it's off we go into the fray. emoticon emoticon

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SERENE-BEAN 11/20/2013 11:55AM

    I've experienced the shoelace phenomenon, too. It's awesome.

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THINFITFEMINIST 11/20/2013 11:52AM

    Sometimes the "don't" comes up, we rationalize it we actually "don't" and we find out later that was the best thing because of what we didn't know at that time which comes about. Sometimes even involving others.

Sometimes the "don't" comes up, we rationalize it we actually "don't" and then later we feel lazy, guilty, and hopefully don't punish ourselves.

How can we tell between the two "don'ts"? We can't.

So the beat goes on, life doesn't end if we do or don't, and this is a lifestyle, not a race to the finish line.



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MOTHEPRO 11/20/2013 10:19AM

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1CRAZYDOG 11/20/2013 9:47AM

    Yes there are many times when the excuses start swirling around in the head. Sometimes there are legitimate excuses not to do something (injury or whatever), but that would be a REASON, not an excuse. So, once that's sorted out, then you have some ammo for the excuses -- no legitimate reason, we're doing it! PERIOD. Smack down with the excuses!

Great blog.



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BERTAS_JOURNEY 11/20/2013 9:40AM

    emoticon Good for you Andrey!! Keep up the great work & thanks for the wonderful reminders. It does take time to change our habits and realizing that we aren't perfect will only benefit us on this journey.

Wishing you LOTS more success on your journey!!

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COSMICWATCHER 11/20/2013 9:34AM

    Haha, nice story! emoticon
You've come a really long way and look at you, you're a much changed person now! :) :)
I'm proud of you!
So how do you plan on getting your exercise when it'll be impossible to walk outside due to extremely bad weather? emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
I wish it'll be an enormous, nice, mighty, warm emoticon for long though! ;D

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THINANDFITEMILY 11/20/2013 9:21AM

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one of the little things I do is instead of saying - I have to-
I say I GET to...which is a bit like what you are saying....or at least what I was thinking when I read it.
Keep up the good work!

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PATTYR81 11/20/2013 9:14AM

    I do the same thing! emoticon

One strategy I use is when my excuses line up, I take one as my goal and solve it. (Like your shoe laces). No pressure to do more.

After a while, I'll tackle another 'excuse buster'.

Eventually, they either all get resolved, or I'm laughing at myself and say 'Just DO it already!!~~~'

And, YES, I read your whole blog and enjoyed it!

Happy Day!
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BLUEWATER71 11/20/2013 8:22AM

    Thank you for sharing, we need this from time to time as we are always making excuses. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PATTYKLAVER 11/20/2013 8:15AM

    I read this and felt like you were somehow watching my life. Thanks for reminding me to get rid of the bad excuses.

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PYNETREE 11/20/2013 8:05AM

    emoticon Great Blog. Thanks for Sharing.

You are right ~ talk back to those excuses, calling them what they are ~ LAME!

Keep on pushing forward!

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MELISSIMAUS 11/20/2013 8:02AM

    Lots to think about!

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SWEETNEEY 11/20/2013 7:48AM

    Sparkpeople radio has a segment on the body and mind - one thing I remember is she says if you tell yourself your not tired, you can make it true, so the body and the mind are interwined - it's like excuses - you can make them to do good or to do nothing. Nice blog.

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NELLJONES 11/20/2013 7:40AM

    Remember when you were learning to drive? The first time you came up to an intersection you probably stopped 20 feet before the stop sign. An instructor was there to tell you how to properly manage a car on a road. You had to consciously practice because you really really wanted to learn, to get it right. Excuses would lead to accident, injury, a lot of grief, so you developed the habits that you no longer even think about. With weight loss, there is no immediate outside threat to avoid, it's completely internal. When you want to lose the weight as badly as you wanted to learn to drive, you'll be able to get past the million daily opportunity to give yourself permission to postpone what you want.

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GRACIEGOES 11/20/2013 7:36AM

    Thanks for sharing. It's a very good way to look at things. Listen to the excuses and filter the useful things :)

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KELLIEBEAN 11/20/2013 6:43AM

    It is certainly amazing when we realize how are habits change. All it takes is once day at a time. Easy and hard but so worth it.

Great blog. Love the shoe lace bit!!

Congratulations on changing your mindset and your habits. You are working very hard and it's paying off. You are making things happen.

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TENNISJIM 11/20/2013 6:40AM

    Well said and thank you for sharing

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NUTRON3 11/20/2013 6:25AM

    Hey, I read it, and I enjoyed reading it

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BABYSOX 11/20/2013 6:18AM

    Interesting perspective. emoticon

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PATSYB7 11/20/2013 5:55AM

    Isn't amazing how we can talk ourselves in or out of things? Yesterday my excuse was that it was too windy. Today it is very cold but I'm going to bundle up and go for that walk.

Thanks for your insightful blog. Keep up the good work!
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