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Paying The Toll

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Thursday, October 17, 2013



Positive and negative days. Ups and downs. Success and the failures. That is what our journey's are made of. Our journey's have more potholes, exit ramps, and tollbooths than the New Jersey turnpike. If we want success, we must deal with all of those obstacles. We dodge potholes. We skip past exits. We pay the tolls even if we have to turn our pockets inside out or dig in the car seats for some change. Why? Because if we want our journey to be defined by our success, then we stay on the road!

That doesn't mean we won't hit the occasional pothole and have to stop to change the tire. That doesn't mean that we won't get off an exit for gas only to find we venture away from the highway a bit longer than expected. That doesn't mean that we can only find $1.50 for the toll when $2.00 is needed so we have to dig deeper. Stuff happens. It has happened to you and it has happened to me.

Unfortunately, I had to stop and change a tire recently. I had to find my way back to the highway after I ventured off an exit. I had to dig a little deeper for that change to continue along. Like I said, stuff happens.

Back in August, I weighed in at 294.1 lbs. I set a goal to be at 279 lbs by October 17th (today, my 35th birthday). Since starting back at SP in May 2012 at 466 lbs., I had hit very few potholes and had ample change to pay my tolls. So I cruised along with the top down going 70 mph! Life in the weight-loss lane was great! I did the Rugged Maniac 5k on September 14th and I was feeling on top of the world!



Since September 14th, I apparently got a flat tire. I would get going really well, only to hit a pothole and have to go back to the shop to fix my tire. Physically there wasn't anything wrong with me. The problem was all between my ears. It was that mental side which is just as hard, if not harder, than the physical part. This happened to me back in April as well after I worked so hard to lose weight for my cousins wedding so I would be "looking good" in my tux. I thought that since making my overall original goal that times like that were behind me, but I was wrong. I didn't crash the car or even think about turning around completely. Never! But I was not in fifth gear. It seems that I need that "event" to work towards to keep me more motivated. I need that "event" to keep me driving in the fast lane!

I fought that mental monster that we all deal with. The one who says, "it is only one meal". "One day". "You will do better tomorrow". "I am tired so I will skip exercise today but I will do it twice tomorrow". I fought it every day for the last month.

Last week I wrote a blog called "Remember". I really do love that my story and my journey can inspire and motivate people. That is very humbling and I am deeply honored by that but that blog was as much for me as it was for anyone else. I needed to remember that struggle! I needed to remember that fight! I needed to remember what I have done and what I needed to do!

After I wrote it, I felt like a different person. I felt like the potholes were paved again. I felt like I had found the on-ramp back to the turnpike. I felt like I had change back in my pocket!

So I only lost 1 lb. in about 2 months and I missed my goal for the first time in a really, really long time. That is a tough pill to swallow but I won't let it keep me down. After all, the scale is still going in the right direction. I will focus on the positives like my streak of drinking at least 10 glasses of water a day is now at 478! I have logged nearly 16,000 fitness minutes this year! I have still lost 216 lbs and I will keep pushing towards the 280's!



I have the top down, and the sun is shinning bright! There is nothing but open highway ahead! Let's set the cruise control and roll on, there is plenty of room...

Embrace Your Possibilities

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BELLACUDDLES 10/18/2013 8:52AM

    That was great.....it's that focus on the future YOU (US) that can get you (US) where you (WE) want to be!!

JUST DO IT!!

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MIMIDOT 10/18/2013 8:47AM

    Awesome blog! I really needed it right now. I seem to have taken the wrong exit-AGAIN! But after reading your blog I feel I will -must start again. Thank you for giving me a push. Happy traveling! Spark on!

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JENNAAW 10/18/2013 8:32AM

    Good analogy! You sound like a person who is driving to success!

