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Magical equation

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Figuring out how to lose weight seems simple right? Calories in versus calories out. Yep, simple. Well, not if you love food which, let's face it, isn't that why most of us are here? We love food and we don't know when to stop eating it.

Tell me if you can relate to these...

Scenario 1

You had a long day. You're tired. You don't want to eat what you had planned on eating even though its healthy because you don't want to cook when you get home. So you stop at McDonalds. You're in line thinking about what you're going to eat behind a few cars. You decide on a hamburger and a side salad with water. Okay, you tell yourself, you're not cooking tonight but it doesn't mean that you can't choose something fairly healthy. You feel happy with your decision. You get to the window, you see value meal number one, blurt it out with the usual large coke and large fries and pull on through. You start eating it as soon as you get the bag and by the time you're home, it's gone. You wonder - what happened to the willpower before I got to the order screen? You feel guilty and go to bed.

Scenario 2

Your friends invite you out for dinner. You're going to your favorite place. You tell yourself that you are going to splurge a little since you're out with friends but you'll get a doggie bag. You get there, everyone starts ordering. You get an appetizer to share. Of course, you eat it. You get a glass of wine too. Then dinner comes and you end up eating the whole meal with another glass of wine. By the time your evening is finished, you feel full and bloated and yet, what happened? You did have a plan.

Scenario 3

You purchase a half gallon of ice cream at the store. You come home and measure out 1/2 cup for dessert. You feel good about your choice. Thirty minutes later you've measured out 4 more bowls so now you've eaten 5 servings and you're over 600 calories and that again fuels guilt.

I am sure a lot of us have been here. The question is, how do we get better at this? How do we get to a point where our willpower gets stronger? I've read that the more you fuel the willpower the stronger it becomes. I have not found that true yet but I can't give up the hope on that and neither can you.

I tallied my calories over the last 90 days and you can see, my willpower is low. I need to get some UMPH! some BACKBONE! some POWER!

I am not sure if you can see it or not, but the red line is supposed to be my max # of 1500. I am over more than not. In fact, some days were so bad that I just didn't load my food at all so who knows how bad this chart could look. This must change if I am going to make serious progress before Thanksgiving.

I came across the perfect picture today to sum up this magical equation!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
TRENTDREAMER 10/22/2013 1:48PM

    OK, first off, if I've never outright complemented your writing before, my apologies. You write extremely well. Those three scenarios pretty much sum up a huge percentage of my struggles before and during most of my spark people days.

For me, the exact opposite was true. It was when I stopped fighting it (stopped trying it with a little more umph) that I finally won. I found what was causing most of the damage in my health and have been addressing it.

My concern when trying and umphing was that I would gain it back (and I did).

Start with the question "What happenned between "A" and "C". dig as deep as you need to. Research and overcome.


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STARINTHENIGHT 10/21/2013 3:28PM

    This is a great post, and the answer is YES I can relate to almost all of those scenarios. Especially when I'm out with friends or family, it is so hard. Everyone is indulging and so I feel like I should be able to also. And then if I say no they ask me a thousand questions. I used to be a lot better about it, and just didn't care what people said or thought but I don't know what has happened in the last few years.

Lately I have been bored when I'm studying and get stressed and anxious and find myself eating the stupidest things by the handful out of my cabinet (like croutons last week :-P) I think owning up to it and being conscious of it is #1. I give you major props for being so good at tracking. You track the good and the bad and that is something I'm working on. I got on MFP mid-binge this week and logged it. Once I saw the damage I did wasn't so bad I was able to quit.

It's definitely a process, a long one at that! But it's a learning process and we are learning a lot!!

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TONYAB2000 10/20/2013 10:18PM

    Thanks for sharing this!! I am having many of the same issues right now and I am struggling with overcoming this. It's encouraging to know that I'm not the only one with these struggles. Just keep pushing and hopefully together we will get through this funk and come out better on the other side.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 10/20/2013 9:53PM

    I can relate. I always plan on having a salad with grilled chicken but when I get there is sounds pretty blah and I hear myself order what I shouldn't have. Way too easy to do.

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DYNAMICDEB53 10/20/2013 6:26PM

    I saw that you had about 29 days over 1500 maybe a couple were very close i'ts hard to tell. I know that willpower is one thing had to come by, but I have found that motivation and success help to fuel it to being stronger.
One way I keep from eating out of control is plan all my meal in advance and in some cases cook a couple servings and freeze them, helps when I just dont feel up to cooking. When I go out like you I plan, now heres the thing its never easy to keep to it. I do ask for a to go box when my meal is served if I know it will be too much for one real serving and immediately but half in the box and set it aside, I have done this for desserts also. Out of the plate means not in my mouth. I try to avoid appetizers since they are usually the wrong kind of food to eat and I have a hard time resisting. Agree it Ilovemali, best not to bring ice cream in large packages around. I buy single serving bars or fruit bars and that way I can one a day and allow the calories and nutrients for it.
I think that a lot of it is you need to plan and then keep working at sticking to that plan, you can have some false starts but with practice and patience you will find that willpower grows. One more biggie to let others know why your not eating the appetizer or watching your portions, if they really care they will help you.
Just dont give up you will get better. Believe it want really matters to you, I dont think its food.

Hugs and smiles

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DRKYASHI 10/20/2013 1:40PM

    Love the quote! emoticon emoticon

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SUNNY2010 10/20/2013 12:05AM

    Very good blog! My step-son is a trainer and very religious in his food and exercising. But his theory it's OK to have 1 cheat day a week. Of course, the problem is it should be only once a week, and he does not mean to double the calories for that day. I am trying to control my willpower too.
Good luck to you!

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ILOVEMALI 10/19/2013 9:41PM

    Love the photo. I stopped bringing half gallons of ice cream home a long time ago, opting instead for single-serve and having one per day. I stopped those too when we found Fruttare mango pops at 60 calories each.

I'm having a beer issue...just have to figure in the calories.

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WHITNEYLD 10/19/2013 9:38PM

    emoticon Don't let the past define you. emoticon emoticon

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