Tuesday, November 19, 2013
Thanks to all who gave me your insights on yesterday's blog. I appreciated it all: there is a lot of collective wisdom out there and thank you for sharing it with me.
I think those of you who suggested that there was a larger context at play were spot on. This guy is well known in the department for stabbing people in the back, so even before he opened his mouth it was true that I wasn't overly fond of him and that I didn't quite trust his intentions.
I also think that those of you who suggested I was having a bad day were right was well. Not that day in particular, but it is that time of the semester when all of us - faculty and students - are feeling the stress. If I am to be honest, I will acknowledge that this guy is also under stress.
But the revelation for me came this morning when I woke up and realized that I misreported what he said to me. It came to me that what he really said was not
"You look like you've lost weight."
"You look like you're losing weight AGAIN."
And I guess my subconscious brain picked up on the negative implications of that "again" .... as in "I've seen you do this before and gain it back." And that irritated me.
Which brings me to my last set thank-you's. To PAPAMIKE, HEALTHIERKEN, BATCHICK and the others who suggested that I assume the best when interpreting someone else's remarks, let me say thank you so much. That is what I do when I'm at my best and it is the kind of person I always aspire to be. As you see, I don't always meet those standards, but I keep plugging away at it.
So, I'm going to assume the best about this guy's remarks, and even if I'm wrong about that, I'm going to keep the weight off this time. Heck, in a little while, I'll be thinner than this guy!
Spark on, my friends.