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I unconditionally forgive everyone for all hurt that I have ever experienced in the presence of thei

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

I unconditionally forgive everyone for all hurt
that I have ever experienced in the presence of their actions.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Oh my this is a big one!

My last years working were made miserable by certain administrators. It is really, reall hard for me to forgive them.

I need to think about this one. I guess holding on to this hurts me, not them. Right?

chris
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  • ARTJAC
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    1128 days ago
  • LAURANCE
    I don't know that I want to forgive just everybody for deliberate abuses. I also know that not being willing to forgive does not automatically mean holding a grudge or thinking about the abuse over and over.
    1129 days ago
  • GRAMMACATHY
    I find myself getting worked up over a couple ex-administrators and sometimes the ex-husbands and I too have to stop myself, remind me that I am only hurting me and need to forgive me to be able to move on. Great Reminder Chris. Don't hold the ugly stuff in. Let it go and forgive. We will all be healthier. Of course forgiveness does not mean trusting either. We do need to be smart.
    1129 days ago
  • SOFT_VAL67
    Does this include "myself"???
    I often find myself saying I forgive this other person, or persons, but I never find a way to forgive me.
    1129 days ago
  • STITCH4EVER
    WOW! I AM NOT SURE I COULD DO THAT. HOW DO YOU EVER FORGIVE SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T EVEN GO TO HIS OWN BABY SON'S FUNERAL? AND THEN PUTS YOU IN THE HOSPITAL LATER THAT NIGHT SINCE HIS SON DIED OF DIABETES AND YOU SEEM TO BE THE FAMILY "CARRIER". BUT I DON'T HAVE TO FORGIVE HIM. HE DIED NOT KNOWING THE LORD. THAT IS SAD ENOUGH.
    1129 days ago
  • 2HAMSDIET
    emoticon Forgiveness is a gift to yourself.
    1129 days ago
  • DS9KIE
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  • IOEINC
    Forgiving is healing. Even better is knowing that you are a kinder person than they ever could or will be!!! That has helped me immensely over the years. I would let the past go and move forward with the reality that you ARE a very kind, sweet lady and would never stoop to their level. And with that in mind, we can be a little bit evil and know that what goes around, comes around and that they will get what they deserve someday. Sorry for the last part, but could not resist!! emoticon

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    1129 days ago
  • FANTASM01
    When u forgive it takes such a huge weight off your soul. Truly it is liberating when you just let it all go. Do it for yourself. Be free. emoticon
    1129 days ago
  • CINDYWAGNER1
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  • LIS193
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  • LINDAF49
    Oh sweet Chris... you are helping all of grow as we read and share your victories... Forgiveness is so healing...Yes, do I for you, do it NOW and do it unconditionally...God bless you hugely as you work through this and win VICTORY!!!
    1129 days ago
  • ELIZABETH5268
    It can hurt both, it just depends on how they feel about what they did. I find it easier to forgive people when I can see that they are just as hurt that they hurt me or lost me as I feel. It's hard to forgive but is usually a healthy route even if you don't want them to be a part of your life anymore.
    1129 days ago
  • ULTREYA3211
    A thoughtful blog and some wonderful comments. It is hard to forgive but that act frees us. Forgive us as we forgive. This is our prayer but easy to say and hard to do.Thanks for all who have commented.
    1129 days ago
  • PATRICIA441
    God forgives us for the many times we have hurt him. He has said I will forgive you your sins as you have forgiven others. I have been hurt at time from situations or people. I have learned through my walk with God that I need to pray for them. No, it is not always easy but it is definitely freeing!
    1129 days ago
  • LINDAKAY228
    Forgiveness is a process. I've had to work through forgiveness with various people in my life and it wasn't easy. But with time and prayer I was able to do it. I also realized that not forgiving the persons who caused me pain was causing me more ongoing pain than holding on to it. I didn't forgive them because they deserved it, but because I deserved it. I wasn't hurting them so much by holding on to the anger but I was destroying myself. And there will be new times that come up that I know I'll have to do it again with new situations. But we are a work in progress.
    1129 days ago
  • 1CRAZYDOG
    "I guess holding on to this hurts me, not them. Right?" YES, Chris, it is true, true, true.

    HUGS

    1129 days ago
  • ERINLINDSAY83
    True forgiveness can be SOOO hard. Sometimes it must be a daily conscious effort. I know I have a few that work like that. Great quote. thanks for posting!
    1129 days ago
  • TIME2BLOOM4ME
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  • SUGARSMOM2
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  • COCK-ROBIN
    Indeed it is a big one, and the hardest one.
    1129 days ago
  • NEWSPARKDEBBIE
    I know it seems difficult but when you forgive them, you free yourself and that's the beauty of a clean mind! FORGIVE AWAY my sweet friend, you deserve it!
    1129 days ago
  • DONNABRIGHT
    My last years of working were tough, also. It was a business that we owned 50/50 and we did not see eye to eye on many things so she would go behind my back. I was able to forgive her and move on with MY life and I hope you can, too.
    1129 days ago
  • DANLIN60
    God Bless You Chris!

    Hugs
    Danlin
    1129 days ago
  • NASFKAB
    forgiving others liberates me from all the stress maybe they do not understand how they have hurt me
    1129 days ago
  • JAROL7
    NO ONE can keep you from forgiving those who have hurt you. It's always right to DO what's right and WAIT for your feelings to catch up with you.
    1129 days ago
  • SANDRALEET
    When we forgive others God forgives us Hanging on to unforgiven is like living with a snake bite Only hurts us Let go and let God heal He can heal the worst wounds
    1129 days ago
  • GOOSIEMOON
    Do it for you, not for them.

    You're worth the effort it takes to do this! emoticon
    1129 days ago
  • JENNA3
    Exactly right, Chris. Forgiveness doesn't mean that what they did was okay. It means you don't need to hold on to the poison of it any longer. Letting that go is not easy, but it frees you, not them, to live a better and more content life.
    1129 days ago
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