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Authentic - and whats appropriate

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Recently I posted on my Facebook a very deep post - a gratitude post about not taking anything or anyone for granted because you never know when something may happen.

I'm working on my authentic self, and working on stopping my judging of others and let them be their authentic self, but I really ran into a situation I am not sure how to handle. I've even seen it in the weight loss/fat friendly/BBW/ space so it's not just a particular person.

How do you or do you even respond when someone is being authentic and says something inappropriate.

For example; This is from the fat friendly/ support weight loss conversation I read the other day; Someone posted an amazing picture of 10 women in bathing suits (all of them large women of different size, shape, color and age) in a mud bath in Las Vegas. It looked awesome. One of the woman's bathing suit was the lady was falling out of the top (some may call it a wardrobe malfunction) - Folks were commenting on possibly getting a bathing suit that fit better since since the suit no longer fit her. - There was no shaming of the person, but it was - either 1) inappropriate picture to be publishing- 2) inappropriate comment to be saying anything about getting a better fitting suit - 3) Not an inappropriate comment - 4) Not a comment to be made period. - (Which is what the conversation broke down to) My point was - the person posted the picture, should have made a bit of a judgement call on picture?

Anyway, Can Authentic co-exist with appropriate or is appropriate yet another name for judging?

For my case, the guy who really has no sense of society graces what so ever posted on the post about being grateful - the comment - ...and forgive them their flatulence, for they cannot help themselves...

My first reaction was - oh dear, how do I deal with this. (My first reaction is to delete the post and privately remind him that not everyone has his sense of humor nor would understand.)

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SENTERSTOCK 10/30/2013 2:59PM

    My thought is if you have the power to rid the post and that is what you want to do. Do it, I agree you are not responsible for the other's postings.
We are all on a journey...I try to remember, people are basically good, some just need to be reminded sometimes :-)

Senterstock ~ Grandmother's fitness club, co-leader

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GENRE009 10/30/2013 1:23AM

    This society still enjoys feeding Christian's to the loins! what I mean by that is, the media find entertainment in belittling others! The post was controversial. You can't be responsible for the doings of others! But you can be responsible enough by not buying the paper it was in or magazine, or leaving a comment to them about the lack of ethics in publicly embarrassing someone. I don't think the heavy person purposely wore a suit that would fall apart. Larger suits are probably made flimsy, or that person couldn't find anything that fit, and wasn't aware that something like that would happen. By deleting the post and not responding to it, you also don't feed into the sick behavior of the person seeking attention by posting it.

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SUSANBEAMON 10/30/2013 1:21AM

  reminds me of the person who says rude things and covers herself by saying she's just being honest. there could have been many reasons why that particular picture was chosen: it was the best one taken, it was the only one taken when all the women could be together, so on.

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