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The Odd Couple


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Tuesday, November 05, 2013



Today is day 22 of my "on track" streak!

My husband and I were once referred to by a former friend as "the odd couple." This friend wouldn't elaborate on what he meant by that. Perhaps he meant we were odd because of our age difference; I'm ten years older than my hubby. More likely, though, he was talking about our SIZE difference.

Hubby is a small guy, and it bothers him sometimes. He's five foot six, and weighs 150 lbs. Then there's me. I'm five two, but I've ALWAYS outweighed him. When we first met in 1996, I weighed 210. It surprised me that my weight didn't bother him. I even flat out asked him if he was embarrassed to be seen with me because I was so overweight. He said "Of course not...I love you. Are you embarrassed to be seen with me because I'm not taller?" Well, my answer to him was also "of course not!"

As the years went by, my weight slowly increased, and eventually my weight was in the 270's. Hubby never criticized me, though. He was still his same, loving self. The only time he ever mentioned my weight was during a vacation in Florida. We were walking in Saint Augustine, and it was a hot day. Every step was a huge effort to me. I was sweating profusely, my face was turning red, my heart was pounding, and I had to stop and rest a LOT. Finally, hubby said "Wait here, I'll go get the car and come pick you up." We were both afraid that I was going to collapse if I took another step! I was so relieved when he brought the car to me and I could get inside with the air conditioner on. But I was also ashamed. I knew that I had ruined our good time.

We rode in silence for a few miles, and then hubby said "You've got to do something about your weight. Its killing you, and I can't live without you." I felt like crying, because that was the most loving thing that anyone had ever said to me. And I vowed that I WOULD lose weight.

That was in August of 2005. I did lose the weight, but after less than a year of maintenance, I gained it all back...and then some. I wound up weighing 286 lbs, which was the highest weight of my life. I was so depressed and discouraged. I wasted the next few years with half hearted weight loss attempts. It wasn't until March 1, 2012 that I finally got serious and made a lifestyle change.

It hasn't been easy, and it hasn't been without detours. I have been able to maintain long streaks along the way. But there have also been many times that I have gone completely off track and gained a few pounds back. But hubby has always been there for me, reminding me that as long as I have more good days than bad ones, I will make progress. He is there to encourage me to workout when I just don't feel like it. He always tells me that he believes in me, and that gives me the strength to keep on going.



So far, I've lost 71 lbs. I'm still bigger than him, but I don't care. We may be the odd couple to some people, but I no longer let that bother me, and neither does my hubby. And with hubby's love and encouragement, I am going to keep working hard until I reach my goal. One day at a time!




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STARDUST_1970 11/6/2013 5:53PM

    Wish i could blog as good as this. Nice job. It is always nice to have someone that loves you unconditionally yet, care enough to push ya to get healthy. Sounds like you have a keeper :) .
He is right when he says we will get there one step at a time. As long as we keep taking steps whether forward or backwards we will get there. As long as we keep taking those steps... Good job and good luck. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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IRISHEI 11/6/2013 5:52PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon Thanks for sharing, keep up the great job and keep motivated. You and your husband sound like a wonderful loving couple. emoticon hugs, Irish Ei

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IMEMINE1 11/6/2013 5:42PM

    Great blog. What a great guy you have. Good luck with your healthy lifestyle! emoticon

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JUNEAU2010 11/6/2013 5:34PM

    I have tears in my eyes! What a gem!

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HWNHMMBRD 11/6/2013 5:32PM

    Than you for sharing. emoticon

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MJ7DM33 11/6/2013 5:28PM

  emoticon especially with your husband's support! Thx for sharing!

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SMILINGEYES2 11/6/2013 5:14PM

    Best wishes on your journey to a jealthier you. You are doing so well. This time you will reach and be able to maintain your goal.

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DOINGITALL09 11/6/2013 5:07PM

    What an inspiring story! I love that he has stuck by you and is willing to encourage you along the way. Don't beat yourself up. It sounds to me like you have got this! With your hubby beside you, you will be unstoppable. Thank you for sharing!

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FISHINGLADY66 11/6/2013 5:03PM

    You are so blessed with a loving hubby. emoticon emoticon

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SNOWYOGA 11/6/2013 5:02PM

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LPRUNWALK 11/6/2013 5:00PM

    I was going to say something nice about your husband, but it's obvious that you have struck a chord with a lot of fellow-sparkers who really connected with your story! You know how lucky you are, and it's sweet to hear your story. I have a gem of a husband too and sometimes can't believe my luck in finding him. Your experience shows me that loving kindness will win out over harsh words and criticism every time!

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MLEHTO 11/6/2013 4:27PM

    That's a wonderful story and he sounds like a wonderful man. It's great that he is so supportive of you and loves you regardless of your size.

Yes, this journey is certainly not a straight one nor is it all uphill (or downhill?). It is a journey and as long as we keep heading in the right general direction, we will get there eventually.

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CHARTHESTAR 11/6/2013 4:27PM

    I just love that story about your husband
You are truly blessed in your relationship and with that behind you YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!!

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WALNUTT1961 11/6/2013 4:26PM

    Great blog! My husband supports me as well. He is 5'9" and usually stays at about 170-180. I have gone up and down many times. He has never said a word and follows along with all the food changes over the years (32 years) ! HA!

I have always felt the love - I think that is why we can do this! He was excited that I could keep up with him while walking the dog.

Have a great sparking week!

