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Twelve days out and still dealing with the rebel

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Lazy, lazy, lazy all weekend long.

I went back and had a chat with the teenager inside and the one-word diagnosis was "overwhelmed". Too many loose pieces/tasks/priorities.

There are twelve days left... 9 'til flight day... and I'm not "in the groove". Oh, better than at the worst, but still not up to Polly Perfectionist's standards. I won the battle of the grocery store and did NOT bring home chips or ice cream.

It has dawned on me that Polly and the Rebel have a long history with one another. Polly promised the Rebel that she (Polly) would make her (Rebel's) life better somehow. Polly lied, 45 years ago, and continues to spread those lies even today. Rebel could NEVER live up to Polly's standards.

Rebel's original solution was not better... she went 180 degrees the other way, pouting and saying "I don't CARE, I don't CARE!"

But like most rebellious teens... she DOES care. She wants a good life. She just doesn't always want to do "in the moment" what needs to be done. At times she is not even aware of just what needs to be done.

So... back to one decision at a time. Kindness to the Rebel inside. And release of Polly's standards.

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MJZHERE 11/15/2013 11:51AM

  Perhaps something is in the air - also been trying to figure out what is this life of mine going to look like. And I too realized time to sort just like you ("Too many loose pieces/tasks/priorities.") For me I have had to clarify what is my main goal in life, the number one priority. I am realizing that to make it the number one priority, some other things may need to go. This is indeed a process...

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MSLZZY 11/14/2013 10:28PM

    She's a feisty one but I think you'll get her back in line with a little gentle persuasion. HUGS!

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MOBYCARP 11/13/2013 7:37PM

    I don't have quite the same internal personalities you do, but your description of how they interact sheds light on some of my internal struggles. Managing the motivation and who's in charge are frequently bigger challenges than simply doing what needs to be done is.

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ROXYZMOM 11/13/2013 6:39AM

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OVERWORKEDJANET 11/13/2013 5:38AM

    Since when did you become me?
Seems like we are all one in this sisterhood of the too tight pants.
Keep your chin up.
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COCK-ROBIN 11/12/2013 9:33PM

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GABY1948 11/12/2013 8:47PM

    GREAT and insightful blog, Barb! Can't wait for you to run with SLENDERELLA61...be sure to have lots of pics taken for us! You are both my favs!

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SLENDERELLA61 11/12/2013 7:51PM

    Sorry it is such a struggle. What works for me is to just keep trying. Sometimes I start over 6 days in a row or 6 times in one day. But I've found as long as I don't quit trying, something happens and it clicks and I'm back. Best wishes for finding your way back to healthy, happy living! See you soon. It'll be fun no matter how long it takes us!!

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WATERMELLEN 11/12/2013 6:48PM

    My rebellious patches can be pretty persistent too, especially when I push myself too hard. Co-opting the rebel . . . recognizing the rebel . . . and giving the ol' rebel some of what she demands and deserves, love and respect and admiration even (because we wouldn't have achieved what we have without our rebel): yeah.

Rebel costume for the race with Marsha???

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BLUENOSE63 11/12/2013 5:05PM

  You are my shero Barb and you can tell that to both Polly and Rebel! emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 11/12/2013 9:24AM

    ((((HUGS))))))

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CELIAMINER 11/12/2013 8:53AM

    Striking a balance is so hard. Good luck reining in those two extremes.
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JANEMARIE77 11/12/2013 8:20AM

    sounds like a good plan take lots of deep breaths and maybe write a list that can help me stop all the voices in my head all will be well breath

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KALIGIRL 11/12/2013 7:59AM

    Here's to emoticon to the Rebel and remembering every day is emoticon
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MJREIMERS 11/12/2013 7:57AM

    A little rebel is good for us, if they rebel the "right" way! See if you can get Polly to quiet herself and get Rebel to get out there! Once Rebel remembers how that exercise feels, she'll be right back in there. It only takes one time!

I normally say, "Hang in there." However, since hanging out is what you've been doing, I'll say, "Get out there and rebel against hanging out." emoticon

Mako

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THINFITKINDVGAN 11/12/2013 7:51AM

    Brilliant solution! It takes time as you know to quiet the rebel inside. Progress not perfection right?

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Karen

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