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Day 686- At Some Point, You've Just Got To Be Happy

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Thursday, October 17, 2013

Sometimes, I give myself whiplash.

You read my blogs and probably think I'm bipolar or at the least have some serious body image issues, when really I just think I'm a hormonal woman.

Yesterday I went shopping for a dress to wear to a wedding. Not for my wedding dress. A friend is getting married this weekend, and I was looking for a nice new dress to wear, so I stopped by the store CATO after work.

If you have a CATO near you, I definitely suggest checking it out. I love it because it has a juniors, misses and plus size department so it has something for just about everyone. Well anyways, I was trying on dresses and fitting into sizes that I used to never be able to fit into and still thinking of how I could look better.

And I realized that no one is perfect. And anyone who is happy with their body is very lucky. I'm a size 12 in pants, and anywhere from a Small-Medium-8-10-12-14-16 depending on what type of dress you put me in. And that's just funny to me. I'm strange enough body type that I have that large of a range. And when I was looking in the mirror, I realized that just like I tell myself the number on the scale shouldn't really matter, the number on my clothes shouldn't either. If I feel good, can exercise regularly and feel healthy, feel pretty, then what else really matters?

I'm just going to be happy that I'm who I am. That I've come as far as I've come and hope to keep having success. But as for continuing to nitpick every time I lose or gain a few pounds, I just need to stop focusing on it. Eat right as much as I can and stay active. Think positively and speak positively about my body and myself.

I am Jan-Marie, and I am awesome. :)

And you, my friends, are awesome too.
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    I came to a realization last month, when I went clothes shopping, to ignore the sizes now. They mean nothing. It's simply a designation to help us focus on which clothes to try on first. If they look good on you, and you feel good in them, that's the only important factor. When I was a skinny punk, way back, and was gaining weight, I used to feel down on myself for not fitting into my medium shirts and my 32 waist jeans. I would spill out of those clothes, and feel like I was fat, when now I can look back and say "just go buy a better size you silly fool!". Anyways, I think all of us will always have 'those parts' of our bodies that we wish we could change - it's learning to love ourselves that is the key to this journey, and it sounds like you're getting an excellent handle on that aspect. :-)
    1553 days ago
    One thing women especially shouldn't stress over is the size of clothes (even though I do). It's no wonder we have "body issues" when the sizes are so inconsistent.

    I have 3 teenage daughters (all 3 shaped differently, but all 3 are tall) and I tell them every time we go shopping that they have to "try it on". You can never depend on the size of women's clothing, you'll drive yourself crazy. So don't worry about the size, just how you feel in it!
    1553 days ago
    I have lost about 30 pounds and bought a dress that was a 2x this week. I have never really been a 2x before but the dress was from Forever XXI which has doll size clothes pretty much. I don't like the fact that it is a bigger size but it looks good and I just have to remind myself of my journey. You're doing great!
    1554 days ago
    What I would do so I wouldn't get wrapped up in the number I was wearing I would simply cut out the size tag. If they fit they fit no matter what that manufacture thinks your size should be to fit into those jeans/dress.
    1555 days ago
    Right on! I should copy this and pin it to every mirror in my house! emoticon emoticon
    1555 days ago
    emoticon amen to that!
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    1557 days ago
    its hard to wrap your mind around sometimes - when you're used to the size and numbers you see its hard to grasp the smaller ones....Believe me - this is the story of my life as well!!! I think most all women do it. I used to cut my size out b/c I didn't want it to be seen by others, but moreso, I didn't want to see it. I'm glad I'm growing out of that... :)
    1557 days ago
    Good for you!
    1557 days ago
    you are just awesome you are going the right way
    1557 days ago
    I told myself just yesterday that the scale needs a vaction while I work on building healthy habits and finding a way to feel good about me. Those NSV are the things that have real meaning. The things we can now do that we couldn't before, the places we can go that we were afraid we couldn't before, all those I can'ts that turned into I did's.

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  • _JODI404
    You go girl! I really do think you are emoticon !!!!

    And you should believe it!!!
    1558 days ago
    You are definitely awesome. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1558 days ago
    emoticon YOU ARE emoticon ! I AM emoticon ! WE ALL ARE emoticon !!!
    1558 days ago
    Yes, you are awesome! Realizing at your young age that you will be better off being happy with who you are than with trying to be some ideal is an outstanding accomplishment.

    Probably the best mental decision I ever made with respect to fitness was when I started lifting weights I decided I didn't care whether I got big muscles out of the process. Now, most of the published information for guys lifting weights focuses on those vanity muscles. I don't care. I want the strength, and I don't care whether I get bulgy muscles or not.

    7 years after that decision, I was at the gym and caught a glimpse in the locker room mirror of a guy with well defined shoulders and biceps. Not bulgy, body builder type, but good looking and probably indicating he had some strength. Looked again, and it turned out to be me. But that glimpse likely wouldn't have happened if I had been focused on how the muscles looked instead of focusing on what I could make my body do.

    Go for the ability. The looks will follow, perhaps after a long wait. Or maybe they won't; but if you can run a 5K, why should you care?
    1558 days ago
    Yes you are emoticon

    What I see is a really pretty girl who has accomplished so much!!

    YOU ROCk!!
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    1558 days ago
    What you said here -- "If I feel good, can exercise regularly and feel healthy, feel pretty, then what else really matters?" -- is totally the point of this journey for all of us.

    Keep being awesome!
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    1558 days ago
    That's exactly what Stacey and Clinton say!!
    BE happy with your body, it's just numbers find stuff that fits and
    TAILOR!! What a blast to have new sizes to fit into!! emoticon emoticon
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  • THOMS1
    Good job!
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  • MBELL6312
    You ARE awesome! Great topic and great attitude.
    1558 days ago
    No one is ever happy, so you're right -- at some point we just need to be happy! Most days I am, thankfully!
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  • JEREMY723
    So well said and so true. Tomorrow's favorite blog post for sure!
    1558 days ago
    Excellent post! We are all our own worst enemy when it comes to body image. Often we lose sight of the true goal: being happy & healthy. The numbers are all relative. My starting point may be someone else's goal, my goal may be someone else's starting point. So long as we are doing our best, taking care of ourselves, and continuing to do what we can to make ourselves happier and healthier than we were yesterday, we have succeeded.
    1558 days ago
    And you are awesome! I'm happy you have accepted yourself as you are.
    1558 days ago
    I also try to remind myself about how far I've come over the past ten months, but some days all I can see is the amount of work still ahead of me. It's hard to not get wrapped up in the number on a scale, or the number on my clothes. I recognize that I need to work on this, and I will, but I know it will remain a challenge for me. Thanks for being so open about it!
    1558 days ago
    Love CATO's! Good prices, too! I can totally relate to the up and down issue. Great attitude, girlie!
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    1558 days ago
    I have the same problem. I have a fairly strong hour glass shape, so finding things that I think look nice on me is hard. People often comment on how great I look now, but I still look in the mirror and think I could do better. But then I realize that at one point, I was wearing size 17 jeans, and now I am down to size 13.

    Sometimes you have to turn the negativity into positive thinking. Great job and keep up the good work!
    1558 days ago
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