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ARTISTGATOGIRL 11/6/2013 3:54PM

    Your blog is a great reminder that even though there are bumps, curves, and detours on our health journey path, we can get to our destination of less weight and better health! Thanks for sharing!

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PEGGYO 11/6/2013 3:48PM

    thanks for sharing

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PATRICIAANN46 11/6/2013 3:29PM

  Hi Pixie.........
Hang on tight to that WONDERFUL man!!!!! That is TRUE emoticon !!!!!

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OVERACTIVEELBOW 11/6/2013 3:27PM

    You are so very fortunate. A BFF and hubby all in one neat package!

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BARBARASDIET 11/6/2013 3:26PM

    You are unbelievably fortunate to have someone like that in your life. Cherish him.

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JSEATTLE 11/6/2013 3:16PM

  Your husband is a GEM, I know you already know that. Your story brought tears to my eyes. He is your secret weapon! Guard him safe!

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MARYGOLD5 11/6/2013 3:11PM

    emoticon emoticon I always reading all your wonderful blogs.

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SBARGANZ 11/6/2013 3:06PM

    Nice job losing it - the ups and downs are OK, as long as the general trend is down. Good job!

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2WHEELER 11/6/2013 3:01PM

    Don't let him get away! Wishing you continued success.

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ELINTY 11/6/2013 2:43PM

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TINADEE86 11/6/2013 2:35PM

    Thanks for sharing this. I really needed your words. emoticon

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MOMMY445 11/6/2013 2:26PM

    what a great blog,Pixie! you have an amazing husband who loves you for who you are and how you are.

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PAMLICO-DAZE 11/6/2013 2:20PM

    Thanks for the blog, I really needed to read your words today. You have a terrific husband! God bless you both.

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BRENDA_G50 11/6/2013 2:00PM

    Pixie, I loved your blog. You and your DH sound like you were made for each other. There is so much love between you, it reminds me of the Cinderella story, only this time, it was you who found your Prince Charming. I'm so happy that you found each other and are so supportive, respectful, and so much in love. It makes my heart smile when I see couples that are that committed to each other. It's so rare these days.

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LADYBUG4869 11/6/2013 1:52PM

    I love reading your blogs!! Thanks for sharing!! emoticon

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SCRAPBECCA 11/6/2013 1:47PM

    What a great blog post and what a great guy you are married too. My hubby is quite similar and has also been very loving and supportive throughout my crazy weight loss journey. Lucky us. And even luckier that we have found this great SP community for support. emoticon

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CHANGING-TURTLE 11/6/2013 1:47PM

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SEATTLE58 11/6/2013 1:34PM

    What a loving, supportive, awesome husband you have! Wow, I am so happy for you and for me too! My husband has been the same as yours, when I ask him if it bothers him that I'm so overweight, he just answers, "No, but it bothers me if I lose you because of it." We definitely will hang on to our prize men! emoticon emoticon

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TERRIMMIX 11/6/2013 1:18PM

    Thanks for sharing y'alls story. I like thinking that it's possible to meet someone that doesn't care that you're a bit fluffier than they are. Sounds like you got a keeper there girl.

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SUPERSYLPH 11/6/2013 1:06PM

    What a wonderful marriage you have! emoticon

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WINNIE-POOH 11/6/2013 1:01PM

    WOW that is emoticon . My husband criticizes me, does not encourage me, and thinks I should just have will power because he does. emoticon

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IMGLAMRUS 11/6/2013 12:48PM

    I love your blog.....again. emoticon

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IREACHMYDREAMS 11/6/2013 12:40PM

    I love this! Thanks for sharing. My hubby is smaller than me too. He said that he knows I will reach my goal because I always reach goals that I set out to accomplish. We recently created a goal together: he will pick me up and carry me when I reach my weight loss goal. He his working on strengthening his back and muscles so that when I reach my weight loss goal he will be able to pick me up (he has a bad back). I am looking forward to reaching our goals together.

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BAMAJAM 11/6/2013 12:27PM

  Hi Pixie--- I loved reading this! You and hubby are indeed, the RIGHT couple!
Bless you both!

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MOVEITMARY 11/6/2013 12:17PM

    Oh, that totally made me cry. You have got a gem of a husband, for sure.
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I'm so glad you are getting healthy so that you can have a long life together!

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TAFFYKIDS 11/6/2013 12:12PM

    Great news for you! It is all about the marathon not the sprint! My hubby has almost always been lighter than me. We are both 5'11" but I am bigger boned and more muscular :/, he weighs 175 and I weigh 190. It does bother me and it does get frustrating but I am trying to focus on my goals and not compare myself to him.
Keep up the good work, life is so much more fun when you can experience all of it.

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DESERTJULZ 11/6/2013 12:09PM

    Love your story. You are very inspiring!

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JANESLOSS 11/6/2013 12:05PM

    Oh Pixie,
What a sweet blog! Your hubby sounds like a great guy! Hugs to him!

Support is so important on this journey. Thanks for sharing a little about you!

Love you,
Jane

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JILLRY03 11/6/2013 11:46AM

    Loved this story/blog!! It reminds me a lot of myself and my hubby except my husband is really tall (6'8") and really skinny (215ish) and well I'm short and not so skinny!! haha I'm sure your husband can't keep his eyes off you now!

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MOMMYWITHDREAMS 11/6/2013 11:23AM

    I am very happy for you that you have someone so supportive at your side. I as well get the odd couple saying. But I would not replace my hubby for anything in the world. Its great to know you loved no matter what! emoticon emoticon

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LCRUMLEY81 11/6/2013 11:19AM

  thanks for sharing

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