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Dear Self....

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Thursday, November 07, 2013

Dear Self,

Here is the deal: You screwed up.



You let a little emotional turmoil to cause you to question the value of what you do here at Spark and then to completely and utterly give up on your own little unique Spark that is yourself. Not long after.... you turned to food to comfort and assuage.

You have reaped the dubious rewards.

Augusten Burroughs in "Dry" wrote:

“Think of your head as an unsafe neighborhood; don't go there alone.”

And yet you did it, you checked out of Spark and into your muddled and cavernous head.

You were pretty $hitty company for the last two months and what ensued were days of waking up with "junk belly" when you ate too much too late in the day. Days of wandering around and thinking, "What do I feel like eating?" instead of "What should I eat." Weeks of thinking walking the dog was actually enough excercise as you nurtured a deep aversion to the gym, because if you are going to screw up, well, you were just going to screw up royally as in a royal 12lb weight gain.

And now you are healing and back to Sparking but are still meandering and a little rudderless.

Well, as you have advised countless others, pick up the oars and start rowing.



Pick a direction and go back to what works for YOU. So here it is, your pep talk, your written definition of your peaceful "abstinence" from food borne misery.

You know what to do.



What works for you is this:

1. Weigh and measure your food, not yourself. Track every bite and put it into the Spark Tracker. Stay within the allotted calorie and nutritional ranges.

2. Bears repeating one more time: Weigh and measure your food, not yourself.

3. Drink at least 8 glasses of water over the course of the day, preferably more and track that.

4. Get in at least 45 minutes of decent fitness every day. Track it. Walking the dogs does not count for the time being. It has to be OVER and ABOVE that!!

5. Set a period of time you will follow this edict and report back on your progress occasionally.

There are 54 days until the end of 2013. So....my countdown begins....

6. And remember, I love you and don't make this a chore. This is easy. Do this for yourself...because as your dear daughter has so eloquently reminded you - you have Potential....now do something with it.

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Oh, and keep Spreading the Spark.

XOXO

-Myself

12/1/13 Edit

Thanks Boss61 for the shout out. Glad to be reminded in such a flattering way that when we get out of our own stinkin' thinkin' heads and lay it out there for ourselves, what we are really doing is connecting with others......

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.
Albert Schweitzer

1/16/14 Edit

Whopping big thanks to the Spark Powers that be for selecting this as a Featured Post!! (sniff...tears of gratitude) I'd like to add a shout out for my Spark Activity Tracker.

I got my tracker shortly after I wrote this post weeks ago in early Nov. 2013 and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE seeing those numbers (steps and fitness minutes) go up, up, up! Gives me some numbers to obsess over that have nothing to do with the scale.

And, no, I was not asked or paid for this addition...just thought I'd put out one more tool that is helping me keep my own unique little Spark on track!

Blessings and be well to all!
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KOMTRIA 3/27/2014 8:16AM

  "Think of your head as an unsafe neighborhood,don't go there alone" so speaks to me. It really all starts with a thought.

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MAYBER 3/17/2014 11:58PM

    Thank you for sharing you thoughts to self with me have started over so many times
Need this reminder that it is for me one day at a time
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CAMSLOSINIT 3/11/2014 11:07AM

    Everyone starting over again needs to be reminded of the basics and you hit it on the head. Thank you for this. I my self have to go drastic and start with the brutal 2week of the south beach diet to get rid of the massive sugar cravings. We are all in this together so supporting each other is crucial. You go girl!

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1GROVES2 2/24/2014 11:19AM

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SNOOKS2013 2/14/2014 2:52PM

    Yes, Yes, and Yes!

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WATSON595 2/12/2014 11:55PM

    Tough love. Sounds like a training buddy will help you keep on track. Keep you accountable.

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ROSEYJO1 2/11/2014 11:30AM

    This could have been written about me. I have started and failed and started and finally just gave up to the tune of 50 pounds I started to believe that I can never do it!! I also got a Spark Tracker and really enjoy it. Have not had it long but was doing so good. We live in our RV for now at company yard, which when it rains the mud is awful. So I am down about not being able to walk outside and RV is small. I did walk in it yesterday but the constant turning when I get to the end (which is a short trip lol) tends to kick in my motion sickness. But after reading your blog I know that sunshine will come and I will be outside in it. I must be patient and continue to move. Thanks so very much for the encouraging blog

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ROSEYJO1 2/11/2014 11:27AM

    This could have been written about me. I have started and failed and started and finally just gave up to the tune of 50 pounds I started to believe that I can never do it!! I also got a Spark Tracker and really enjoy it. Have not had it long but was doing so good. We live in our RV for now at company yard, which when it rains the mud is awful. So I am down about not being able to walk outside and RV is small. I did walk in it yesterday but the constant turning when I get to the end (which is a short trip lol) tends to kick in my motion sickness. But after reading your blog I know that sunshine will come and I will be outside in it. I must be patient and continue to move. Thanks so very much for the encouraging blog

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PUGGLEMONKEY 2/10/2014 10:21AM

  Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for your inspiring pep talk to self! I struggle with isolation and defeating self-talk. You really were a Spark on a cloudy day emoticon . I wish you well on your journey.

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DARSHAN130 2/7/2014 11:35AM

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FELICIA1963 2/2/2014 5:50PM

  Awesome - thank you so much for sharing!

