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Thursday, November 07, 2013

all the support i received from yesterdays blog about my husband saying after 50 you could not be sexy really gave me some motivation.

as i was thinking about this, i realized that this is one reason i am afraid to lose weight. i am afraid that i will feel sexy and my husband will not realize that i am alive and sexy.. we had problems in the past when i lost weight. when i lose weight, i want to do things and feel alive. my husband is like a bump on a log . i love him, dont get me wrong, but i know longer want to sit on side lines and watch life pass me by.

i am not sure what direction this weight loss journey will take me, but i do know that it is also an emotional journey. i will change along the way. that is a good thing. i dont want to remain the way i am. in order to progress and grow in life, i must change for the better both physically and emotionally.

now, its off to work i go. it looks chilly out and there looks like snow clouds. yuck!!!

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    Even though a person isn't as sexy looking (usually) when they are older, the facts are that a person can be (much) sexier when they are older. There aren't as many energy drainers in an older persons life; they are usually more self confident; usually don't worry about every little thing any more, etc. All those factors can increase comfort in being sexual with a mate, and dieting can indeed increase sexual desire. So, it is definitely possible to be much more sexy after 50 than when someone is young.

    As far as your husband not wanting to join you in your new lifestyle, I know that is discouraging, but please don't let it cause you to go back to your old lifestyle. You can't allow yourself to 'die' for your husband. And, perhaps with time, as your husband sees you keeping on your lifestyle, maybe he will join you. We can only hope...

    1481 days ago
    I don't agree with the folks who are saying this is for you and ONLY for you. You took vows, just as he did and, IMO, you two need to be on the same page. Why would one of you choose to move forward and leave the other behind? Why would one of you choose to hold the other back? A marriage adds a new element. Your husband is (presumably) your heart, another piece of you. He is a piece who needs to get his head in the game and/or respect where you're at. How can you full enjoy your marriage if you're not in the same place? A talk may be in order.

    Also, I don't need answers to these questions. I'm asking the hard questions that maybe others won't, or that maybe you won't.
    1528 days ago
    Remember.....you are doing this journey for you and only you and you never know what the next day may bring you so enjoy it!
    1530 days ago
  • DALID414
    My boyfriend is a bump on a log too. It seems like all he wants to do is watch TV and eat!
    1530 days ago
    I put off my weight loss for many years for the same reasons you expressed. Finally I decided I not only could but should get my sexy back for my own self-esteem. I lost 22 pounds in my first year with SP. Husband still has no interest, and I'm not into infidelity, but I actually had some comments from a couple other men over the year that really helped the old ego. (No, I did not move forward on any of them.) You need to do this for you, not for any man, including your husband. Good luck and go for the gold!
    1531 days ago
    OMG...I can't believe your husband said that to you. I'm in by 50s and I got my sexy back. You have to do this for you!!! It all about feeling good about yourself.

    1531 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/7/2013 3:45:36 PM
    emoticon Life is about continuing to grow as a person.
    1531 days ago
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