How coffee cake is like the gym...kinda
Friday, November 15, 2013
I always read and repeat to anyone who will listen, "Everything in moderation." Because elimination leads to deprivation which leads to bingeing. So if I only have a LITTLE of something, I won't feel deprived and want to binge on it. And I don't want to feel like I'm too strict with my dietary requirements and I want to be able to enjoy myself when I'm at a party, blah blah blah.
So I got to thinking...where is the line between moderation and deprivation? If it were up to me, I’d be eating donuts every day. I feel deprived if I don’t eat donuts. Or brownies. Or coffee cake. ESPECIALLY coffee cake. I can’t help but feel like I’m missing out on something, especially when other people are eating those things and I’m not. So technically, I feel deprived. Of cr@p food. A LOT.
And then I got to thinking, how can “moderation” be quantified? Donuts, brownies, and coffee cake are all delicious. But how can I eat EACH of those in moderation. If I have a donut on Monday, a brownie on Tuesday and coffee cake on Wednesday…I’m pretty sure THAT will have negative consequences. So really, I need to pick one of those things and eat THAT in moderation. But then I’m deprived of the other things.
Deprivation is inevitable for me because of the relationship I have with food. Moderation for me means eating things very infrequently – once a month or less. No, “I’ll just have an ounce of chocolate every day” for me. I have to deprive myself because for me, MODERATION leads to bingeing. I have no middle ground – it’s an issue I have in multiple areas of my life. It’s easier to cut things out than to eat them here and there. I schedule cheat days when I can eat whatever I want and not feel guilty and then go back to my regular routine the next day. Like Thanksgiving - my thought process is that if I eat well up to that day, pigging out that day, which I’m going to do anyway, won’t be as big a deal. And then the next day, I’m back on track. That way I have a goal and something to look forward to.
So...I rescind my advice that moderation is for everyone. Not eating coffee cake for me is like pushing through a really hard workout. It's tough, but in the end, the rewards are sweet (pun intended).