Wednesday, October 30, 2013
Recently I posted on my Facebook a very deep post - a gratitude post about not taking anything or anyone for granted because you never know when something may happen.
I'm working on my authentic self, and working on stopping my judging of others and let them be their authentic self, but I really ran into a situation I am not sure how to handle. I've even seen it in the weight loss/fat friendly/BBW/ space so it's not just a particular person.
How do you or do you even respond when someone is being authentic and says something inappropriate.
For example; This is from the fat friendly/ support weight loss conversation I read the other day; Someone posted an amazing picture of 10 women in bathing suits (all of them large women of different size, shape, color and age) in a mud bath in Las Vegas. It looked awesome. One of the woman's bathing suit was the lady was falling out of the top (some may call it a wardrobe malfunction) - Folks were commenting on possibly getting a bathing suit that fit better since since the suit no longer fit her. - There was no shaming of the person, but it was - either 1) inappropriate picture to be publishing- 2) inappropriate comment to be saying anything about getting a better fitting suit - 3) Not an inappropriate comment - 4) Not a comment to be made period. - (Which is what the conversation broke down to) My point was - the person posted the picture, should have made a bit of a judgement call on picture?
Anyway, Can Authentic co-exist with appropriate or is appropriate yet another name for judging?
For my case, the guy who really has no sense of society graces what so ever posted on the post about being grateful - the comment - ...and forgive them their flatulence, for they cannot help themselves...
My first reaction was - oh dear, how do I deal with this. (My first reaction is to delete the post and privately remind him that not everyone has his sense of humor nor would understand.)