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SOBERISLANDGIRL 1/28/2014 12:01PM

    Best comment ever made by anyone ever "Weigh and measure your food, not yourself" emoticon

I am taking the advice that you are giving to yourself! Awesome! emoticon

Stay well!! emoticon

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HONORIAVICTORIA 1/24/2014 3:29PM

  This was very inspiring. My problem is trying to do too many things at once, rather than adding one thing at a time that works and sticking with that thing until it's a habit. Then I get overwhelmed, bored, or otherwise sidetracked. This is my reminder that I need to focus on what works for me and do that! Thanks so much for sharing your journey.

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RUNNER11G 1/24/2014 6:45AM

  We all have moments where it is hard to keep our focus. At those times think of all the hard work you have done to get to this point. Recall how good you felt when you accomplish even a little victory. Never forget you are not in this alone. You have friends here at Spark people. Turn to them for help and inspiration. Good luck. You can do this. Keep the goal in site.

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LEANMEAN2 1/24/2014 5:12AM

    Good one! Thanks for sharing.

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JPANNELL0 1/23/2014 9:12PM

    Great blog! You wrote this so well, and I appreciate you taking the time to do so and share your challenges and strategies. I really liked "weigh and measure your food not yourself"

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JONEC14333 1/23/2014 11:55AM

    Extremely eloquent!! Truer words...Keep in mind that there are so many of us out there going through the same struggles. Believe me, you are NOT ALONE. Keep Sparking!


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ROSEYJO1 1/23/2014 11:24AM

    emoticon This is so me! If I could just stay out of my head life would be so much easier. There is such emotional turmoil in me. Was judged by some of the family for doing a good deed I was called to do. Because of who we helped we were no longer welcome at family gatherings so I TOOK care of that. I ATE my way though until I had gained 50 lbs. Now things are a little better as long as they have a need for my help which leads me right back to that trip in my head!!! If I could just padlock it I would be great!!! emoticon

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PANIK257 1/22/2014 6:05PM

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MATY12789 1/22/2014 4:49PM

  This was an amazing post! It's inspiring!

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CLAIREINPARIS 1/21/2014 7:14AM

    Fantastic blog, one of the best I have read on SP! Thank you!

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ADORNME 1/20/2014 11:19PM

    You are so AWESOME!! I am struggling with just getting started and this has encourged me to "put up and shut up!" Thank you! emoticon

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NONNA-2012 1/20/2014 9:26PM

    Love, love, love it!!! Thank you for reminding us to have those conversations with ourselves to get back on track. Others can encourage us, but when we are our own cheerleaders as well, we feel better, more positive.

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TGERSTNER 1/20/2014 4:20PM

    One author I enjoy reading and helps me change my head space is Martha Beck. She has several books that are very practical. emoticon

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OCONNORC21 1/20/2014 1:53PM

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Sounds just like me....thank you for reminding me to get up and get moving and start back on track.

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GWENNIE56 1/20/2014 11:01AM

  Wow, that sounded just like me. It's so true for many of us. Thanks for your blog. I have just came back to sparks and am trying to finish a job that I have started many times. I am almost a week in. Weighing tomorrow....


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RRGNAK 1/19/2014 8:38PM

    Your letter to yourself could be used by anyone to get back on track. We all should remember we need a pep talk now and then. Wonderful words! Thank you for sharing!

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THANKFUL_4U 1/19/2014 6:39PM

    Beautiful! I couldn't have said it any better and this is exactly how it's been with me. LOVE the quote from Dry! Will have to remember that. Thank you for sharing!!

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WONDEROONA 1/19/2014 1:06PM

    What a wonderful blog at a time I needed something like this to read!! Thank you for veering off course and reminding each and every one of us that it is never too late to reassess and go forward!!! emoticon

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KIRKEN2 1/18/2014 9:42PM

    i wish i had read this before i gave into my craving because of my emotions

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DBSPARKLES 1/18/2014 9:34PM

    Thank you! I could have written those same exact words! Keep on keeping on!

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JUNETTA2002 1/18/2014 6:54PM

    Thanks for putting that in words and pictures

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DEELREID2012 1/18/2014 10:52AM

  Thank you so much for this blog. It hit home for me. A very good reminder that we all give in and sometimes give up but we can pick ourselves up and start over because I know I am going to...it's never too late. Good luck to you on your journey. Thanks for the pep talk.

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LIBRATAH 1/18/2014 8:57AM

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Thanks for the post!

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XPRETTYLIKEFIRE 1/18/2014 6:21AM

    Great post, thank you for sharing and inspiring!

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NASFKAB 1/18/2014 4:49AM

  thanks a lot for the motivation

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FABISERVANTES83 1/18/2014 1:34AM

    Amazing. I really enjoyed reading this blog!

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FABISERVANTES83 1/18/2014 1:33AM

    Amazing. I really enjoyed reading this blog!

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WRITERWANNAB 1/18/2014 1:07AM

    It's like you've been living in my head! OMG! emoticon Back to working on it for me, too!

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EMMABEAR33 1/18/2014 12:08AM

    Oh my, this was a blessing! I'm going to print it out and place it on my frig.... What motivation you've given me! Thanks emoticon

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FITSEEKER2014 1/17/2014 7:32PM

    emoticon Thanks for sharing

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WORRYWORT1 1/17/2014 7:18PM

 
Sounds like you are a success.

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GEORGIALOVER 1/17/2014 7:09PM

    Thanks for sharing those heart felt emotions! I have been there many times on my own. I like spark because people really care and keep me motivated because we're all on the same path. It's not as lonely here at Spark. emoticon

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