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IDICEM 10/18/2013 8:17AM

  Happy birthday! Congrats on your amazing journey to date. You have a great attitude. Thanks for sharing.
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JANEMARIE77 10/18/2013 8:15AM

    way to go hit it hard

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KANOE10 10/18/2013 7:54AM

    Happy Birthday. I loved your blog and your road picture. That was a great analogy. I know you will keep going down the road of success., You are a great inspiration for all of us.

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BESSHAILE 10/18/2013 7:42AM

    Oh man - I LOVED those verbal images and when I got to the last picture I could just see you, with the top down, cruise control at 70 and nothing but the highway out in front.

so proud that you lost 1 lb.

Now go line up some event you can work towards.

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GREENGOBBLIN 10/18/2013 7:41AM

  You ain't going in reverse. There's something to be said about that.
Hang in there, mate. You're doing a whole lot better than you realize.

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CHERYLHURT 10/18/2013 6:39AM

  You have had an AMAZING journey, congratulations!

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PENOWOK 10/18/2013 6:34AM

    There is no shame for all that you have already accomplished despite the flat tire!! Happy birthday and many more!

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TORTISE110 10/18/2013 6:19AM

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NANCYPAT1 10/18/2013 5:47AM

    Hope your birthday was fantastic.

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111BUTTERFLY111 10/18/2013 4:58AM

    emoticon What an emoticon job you're doing!!

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TINAJANE76 10/18/2013 4:43AM

    One way to look at it is less that you've hit a pothole, but more as you've put on your training pants for maintenance. It's a whole lot easier to sustain motivation in the short term when you've got your eyes on the prize of getting ready for a big event and are still armed with the copious enthusiasm you had when you first got started and were seeing big drops on the scale. A bigger challenge is becoming content with the scale NOT moving and realizing that what you've accomplished is enough. That doesn't mean we stop setting goals for ourselves, it's just that big changes aren't necessarily what we're after.

I've also personally come to accept that my daily life can't always include workouts that are as intense as Insanity or a boot camp. As motivating as they are, I realized that I needed to save those for periods leading up to special occasions and go for something more moderate the rest of the time. It's been a good lesson because not being so dependent on exercise made it easier for me to adjust when I got injured a few months ago.

Anyway, keep on chugging down that road, my friend. You've got a huge cheering section who've all got your back!

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RASPBERRY56 10/18/2013 4:06AM

    Thank you for sharing!

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MRSP90X 10/18/2013 12:37AM

    You are awesome!! Look at all of us who you inspire! You encourage and motivate us to live to our full potential on our journey. We can all share in the struggles and triumphs together and know that our worth is not based on the number of the scale. Struggles are indeed part of the journey and what better way to share them together. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WEEPINGANGEL74 10/17/2013 10:43PM

    I am so glad you posted this blog!! You and I have had many conversations about many things including struggles on the journey to a healthier body and mind so I know you have struggles just like the rest of us. But for anyone who hasn't had the privilege and joy of talking to you outside of Spark Comments and Goodies, you seem larger than life and I am not referring to your height. Before we became friends and started talking each other's ears off your journey seemed to easy, you seemed to good to be true and I am guessing many others here may see you the same way. You said it yourself in this blog, your journey was pretty smooth until April. The weight melted off of you with ease (and a lot of intense exercise on your part). But this blog shows that you are subject to the same trials, struggles and potholes that we all are. You have been showing your human side more than your super hero side in your recent blogs and this one really shows that even Iron Man has speed bumps and pot holes in his journey. Thank you for sharing this and yourself with all of SparkVille.

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RECREATING_ME 10/17/2013 9:54PM

    Exactly! You have done so many great things. I am in awe at your transformation every time I read your story -- not to mention your positive attitude, even when there is a bump in the road. Thank you for sharing it and your wisdom.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/17/2013 9:46PM

    Well said! HUGS Keep on sparking.

