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Not My Problem

Wednesday, November 06, 2013

I read something in someone else's blog today that had a profound effect on my attitude.

Self-care is not self-indulgence.

Many of us struggle with self-worth, since we spend so much time--years--taking care of children and others. We tend to push our own needs to the back burner and after a while, doing anything for ourselves seems selfish. Just the thought of being equally as important as others just feels wrong to me. I think this idea was hammered into me when I was growing up. Don't be selfish. Be humble. You're no more important than anyone else.

Well, now I have lived through the implementation of this attitude, the severe adverse effects it had on my mental and physical being, and I woke up and smelled the roses. I'm not selfish. I can be humble and still be self-confident. I'm just as important as everyone else.

Neglecting our health is one of those things that harms over time. We don't feel the effects in the beginning, but as the years pass, our body and mind becomes worn down and illness sneaks in. What's good about that??? Does it prove that I'm not selfish?

Sickness=not selfish.
Healthy =selfish

I don't think so. Healthy means being strong and able. It has nothing to do with our character. If I want to be healthy in mind and body, I've got to take care of myself. If someone considers my fitness time, nutrition choices, or relaxation time selfish, they have a problem, not me.

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    I couldn't agree more. Taking care of ourselves does NOT make us selfish. Suffering the effect of not taking care of ourselves and then spreading THAT mess around DOES make us selfish,
    and people get hurt.

    Love, Ginger
    1567 days ago
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    1569 days ago
    The fighter emerges!

    I mean this in a positive way.. kind of. LOL

    You have a voice! I love it.

    I'll leave it at that and watch how you blossom.
    1570 days ago
    emoticon I'm very thankful that right now, I have the time and can focus on my health and my well-being and do what is the most important for me. It's time to take good care of myself and that does mean that I disappoint others sometimes. Ultimately if it's meant to be, it's up to me. No more excuses.
    1570 days ago
    emoticon words to live by! Thanks for sharing.
    1570 days ago
    Emily, very thoughtful words by you and the comments of support today! I am glad you realize that setting time for your physical and mental needs are not selfish, just being self-aware of what is important!

    1570 days ago
    True words of wisdom!
    Thank you for sharing!
    1570 days ago
    Taking care of yourself enable you to take care of others. Be well!
    1570 days ago
  • MJRVIC2000
    Scripture teaches us that we can't love God until we learn to love others, and we can't love others until we learn to love self. God Bless YOU! Vic.
    1570 days ago
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