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Need honest feedback, please!!

Sunday, November 10, 2013

Last night was our local Republican party's annual Regan Dinner. It was western themed and soooo much fun. Today I am going to be vain and self-absorbed. I am thankful for all of the admiration that I received last night.

Last year, I was feeling pretty good because I had lost 53#. I had numerous people comment on it and it felt good! Here is a pic of me last year.

Last night, men and women around the room were grabbing me and congratulating me, telling me how good I looked and asking about how I lost the weight. Many did not even recognize me. One woman started crying when she saw me.

While I am flattered and thankful for all of the attention, I looked at last night's pictures and have decided that I am not where I want to be. In fact, the side shots of me make me feel like I look 'fat' still.

I am considering setting my goal for another 14# down, perhaps more when I get there. I need some honest feedback on this, because it is impossible to see myself. Right now, I am only 3 pounds from my lowest adult weight. Looking at these pics, what do you think? I am 56 years old, if that makes a difference.

EDIT: I am in my 'normal' weight range at this time.... It is hard to make the leap to feeling right in your body. emoticon


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CAT-IN-CJ 11/11/2013 6:59PM

    I think you look great right where you are.

HOWEVER, it might be well to ponder your thoughts and the reasons you think you might want to lose more weight. . . . .

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COLOR-BLUE 11/11/2013 12:28PM

    You look emoticon !!! However, that blouse has to go!! The blouse doesn't flatter your body, as clothes should. It just isn't right. Please make sure you take someone with you when you go shopping, so you'll be able to have an objective opinion, other then what you see in the mirror!!!

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -

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JANTHEBLONDE 11/11/2013 11:20AM

    I think you look great!! If you feel you would like to lose a few more pounds....then go for it! But you really do look GREAT!!
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NEVERGIVEUP57 11/11/2013 10:38AM

    I personally think you look great. I think sometimes in our own mind's eye we still see the fat person we were...I know when I was down to 130 regardless of what people said I felt fat and thought I looked fat.

Work on the mindset that you are looking great!!! and for so many people to acknowledge this emoticon

Please take a better look at your look fantastic!

If you feel 14 more pounds will make you feel healthier than I say go for it, but perhaps check with your doctor first if you are already in your normal weight range.


p.s. sometimes if we lose too much we will look older as our facial skin shows more wrinkles...

Comment edited on: 11/11/2013 10:42:18 AM

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ISPARKLE77 11/11/2013 9:09AM

    emoticon , you look fabulous and trim. I think at our age we don't want to lose to much or our skin will not look smooth. It will show more wrinkles. My vote is to maintain. The two of you look so cute together. I love your hats. emoticon

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FLORIDASUN 11/11/2013 8:29AM

    I can tell from the little bit that I know you that you are a woman on a mission. You have the same type of drive and determination that I do and sometimes that can be a wonderful thing for us and sometimes it can border on what some may term obsessive. I just wish I had as much drive and determination toward my body image as I do on my work ethic.

I honestly think that if you lose more weight that you will lose your skin tone and start to look drawn. I have many friends that think skinny as a stick is a good our age it is not. We need some fat stores to keep our cheeks looking smooth and soft and not drawn and full of lines.

I think you look absolutely STUNNING and very trim. I'd put that determination into skin care and pilates or yoga to tighten and smooth...I think if you lost another 14 pounds it might be over board...but of course it's your body and your choice.

Remember with winter coming your little bones are going to be VERY cold with no padding at all...burrrrr!

Lots of love and BIG support and respect for how far you've are a beauty for sure and a shining role model! emoticon

Also remember too...that the camera adds a few pounds to your frame and you may be thinner in person than what you look like in your pics! emoticon

Comment edited on: 11/11/2013 8:30:50 AM

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DONNABRIGHT 11/11/2013 7:26AM

    I think you got your honest feedback! Do what makes you feel good about yourself - that is what matters!

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MISSRUTH 11/11/2013 6:56AM

    I'd have to agree with the pp's. Better bra. More flattering blouse. And the scale is only measuring the effect of gravity on our body mass at any one particular moment. It says nothing about body fat percentage or lean muscle mass or anything else. I'm 58-- I think we need to cut loose of comparing our bodies now, to whatever we may have weighed at any other (younger) time and look instead at what our goals are now. I'd agree that it's silly to diet down to a particular scale weight, that is too hard to maintain. Only YOU can judge what is or is not, too hard to maintain. Sometimes too, there is the underlying thought (though it's incorrect) that if we only weighed less, we'd be perfectly proportioned and look like all the women we see in magazines. Genetically I was "blessed" with heavy thighs.... and no amount of dieting and losing weight is going to get rid of them. Sure they're not *as* flabby now that I'm in the healthy range of the BMI, but short of liposuction, they will always be heavy (proportionate to the rest of my body).