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JAMER123 10/17/2013 8:55PM

    Keep on truckin!! I have had very long plateaus and haven't made many short term goals but I look back and and see the progress I have made and I am happy as long as the weight stays off!! I am not giving up and like you, keeping the positive and water (min. of 12 glasses/day) going! Hang in there and it will come your way!!
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DONNELDA22 10/17/2013 8:42PM

    10 Glasses of water for 478 days. Hows that for being consistent. Congratulations. emoticon
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CAROL_31649731 10/17/2013 8:32PM

    Brad, I love your analogy of the potholes in the road & having to fix the flat tire that temporarily slowed you up. But more than that, I love you honesty . . . that's what keeps me coming back for more. You're so true to yourself . . . very endearing quality. Stay strong. You've come a long way & and will stay the course. Your best blog ever!!! Thanks . . . very inspiring! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HARROWJET 10/17/2013 8:30PM

    Happy birthday! (It is one of my granddaughter's birthday too.)

We all hit 'potholes', often when we least expect them. We get out of the car, fix the flat, get back in the car and move forward. There will probably be more 'flats' but again, we fix them and move on.
There is no advantage to staying stuck with the flat.

You have proved you know what to do so get back in your car and start moving forward again. emoticon

Continue to blog. It helps.

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SCOUTMOM715 10/17/2013 8:26PM

    emoticon blog Brad!! I can totally relate! I've hit my share of flats lately too! But your last 2 blogs inspired me to fix the tire & get back on the road!!! emoticon This journey may not be easy, but it's so worth it!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TIME-4-TINA 10/17/2013 7:45PM

    Well, my dear, you lost 1 lb. more than I did. So our little challenge was a bust. Oh well, misery loves company. Like I said, next stop is Christmas for me. Are you in? I figure the only pothole should be Thanksgiving. Happy Birthday! Make sure to have your cake and eat it too. It's your special day.

Now, about the NJ turnpike wisecrack........

Have a great day, Oh, I mean night.
Tina (the jersey girl)

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GINA180847 10/17/2013 7:34PM

    Happy 35th birthday! emoticon You are such a youngster! How did you get so smart so young. I had to turn at least 55 to get close to that smart!!!! emoticon

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MPLSKEN 10/17/2013 7:29PM

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Great post!
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CHUBRUB3 10/17/2013 6:53PM

    AWESOME!!
Hugs,
Angela

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HOLLYM48 10/17/2013 6:37PM

    Great Blog Brad! Life does get in the way sometimes and you just have to readjust and get back on track as soon as possible!
You are doing so wonderful and you know your weaknesses and how to get around them!
Keep on pushing! You are so worth the effort!
Happy Happy Birthday!!! I hope you had a marvelous day celebrating the wonder of you!

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FORMYDARLINGS 10/17/2013 6:25PM

    Thanks for sharing the hard stuff with us too. It helps me to know that it is not only me that gets stuck. I have found my way out of my hole and you have found your patch. Let's continue to move forward. Keep blogging. It helps ALL of us!


Gini

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MOVEITMARY 10/17/2013 5:29PM

    Sounds like you got some shiny new MOTIVATION for your birthday!
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Please don't let a 2-month plateau get you down, it happens to all of us. Maybe sometimes the body needs a break from the rigorous weight loss and it manifests in this way. The fact that you not only maintained for 2 months, but still managed to lose a pound, is still a HUGE WIN!!!!
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MSHEL7 10/17/2013 5:28PM

    First, happy birthday. emoticon This is another great blog, you are a very good motivator. emoticon

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MSHEL7 10/17/2013 5:28PM

    First, happy birthday. emoticon This is another great blog, you are a very good motivator. emoticon

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HOPEFULHIPPO 10/17/2013 5:25PM

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LOVE the metaphor! Thanks for sharing :o)

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FELINEBETTER 10/17/2013 4:55PM

    Hey Brad! Happy Birthday! Thank you for your thought-provoking inspiring blogs! You know truly, I had no idea before Spark that weight loss and healthier living is such an inside (mental) job rather than an outside(physical) job! And the fact that you can motivate yourself with your own blog proves that! Your analogy of the road trip is excellent and astute! I am honored to travel this highway with you!

