"Happiness is equilibrium. Shift your weight." Tom Stoppard
I'm participating in Renee Stephens online Fulfilled Course (for the third time and I will do it again for the next round). www.insideoutweightloss.
I find it to be a new experience each time I participate and like the Awakening Joy course www.awakeningjoy.info
, I always learn something new and connect with new people and ideas.
It is the final week of the six week course and there are many wonderful lessons and tools to use. One great idea that I somehow don't remember from the other two times I participated is to use the following mantras:
I'm listing them here because I think each one is so powerful.
1. I love feeling good in my body over time. The idea that choosing foods, behaviors and a lifestyle that makes us feel good in our bodies is so obvious, but at the same time revolutionary. I've been a binge eater for many years, and the idea that if I stop and ask how a food will feel over time, and realize that too much of a food or a certain kind of food will only feel good for a second in my mouth, but that later I'll be miserable, is a great way to make better, more pleasurable choices. My very wise and popular friend here on Spark, Tinajane76, suggested I put a post it on my fridge in which I ask myself, "Will this make me feel better now?" "Will this make me feel better tomorrow?" Great questions!
2. My body and my mind work together. This is just so true! Today I listened to Day 3 of the Deepak Choprah Meditation Series: Perfect Health. Today's centering thought was "My mind and body are in perfect sync." I work with an amazing therapist and life coach, Amy Johnson dramyjohnson.com/
, and today she reminded me that "emotion is absolutely nothing more than thought in action. You're always and only feeling your thinking, so feelings are simply feedback about the contents of your mind." When I remember this, and I choose to focus on positive thoughts, my body feels better! In fact, I'm reading "Hardwiring Happiness" by Rick Hanson, and the big message of the book is that when you have a positive experience, if you allow yourself to hold onto it and feel it in the body, you will begin to change your level of happiness overall. It really works! My daughter and I have been trying it!
3. Slip-ups are my keys to success. Renee always says, "There is no failure, only feedback." And again, when I remember this, it's so true. When I make a mistake, my tendency was to beat myself up. But this never helps. When I instead reflect on what I can learn from the mistake, and think about how to do it differently next time, I immediately feel better. And when next time comes, more often than not, I do it the better way.
4. I have a number of empowering beliefs that are helping me change my behavior overtime. Well getting back to all the brain work from Amy Johnson and Rick Hanson, what I'm learning is that as we focus on more positive thoughts, and we feel better, we make better, more skillful choices for life. And this includes how we eat! Further, the more often we make these better choices and feel good about it, the more we reinforce that better habit!
5. I am worthy of feeling great in my body. I am! We all are! What a gift to give myself, but not only myself. When I feel great in my body, I am a better mother, friend, colleague, neighbor and person in general!
6. I am persistent. I am patient. I am practicing. The other day this dawned on me. I've had a very bumpy year, but I keep picking myself up and getting back in the game. I'm consistent with exercise because I love it, I love to eat well. Yes, I've had slip ups and I've overeaten, but I keep trying and I'm patient. This is way of living forever, so really there is no rush. Every day I come back to the same good habits.
"It began in mystery and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful country lies in between." Diane Ackerman