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TERI-RIFIC 11/11/2013 6:38AM

    I think you look fantastic!! You and your husband look so cute together. I love the hats! You both look really , really happy, too. All I can say is there are times when I;ve been thin and looked in the mirror and saw fat. Also I've been fat and not seen HOW fat I was. You have a lovely face and one thing over 50's have to think about is looking haggard if we get too thin. For what it's worth, when I look at the pictures I see a normal weight woman a little bit on the thin side.

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MONTANAWALKER 11/11/2013 2:50AM

    OK Jaynee, You asked for it. Buy a better bra! Look at the first picture in the "new series" The blouse is too tight across the bust and your "boobs hang low". Get a new, more supportive bra and a better fitting blouse and then take a sideways shot. You look great. And remember that it isn't the number on the you want to firm up what you've got?? Would that make you feel better...or is it really about the number on the scale for you?? Would anyone else know what the scale said? Is it about pride and vanity to say, "I lost 105 pounds or I lost 119 pounds."?
TIME2BLOOM4ME had a great poster on her blog several months ago. It read something like this: "The scale can only give you a numerical reflection of your relationship with gravity. THAT'S IT!!! It cannot measure BEAUTY, TALENT, PURPOSE, HONESTY, INTEGRITY, POSSIBILITY, STRENGTH OR LOVE."
You're an intelligent woman. You'll figure it out!!

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LESLIE_2B_LESS 11/11/2013 2:01AM

    OK - I will be really honest here - that sideways shot - your blouse is bunched up because of your breasts and your husband's hands over your middle. A more tailored blouse may show your figure better - this blouse looks to be too big for you. So I can not say whether you need to lose more weight or not, but I think you need to think more about what will make you happier and more confident with yourself. emoticon

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HDHAWK 11/10/2013 10:11PM

    I think you look good right now. Remember not to go so low that you have to fight to stay at that weight. You want to be able to enjoy yourself some too. Go with what feels good and is a weight you can maintain.

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MTRACHEL 11/10/2013 9:37PM

    HONESTLY, I think you look great! Whatever you do, it's important to find a weight you can live with. To me that's one where I feel good about myself and I don't feel like I'm always on a diet. I also think it's good to learn how to maintain weight and to learn to look at ourselves and see the whole this case the beauty of you shines through all of you. That's what I see.

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DIANNEMT 11/10/2013 9:32PM

    If you are still feeling "good" in 14 pounds, then that is fine but--if it is too hard to maintain that, then it is too low. You look good--the "sideways" shots ALWAYS look heavier! LOL

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M0MTH3W1TCH 11/10/2013 9:16PM

  Congratulations! You look amazing. Keep up the good work. Sometimes you need to take a step back and take a good look at what you have accomplished. They say after you lose weight you sometimes have a hard time accepting your new look and you still see yourself as fat. Only you know what your body will and will not do. Feel comfortable with yourself and you will look and feel even more amazing!!!!!

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EMMACORY 11/10/2013 9:12PM

    You look amazing. emoticon with the other comments about knowing yourself and deciding whether you want to go lower. emoticon

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    You are looking great, but you know your body better than anyone.

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    You look wonderful.

Yes a few more pounds could be an ok thing to do but not a necessity.

Why not simply continue on your path and see where it goes.

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NANCYPAT1 11/10/2013 8:08PM

    I think you look amazing too - I wouldn't even begin to tell someone else when to stop or to lose more. What is the "ideal" weight that is recommended for your height and build? I would continue to eat healthy foods, in reasonable and appropriate quantities and if you lose, good - if not, then at least you are looking and feeling awesome already.

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LILLEAN 11/10/2013 8:00PM

    If you feel that your body can go on for another 14 lbs then go right ahead as long as its not harmful in any way. Just listen to your body. I would suggest go for the first five lbs first and then see how you feel by then; if you still want to reach for the other 9 then I support you.

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TERRY0217 11/10/2013 7:59PM

    You have done an amazing look great!

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SDEHNKE 11/10/2013 7:58PM

    Honestly? I think you're gorgeous. Another 14 pounds and you might be too thin. But it has to be whatever you're comfortable. with. emoticon


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