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WVAWACKADOO 10/17/2013 4:35PM

    First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Brad...I loved your blog immensely& can so relate to those potholes...been hitting a few myself...SP friends always help me to get out of the pothole & back on the road...Hope that your day is full of love & laughter. Take care & thanks for sharing...

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 10/17/2013 4:08PM

    I'm pretty sure I've had 2 flats tires and a broken axle since the DG... You know I know what you're talking about. And when we both know what we know... well then, we know what we need to know to do what we know we need to do, ya know?!? LOL!!! You love me! Seriously though, I can't tell you how much I admire you and all of your honesty. This IS hard, and it's even harder to accept a flat tire. Especially when you're in the HOV lane and it's been smooth sailing (driving?) for more than a year. It's ok, you've changed the tire, filled the tank and you're back on the road. Do me a favor and pick me up will ya!?! I've been hitching long enough! Happy Birthday!

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SUSIEMT 10/17/2013 3:49PM

    Good blog Brad! I must say you looked simply marvelous in that Tux! I thought it was your wedding! Like I always tell people that complain that they only lost .2 or whatever. Those ounces add up! You're right the scale is headed in the right direction. Isn't it a wonder what can derail our good efforts. When leaving the fitness center I always take a left out of the parking lot so when I find I am taking a right I try to talk myself into turning around. If I keep going in that direction I know I will end up at a fast food place. However, I am seldom successful in talking myself out of it. Fortunately for me I don't do too much damage except for the guilt trip I choose to lay on myself. Thank goodness it only happens a couple of times a year. But I have as yet figured out what caused me to turn right!
Brad I know you will continue to do this and do it well! Remember you are loved and deserving of love! Keep on keeping on!

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EVER-HOPEFUL 10/17/2013 3:49PM

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JUNEAU2010 10/17/2013 3:19PM

    emoticon I know, absolutely and without a doubt, that this coming year is going to be your best yet! Keep that top down and keep driving forward!

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LADYBUG4869 10/17/2013 2:12PM

    emoticon Have a very blessed day! Thanks for the honesty and the friendship. Be blessed my friend! xo emoticon Love Ladybug

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ARUNNINGKAT 10/17/2013 12:13PM

    emoticon and thanks for sharing your journey with a word picture that helps bring it to life for us. It is good to be reminded that we all struggle and the key is finding a way to get back up again. Enjoy your cruise in the sun today!

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WHOVIANGIRL23 10/17/2013 11:59AM

    I'm sorry, great blog but I just cannot get past the typo. You said 35th birthday, and you really meant to put 900th birthday ;)

You're such a rockstar though, and I think that sometimes peons like me forget that rock stars like you still have bad days here and there. This blog proves that you are still *slightly* human. We can always count on you to keep it real :)

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BETHLOVESBIKING 10/17/2013 11:53AM

    Good for you! What an awesome blog! emoticon

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LJCANNON 10/17/2013 11:46AM

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Happy Birthday and Congratulations on your Water Streak!! That is Awesome!! I enjoyed your Analogy, it really IS a Road Trip we are on, and we have to learn as we go to deal with the "Pot Holes" and "Detours".

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COLOR-BLUE 10/17/2013 11:39AM

    emoticon Happy Birthday my dear friend!

You hit the nail right on the head! You actually know the whole deal in your spirit, and that's what is coming out of you, when you blog. It's a pure and true testimony of YOU, no matter what the journey has brought you, and no matter what mountains have been put in your way. I want you to know that YOU HAVE OVERCOME!!! There is no doubt in my mind that this has already past, and you really are on that open highway and headed down the road to a new season, in your lifestyle change!

Be blessed,

- Nancy Jean -
GA

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JACKIE542 10/17/2013 11:31AM

    emoticon Have a great day Brad. Loved your blog, we have all hit those potholes, just important to contiuue on, great that your blog helped you as it has so many people. emoticon

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