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Getting to Yes

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

I really hoped my trip to see my daughter and meet her fiance would ease my mind about the upcoming wedding. OMG, I am so not there yet! I need a plan to get to yes and reach acceptance on this thing! I am going to speak with his mom and see how she did it.

Something my daughter said really bothered me, "things move fast in the military." You don't say? When you move in with someone shortly after your first date? Yes, that is fast. What bothers me most is that I know her. Her operating mode is to take the path of least resistance. I want her to find happiness on her own terms. I think she may sometimes settle because it is easier.

I have to come to terms with this...and soon. I fear for the worst because I want only the best.
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    Your a Mom that's a natural feeling. Hopefully you'll get there.
    1556 days ago
  • ---CEEG---
    I don't know the full situation but I'm going to tell you my story and maybe it will help you find a middle ground with your daughter before it is too late.

    When I got engaged my mother gave me all kinds of "advice" I was too young (older than she was when she got married), I didn't know him well enough, He was just interested in what was in it for him, etc.... She flat out told me she didn't think it would last 6 months. I got tired of fighting with my mother over wedding stuff. I walk out of her house one day, called city hall and made an appointment to get married by the county clerk. Jeff (my husband now) made me at least call and tell my mother what we were doing. She showed up at the ceremony and in every picture taken she has a sour face.

    I've been married over 20 years now and still can't imagine a life that doesn't include Jeff. My mother has never apologized for what she did or said. I don't think I will ever be able to forgive her for ruining my wedding, I never got the wedding of my dreams surrounded by friends and I blame her for that.
    1557 days ago
  • GRACE1054
    As a mother of 3 daughters, I feel for you. I hope you can get to a point of acceptance, if not an all-in "yes".....your daughter will need you.
    1557 days ago
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