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Friday, October 18, 2013

First of all, I want to say emoticon for all your emoticon comments.
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Your comments helped me to pull back from my emotions and initial knee-jerk-reaction to the rats email far enough to be able to get focused again.

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I also liked the idea about responding with kindness. So that's how I replied.

If she shows up at the meeting at my house next Monday morning I can greet her just as I did last week (but I will NOT eat any goodies she might bring!)
This is her problem, not mine. I refuse to own it or buy into it.

If she chooses to be rude to me to my face - which I don't think she has the guts to do in front of witnesses - but if she does, I will politely tell her that her comments are inappropriate, out of line, and not acceptable in my home. If she persists, I will ask her to leave. But I hope she doesn't.

But this has been a good grounding exercise for me. I refuse to give someone else the control or leverage to make me become something other than who I really am. I will not surrender my dignity. My value and self respect is not dependent on whether she likes or approves of me or not.

Here are my affirmations for the day:

And last, but certainly equally as important


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
2BDYNAMIC 10/19/2013 6:07PM

    Good comments for sure!! ......... I hope you give us an update on how it goes Monday! ............ (rude meanies just never win--but good to let her know you have boundaries and she is, after all, in YOUR HOME!!! ........ emoticon

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BONNIEMARGAY 10/19/2013 1:36PM

    Gorgeous attitude!

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NELLJONES 10/19/2013 8:18AM

    You don't need to explain a "No" to anyone you don't live with or work with. I guess the real question is why do you care about her response? Do you expect an inheritance from her?

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FUNLOVEN 10/19/2013 8:00AM

    Keep your level head Cathy. If she persists with this attitude come Monday, I think just a simple reply of "That isn't a very nice or kind thing to say" will put her in her place. Good Luck emoticon

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LADYRH 10/19/2013 7:50AM


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MONTANAWALKER 10/19/2013 3:43AM

    emoticon emoticon Lots of great motivators in this blog. Thanks for sharing!

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KARRENLYNN 10/19/2013 12:21AM

    You Go!

Have a great weekend!


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1CRAZYDOG 10/18/2013 9:58PM

    Good plan! HUGS

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TIMOTHYNOHE 10/18/2013 9:52PM

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SPARKFRAN514 10/18/2013 9:47PM

    Glad things are working our

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TRESSWANN 10/18/2013 8:18PM

    You are strong and will be strong. You will feel better all around

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GABY1948 10/18/2013 7:01PM

    NOW you are ROCKIN'!!!! I don't believe for one moment she will be ugly in your don't even anticipate it! You are doing emoticon

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FELINEBETTER 10/18/2013 4:54PM

    You Go Girl!!! Let us know how Monday's meeting goes. I think you will hold your head high and she will be on her best behavior. I hope so! emoticon

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NITTINNANA 10/18/2013 4:45PM

    Way to go, Cat!

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BIGPAWSUP 10/18/2013 3:42PM

    That a girl! WooHoo!

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MARITIMER3 10/18/2013 3:38PM

    Good for you! I think your xperience, the comments you received, and the way you are handling it is a great example and reminder for all of us.
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ANDREWMOM 10/18/2013 3:32PM

    Be strong....!

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FIT4MEIN2013 10/18/2013 3:26PM

    You can do it, Cathy!

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