Hello spark friends, was starting to feel a little guilty that I don't work at nursing days back to back. But when I got home early monday morning (around 2am) I realized why I don't work days back to back. I went to sit down at my computer desk to visit you nice spark people when the pain in my back became so great I had to lay down in bed for a 1/2 hour. It was terrible until the tylenol kicked in. I didn't get to sleep due to the pain until 2pm the next afternoon. So I would just be getting to sleep when I would have to be at work if I work back to back days. So, 2 lessons, learned. I was right that I cannot work back to back days due to back pain and insomnia, and, take extra strength tylenol before I leave work. One must trust one's self.
One of the things that I like to do is listen to audiobooks. The present one is called "The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking [Oliver Burkeman]". It is a new prospective on the overly positive self help movement.
(For a civilization so fixated on achieving happiness, we seem remarkably incompetent at the task. Self-help books don’t seem to work. Few of the many advantages of modern life seem capable of lifting our collective mood. Wealth – even if you can get it – doesn’t lead to happiness. Romance, family life and work often seem to bring stress as much as joy. We can’t even agree on what ‘happiness’ means. So are we engaged in a futile pursuit? Or are we just going about it the wrong way? In this fascinating new book, Oliver Burkeman introduces us to an unusual collection of people – experimental psychologists and Buddhists, terrorism experts, spiritual teachers, philosophers and business consultants – who share a single, surprising way of thinking about life. They argue that in our personal lives, and society at large, it’s precisely our constant effort to be happy that is making us miserable. That ‘positive thinking’ isn’t the solution, but part of the problem. And that there is an alternative, ‘negative path’ to happiness and success that involves embracing failure, pessimism, insecurity and uncertainty – those things we spend our lives trying to avoid. Thought-provoking, counterintuitive and ultimately uplifting, The Antidote is a celebration of the power of negative thinking."
The review above is a little off in that the book offers a more realistic view of finding contentment. More along the lines of Buddhism. Argues why visualizations, positive affirmations, unrealistic goal setting, ext.. don't work. One of the most interesting points that the book makes is that concentrating on one goal to the exclusion of all of the other parts of your life may in fact make things much worse. The point being, that humans are much more complex than goals. For instance, thinking I will be happy when I am at such and such a weight. The most likely and realistic truth is that you will be thinner but still have the other issues onboard that contributed to the weight problem in the first place. I believe that spark people promotes that weight loss is multifaceted. We learn to slowly change our behaviors, eating patterns, reaction to stress, relationships so that when we do lose weight it has a good chance of staying off.
Just thought you might be interested. Anyhow, Audible.com is a great site to download audiobooks. Cheers, Keith