Not My Problem
Wednesday, November 06, 2013
I read something in someone else's blog today that had a profound effect on my attitude.
Self-care is not self-indulgence.
Many of us struggle with self-worth, since we spend so much time--years--taking care of children and others. We tend to push our own needs to the back burner and after a while, doing anything for ourselves seems selfish. Just the thought of being equally as important as others just feels wrong to me. I think this idea was hammered into me when I was growing up. Don't be selfish. Be humble. You're no more important than anyone else.
Well, now I have lived through the implementation of this attitude, the severe adverse effects it had on my mental and physical being, and I woke up and smelled the roses. I'm not selfish. I can be humble and still be self-confident. I'm just as important as everyone else.
Neglecting our health is one of those things that harms over time. We don't feel the effects in the beginning, but as the years pass, our body and mind becomes worn down and illness sneaks in. What's good about that??? Does it prove that I'm not selfish?
I don't think so. Healthy means being strong and able. It has nothing to do with our character. If I want to be healthy in mind and body, I've got to take care of myself. If someone considers my fitness time, nutrition choices, or relaxation time selfish, they have a problem, not me.