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My Wonderful Father Died 12 Years Ago Today

Monday, November 11, 2013

I miss him every day. He was the wisest, kindest man in the world, and he loved me without reservation. My mother was the critical one, my father was the accepting one. He was firm about certain things, though, like frugality, perseverance, kindness. He taught me about caring about the natural environment long before that was a social concern. We used to go for long walks in the woods and he made me learn birds by sight and song, and to identify trees by bark and leaf. He taught me about the constellations, how to read the night sky. He was a chemist, having put himself through three degrees. Every night after dinner he'd start writing equations on napkins, teaching us what he loved, and it all made sense. He could say in 10 words what others took pages to say. He passed on the wisdom of his father and grandfather, and the words they had learned from their grandparents. He had a hard life. He was stricken with polio when he was 3, and he could never use his withered left arm. That was back in the day when employers didn't have to deal with "cripples", but DuPont was happy to hire him, and he spent 35 years with the company, years he enjoyed immensely. We take that kind of opportunity for granted today, but he was grateful and taught me gratitude.

I am grateful every day that he was my father. I remember his words every day in one context or another, and have passed them on to my children and their children.

And oh how I miss him!!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
NOMIS1 12/4/2013 10:46PM

    What a lovely tribute to your father. Thanks for sharing your memories.

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ZEEDRA 12/3/2013 6:29PM

    Just checking off "subscribe to this blog"

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SLIM4LIFE09 11/22/2013 9:26AM

    He sounds like an amazing man and father! What a beautiful way to remember him and share. emoticon

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LESLIESENIOR 11/16/2013 5:38PM

    What a beautiful remembrance of your dear father. He is definitely still alive in your heart and the hearts of your children and grand children.

My dad has been gone 10 years this December. I feel the same way about him. He was sober 23 years before he died and was such a positive role model for me.

Thank you for sharing your story with us all!

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TOKIEMOON 11/14/2013 11:38PM

    I can feel your deep love and admiration. How blessed you were to have him in your life for as long as you did. Your father will always live on in you, and may you always be blessed with warm memories.

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KAYYVAUGHN 11/13/2013 7:28AM

    Nell, I know how you feel. My dad died 5 years ago, and we had a special bond. When I go home, I still feel sad. When he was well, he would be sitting on the front porch waiting for us. Later he would be sitting in the living room in his chair. He always made me feel special.
I'm trying so hard to build a relationship with my mother, but it will never be the same.

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GABY1948 11/12/2013 7:13PM

    What a wonderful tribute to your father. That was beautiful.

When I saw the title of your blog I was taken father died 14 years ago the 17th of this month. Your dad and my dad could have been brothers. My dad was really my mom too...he was the one I sat on his lap each week (or however frequently they came out) and read me Little Lulu comic books from cover to cover. My mother also was the critical one and she was never a real mother (long story).

Thanks for making me think about my dad and those times by remembering your dad and sharing it with us! Wish I could have met your dad too.

Have a great night!

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CAT-IN-CJ 11/12/2013 3:07PM

    Glad you have such wonderful memories of your Father.

My dad's been 5 years and I sure do miss him too.
Looking forward to a reunion one of these days!

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TENNESSEEWALKER 11/12/2013 12:56PM

    Thank you for sharing your memories of your wonderful father. emoticon

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AJDOVER1 11/12/2013 12:31PM

    How blessed you are to have had him in your life. How blessed we all are that he continues to live in you.

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ZEEDRA 11/12/2013 10:34AM

    Great memorial!

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RGRONER 11/12/2013 9:54AM

    I think one of the greatest things you can leave in this world is a daughter who was inspired to write something like this 12 years after you're gone. I can only hope to leave such a legacy. He would be very proud of you.

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CELIAMINER 11/12/2013 9:33AM

    Lovely tribute to a great man! You are fortunate to have had such a caring father.

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SUZYMOBILE 11/12/2013 9:32AM

    He's obviously still with you every day, Nell. What a lovely tribute!

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REGILIEH 11/12/2013 9:01AM

    Very sweet!

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KENTUCKYWOMAN 11/12/2013 7:34AM

    Keep those memories alive always. It sounds as if you had a wonderful Father.

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LADYRH 11/12/2013 6:33AM

    Great memories are a joy we keep for ever

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NASFKAB 11/12/2013 4:32AM

  thanks for writing what I feel about mine lovely tribute to a great man all the best
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--KREN 11/11/2013 9:18PM

    You're so fortunate to have a father who gave you such wonderful memories.


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PINKNFITCARLA 11/11/2013 9:09PM

    emoticon What a nice tribute!

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TRAVELGRRL 11/11/2013 7:57PM

    What a lovely tribute. His goodness and kindness, and love of nature live on thru you. emoticon

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OURELEE1 11/11/2013 7:49PM

  He must have been a great man. Sounds like you had wonderful childhood Thanks for sharing

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FISHINGLADY66 11/11/2013 7:10PM

    This was a beautiful tribute to your father. Keep those memories close.

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KENDRACARROLL 11/11/2013 6:22PM

    What a beautiful way to remember your father.

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