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Know & No


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Thursday, October 24, 2013



We start this journey at a place that seems hopeless. We start at a place where the answers seem few and far between. We start with just an idea of where we want to be and a dream to one day make it to that point. But...we start.

In the beginning, I started by learning two words, know & no.

Know is hard. Know is something that is constantly changing and ongoing. Know is something that we think we have a grasp on until we realize we actually do not have that grasp on it. Know is something I had struggled with for my entire over-weight life. I thought I knew what I was doing when it came to diet and exercise, but I really didn't.

When I was playing baseball in college, I had a weight problem. Not as significant as it was after college but it was enough to where I had to make real efforts to lose weight. So I took diet pills from GNC. I remember sitting in class, feeling my heart race while my hands literally shook. They later banned that pill because high school and college football players were actually falling over dead from taking it. I also remember riding a stationary bike in a sauna with a garbage bag on. How was that a good idea? How was any of that a good idea? It wasn't, because I didn't know.

I read article after article and blog after blog. I learned from every resource that I could get my hands on to know that I was doing this right. I had to learn what I was doing and to know that I was doing it right! I know I couldn't have done it without Spark and it's endless, free resources to learn from!

The other word is no. Maybe the hardest word for us to get a grasp on. We are doing so great with diet and exercise that week until a co-worker brings in cookies and candy for the holiday. So why can't we say no? Why is that so hard?

It isn't fair that the skinny girl in the next cubicle can have two cookies and not gain an ounce! It isn't fair that the guy down the hall can have all the candy he wants and it doesn't show at all! IT ISN'T FAIR! So what can we do about it?



I started saying NO! No, not this time. It won't kill me to pass on that cookie. It really won't. Seems like a pretty obvious thing to say but I swear that sometimes I try to convince myself that I might actually die if I don't eat that cookie! You aren't saying no to that thing forever. Think of it as just saying no to it this one time.

This journey can seem daunting and never ending, so don't make the no's bigger than they are. Just say no this one time and move forward. You KNOW that cookie will be good, but you also KNOW that when you say NO, you will feel better later on for your decision! It isn't easy, but it is possible!

Keep an open mind and learn. KNOW your diet! KNOW your exercise! KNOW that you have it in you to say NO! KNOW that you don't have to be afraid to say NO!

Embrace Your Possibilities

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SCRIPTEDFLIGHT 2/1/2014 2:40PM

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GRAMPIAN 12/23/2013 7:14AM

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SOFT_VAL67 11/18/2013 10:29PM

    Another great and inspiring blog my friend.
Saying NO is a big hurdle for me, not so much to food, but to people.
To requests or favors I know I dont want to grant, but that is just one more thing I have to learn to work thru.
Thanks for reminding me I am not the only one. emoticon

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WHITEANGEL4 11/5/2013 11:57PM

    Great blog. I love the way you are bring this forward

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FRABBIT 11/4/2013 2:49PM

  Great blog! Well written and inspiring!

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EJB2801 11/2/2013 8:59PM

    This is so true. I really struggle saying "no" because it seems like it is irrevocable. Your comment and obsevations about "No, not this time" will be valuable to me. Thank you!

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G33K10V3 11/1/2013 10:48AM

    emoticon great blog emoticon

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DRTOVAH 10/31/2013 5:53PM

  great post!

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ADVENTURESEEKER 10/30/2013 5:48PM

    I agree! Great blog.

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LEANMEAN2 10/30/2013 6:10AM

    Thanks for sharing.

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FRENCHIFAL 10/29/2013 11:38PM

    Great blog! I still struggle with saying no, even when I know it's the healthiest option!

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GREGGWEISBROD 10/29/2013 1:15PM

    Shortly before starting my journey, I saw a compelling clip on The Biggest Loser. I hadn't watched the show in years, feeling like a hypocrite every time I tuned in, but I caught a clip one night and it was a profound moment. This guy was out to dinner with his friends, on one of the weeks near the end where they go home and try to lose weight, and they all ordered dinner. His friends has the greasiest, cheesiest, yummiest looking meals, and he ordered something really healthy (though very yummy looking too). He mentioned into the camera how it's hard to see everyone around him eating whatever they wanted, but that he finally understood it's because he's the one who has the weight lose, not them. They lived healthily enough in their normal lives, and so they could afford to eat like that, but he has a problem with food, and he needed to own that before he was able to let himself feel free in ordering something different from his buddies. He learned to say no. Learning to say no, and feeling okay with it, has been one of the tough things to wrap my head around, but now that I have, it's kind of empowering. Great post, brother.

