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More sad news regarding my friend Cora

Saturday, November 16, 2013

I do want to thank all of you who prayed for Cora a few weeks back after she was told she had brain cancer. I was pretty sure that things would only go downhill. At this time she is in hospital with no chance of recovery. Her doctors were hopeful, but since I had some personal experience with this (family members and friends) I knew that once the cancer had spread to her brain, she would have a short time left. She was in hospital a couple of weeks ago with breathing problems and they put her on steriods. She went from 90# to 98# in a week. Talking to her son Marcus today, he said she was now 115#. All swollen up and her feet were larger than his size 13's. I am just heart broken for the whole family.

I really want to go to N.Charleston, S. Carolina and see her b/4 she passes. The plane fair is very high because there are no direct flights, most have 1 if not 2 stop overs and being so close to Thanksgiving the price would be over $1000 with tax. Fly to NYC then south to Charleston, fly to Chicago, connect to Atlanta, then Charleston, fly through Huston then Atlanta to Charleston, you get the idea. Of course the price would come down if I booked a couple of weeks in advance but the family doesn't really know how long she will be able to hang on. She has signed a DNA. What a mess! My husband would pay for me to go, but then I would need a rental car and motel to stay at. Ouch! As much as I want to go and I really do want to go. I can't justify the money when we just got out of debt. I am so sad and just bummed out so completely. Today was not a good day.

I hope whoever reads this understands my need to vent about this and although this doesn't have anything to do with diet or nutrition, it has made me feel a bit better to talk about my feelings. Please pray for her and her family. emoticon emoticon

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    Oh Terri, I am so sorry that you find yourself in this situation, but with you being such a dear friend to her, she would know that you would be thinking of her with love and care. She knows that you love her. I hope that this can comfort you sweetie. emoticon emoticon emoticon Karen
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    Comment edited on: 11/19/2013 12:08:36 PM
  • DANLIN60
    I am so sorry for you Terri that you cannot be with your friend in her time of need. Is there a way that her family can set up Skype so that you may sit with her in her hospital room via Skype and say some comfort words to her since you can't be there in person? Just a idea I had. I will pray that the Lord doesn't let your dear friend suffer and that He watches over you. My prayers are with you, Terri and with Cora.

    1525 days ago
    So sorry to hear that she is not expected to live long but you are right that once it goes to the brain it is only a matter of time. As for her swelling up that is also from the chemo. I know because that is what happened to my husband when he went through chemo and it got worse before he passed. Will be praying for the family and you too. I see that she is wearing a cross and I take it that she knew the Lord. One day she will be alive in a better body and That day is a day of rejoicing in the Lord.
    1527 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/17/2013 9:10:24 PM
    I am so sorry to hear about your friend, Teri. I pray that her passing will be swift and painless.
    1527 days ago
  • _LINDA
    Oh No Teri, that is so very sad :( But you are right, once the cancer is in the brain there is no hope :(( I have known four people who died from it within six months of diagnosis. That is horrible the cost and convolutions of trying to get a flight. So sorry its not possible for you to find a way to see her before it passes.
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    1527 days ago
    Do what you need to do. NO REGRETS.I am praying.
    1527 days ago
    I'm so sorry your friend has to go through this. I will be praying for Cora and her family.
    Don't feel bad about venting, I understand how you feel. Distance makes it hard.
    1527 days ago
    Oh Teri, I am so sorry! I know Cora knows you would be there with her if you could. I lost a close friend recently and he understood why I could not come to see him before he died. That is the beauty of friends.... They know. It may not be directly diet or fitness related, but any stressors affect your health and this is a huge stressor! I will keep Cora and her friends and family and you in my prayers. Cora knows you would be there in person if you could and she knows you will be there tied to her heart as it stops! She knows you love her and she loves you.... Again, that is what friends are all about! Peace to you!! Hugs, Melissa
    1527 days ago
    We have to vent some time so that is ok. emoticon
    1527 days ago
  • JAMER123
    Teri, we all need to vent and totally understand as I am sitting with a situation that I would like to vent but can't. It weighs heavy on the heart when one knows a dear individual will not be with you soon. We can pray for you and for Cora and her family and may God help all who know her pray for an easy passing.
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    1527 days ago
    Teri, I am praying for you and Cora! emoticon emoticon
    1527 days ago
    So sorry for your friend, Teri, but I am sure she doesn't expect you to come and wouldn't want you to feel guilty about it or put your family in financial hardship. She does not sound in good shape, that's for sure. I am glad that you blogged about this, as it helps you to release these feelings of sorrow and loss. Prayers headed your way for you, going through this, as well as for Cora and her family and this difficult time for them. emoticon emoticon
    1527 days ago
    I am so sorry for your friend, her family & your desire to go see her. My brother in California has cancer & it is so awful being 3,0000 miles away.I just cannot pick up & go when I want to. The only thing that is left is prayer, I will be praying for everyone. Take care
    1527 days ago
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