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I have lost my Mum

Thursday, November 07, 2013

She died on Monday October 14th, early in the morning.
I saw her just the day before she passed away.
We flied from LA on Saturday, arrived in Paris on Sunday morning, took the TGV straight away and saw her in the afternoon.
She had been in coma since Mon Oct 7th.
The nurse told me that in her state, somebody else wouldn't have lived more than 5 days.
I was told in America and in France that she was waiting for me.
I believe it.
I talked to her in her ear. I believe that people in coma can hear you.
(My brother must have told her to wait for me, I suppose).
She would have been 90 on December 31st (it is always an easy birthday to remember !...)

We saw her like my Dad every summer for about 3 months for 14 years.
2 months this year.

She will keep me busy.
She wants me to go to ballet classes.
She wanted me to swim.
She would like me to go back to school.
She wanted me to be always elegant... we live near the beach here...
She liked me to have make up on... I tend to only do it when we go to the Theater...

She was a good Mommy.
She was not perfect (but nobody is) but did her best.
She was too often too strict (she missed a good sense of humor)... she was born in Poland. She was 6 when she came to France with her family. She had 5 younger brothers.
She helped her parents a lot at the farm. She left school at 13. She wanted in fact to be a schoolmistress as her schoolmaster wanted her to too.

She never knew she was dying.
We thought with DH that she could live another 2 years when we heard about her sudden health problems after a fall.
She left us in 1 week.
It was a surprise for all of us but the best death for her, I think.

What is good is that she wanted to live.
She wanted to go back home to keep on with her life.
We made sure with DH she had a good home.
We bought her all the appliances, etc. she couldn't afford any more (especially after my Dad's passing).
This summer we transformed her pink bathroom which had a bathtube she couldn't climb anymore into a blue hawain bathroom with a beautiful and huge shower.
She used it only once !
The house is big and beautiful (will be welcoming for our family and friends now).

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SAL1512 11/17/2013 7:46PM

    Sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a good relationship with her.

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INGMARIE 11/17/2013 10:41AM


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JENNY712 11/11/2013 12:27PM

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May the Lord wrap you in Hi love and tender care during this time of pain and loss. HUGS Love and prayers jenny

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JUSTLYLE 11/10/2013 7:53AM

    So sorry for your loss. No more pain for her.
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CYBRARYCARD 11/9/2013 6:16PM

    It doesn't matter how old one is, when you lose your parents you are an orphan. emoticon The loss is always a hard blow at any age. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. emoticon

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FRAN0426 11/8/2013 8:35PM

    So sorry for the loss of your mother.

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DRUIDPRINCESS 11/8/2013 3:48AM

    Warm hugs to you and your family at this time. What a beautiful,heart-felt blog you have shared with us. What love and strength you show. You are in our prayers.
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SETTIMIA 11/8/2013 2:59AM

    Sending my deepest condolences, I lost my mamma three years ago to cancer.

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DJ4HEALTH 11/8/2013 12:16AM

    So sorry for your loss and yes she waited for you, I know because my husband passed in Feb and he waited until I got back to the hospital after my daughter told me that I needed to get some rest because I had been by his side for over five days and had not gotten a shower because of all the stuff that they had in the restroom., My daughter was afraid that I would not make it and she said that her dad looked at her and his eyes said don't worry she will be here. .So yes she waited for you. emoticon

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MHUTTON 11/7/2013 11:26PM

    So sorry for your loss. emoticon I do believe she was waiting for you. My Grandma came down to Ohio from Connecticut a few months before she passed. She was 85. She was a stubborn Pollock but loved us all and wanted to see everyone one last time. She wasn't taking any chances we wouldn't be able to make it to her. You will see her again. Take care

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USMAWIFE 11/7/2013 10:07PM

    emoticon so sorry for your loss

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MERRYMARY42 11/7/2013 3:57PM

    I am so sorry for the loss of your Mother, saying she lived a good long life is a silly thing to say, we need our Mothers, but you do have many memories

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GODDREAMDIVA1 11/7/2013 2:56PM

    May she R,I,P,

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IMAGINE46 11/7/2013 2:55PM

  So sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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SYLPHIDE 11/7/2013 2:48PM

    Merci Tina,

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TINA8605 11/7/2013 2:42PM

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Please contact me if you would like to


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