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JUNEBUG0511 10/29/2013 12:38PM

    I loved this insight! I have found that once I start saying "no," that it is easier the next time. And, the number on the scale creeping downwards has it's own, very different, much longer term rewards!

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SIMONEKP 10/29/2013 12:02PM

    another good blog Brad. No is indeed a hard concept. I can tell myself no a thousand times a day without blinking when it comes to spending money or any other area of my life unrelated to weight and food. Telling myself no, especially when it comes to sweets, is a struggle. For example, I'm attending a luncheon tomorrow and I started telling myself no dessert from yesterday. It sure takes practice.

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TURTLELADY56 10/28/2013 8:20PM

  wow and ty i needed this message today...

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SUEPERWOMAN 10/28/2013 8:13PM

 
You should write a book, you are so talented!!

Love, Ginger

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AZAOZA2 10/28/2013 6:54PM

    I needed to read this blog as I'm starting to get tired of diet but from now on I KNOW what I should do and I'll keep saying NO because it's really hard to say it but after a while you are so proud of your self that you can say it and also you will be more proud with the results. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BUSMOM27 10/28/2013 1:09PM

    emoticon I always enjoy your blogs. emoticon

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GEORGE815 10/28/2013 10:39AM

    Pass on that cookie!

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DANCEONDANCEON 10/28/2013 9:44AM

    Just what I needed to read this morning.
Thank-you!

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LSDALOIA 10/28/2013 8:29AM

    I KNOW I can always stop by your SparkPage or blog for inspiration!

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FIRECOM 10/28/2013 1:29AM

    A road more traveled, that's me. I have started so many times, each time I did, I had less and less confidence that I could do it. But by jingles, I DID IT WITH SP.

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FIRECRACKER61 10/27/2013 11:20PM

    Good blog. emoticon I know that no one/thing can take away my power of no unless I give it away. Just got to use the power! Let's go Sparks!

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FORBANDE 10/27/2013 8:47PM

    What two powerful words!! Knowledge is power and No is empowering!!

What a fabulous blog and reminder that we are constantly learning, trying and making progress and that we really won't die by skipping a cookie. :)



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KAB7801 10/27/2013 8:28PM

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JOOLS7 10/27/2013 8:15PM

    Great post!

Saying NO is empowering.

I said NO to Smithfields BBQ today.

Go us!

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AMBER461 10/27/2013 6:45PM

  Excellent blog. Thanks for sharing and well said.

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SBARGANZ 10/27/2013 5:39PM

    Thanks for the reminder!

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JOANNHUNT 10/27/2013 1:00PM

    AWESOME BRAD. THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR BLOG. IT MADE SO MUCH SENCE.

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DEMURE2000 10/27/2013 10:38AM

  You blessed me more than you know with this entry. Enjoy your day!!!

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SHERYLP461 10/27/2013 7:19AM

    great reminders and things to think about

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SWAN47 10/27/2013 6:06AM

    Once we can say NO it's OK half the battle is won. Thanks for the blog.

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DAUGHTEROFTWIN 10/27/2013 12:59AM

    Awesome blog my friend. Knowing is half the battle. "No"ing is the other half. Yes, some of us have to allow a little flexibility and moderation. But learning the key strategy plays and sticking to your guns is so key to getting a good start...or restart.



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FITFRIT 10/27/2013 12:45AM

    GREAT blog!

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AJB121299 10/26/2013 10:27PM

    nice

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MEBAZI 10/26/2013 10:16PM

    Awesome blog! Will really stick in my mind KNOW YOU CAN SO NO!!!! emoticon

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ONEMONSTERSMOM 10/26/2013 5:26PM

    Awesome blog!

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KIMBERLY0916 10/26/2013 5:04PM

    AWESOME!! ... knowing options is the BEST armament for saying NO and for gaining a healthier lifestyle

b/c you don't know what you don't know ... that's why i like to learn and ask and get clarification and learn some more

like i learned again yesterday no one, including myself, is perfect and we mustn't be too hard on ourselves ... but def take opportunities to learn and do better going forward ...

another one i like to live by .. is accept and move forward .... doesn't mean have to forget, forgive, or struggle with past discrepancies or mistakes or slip ups or a bad mood ... just accept and do the better thing next time

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GA2NEGIRL 10/26/2013 3:30PM

  well said!

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