Wednesday, November 13, 2013
I haven't met too many people who hate Thanksgiving. We have so many lovely things to associate with it. We get to reflect and think about what we are thankful for, be around family and friends, and eat! For the cost of a meal, we have a lovely day together.
When I began this weight loss journey, I actually thought ahead to the holiday season because I knew I would be still working on the weight loss portion of the journey. I decided immediately to allow myself the ability to eat whenever and where ever and whatever I truly wanted to eat as long as I did so with a conscious mind and knew it was not long term. So far, that strategy has worked really well for me and I have not deviated from the plan. There was something truly liberating to know I gave myself to blessing to eat anything I just felt like I really wanted and that I would do so without feeling remorse or guilt.
So, Thanksgiving came to mind and I gave myself to enjoy the day as I wanted to. As the date actually approaches, I am not finding myself tempted to pile my plate high with food. All my non-weight benefits has been so positive as well as the weight loss benefits, I don't want to slow it down. On the other hand, I have decided exactly what I want to eat that day and how much I want to eat and I am going to do it. I want a nice salad, some turkey breast, and a small amount of cornbread dressing. I am not wanting or craving a dessert at all. That really is it. The other day my son asked me if I would eat some cake if he made one (he bakes really good homemade cakes). I told him that I did not want any but if he wanted to make a cake, he could, I just didn't want any and I truly do not. I love sweets but I am so lucky not to crave them. The foods I crave badly, I know I am going to do my best to avoid them forever because they trigger things in me I don't want to trigger. There are other goodies that I am certain I am limit and do fine with those things. We all have our triggers and the wise person learns that they can't handle them any better than an alcoholic can just have one little drink or a drug user pop one tiny drug. I probably want those trigger foods as much today as I ever did and as much as an addict wants their addicting substance. Sigh...it would be so nice if that craving would go away forever. I do wish I could have ...just one, but even thinking about it makes me crave it and if I had it, I am only deceiving myself and that deception will start a slide that will be so hard to stop and reverse. It only took me about 40 years to learn this lesson to the point where I can practice it.
I think it is good to have something you find tasty and enjoyable and something that will help you focus on the blessings of the holiday. Life is life and we should be able to enjoy it every single day.