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I don't know how to feel

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

I finally reached ex this morning. It turns out he was in the hospital the entire time (complications from diabetes). He said he couldn't call because his cell phone ran out of charge and he couldn't recharge it. I asked about the telephone by the bedside in just about every hospital. He said, "Well, I meant to, but..." He told me he'd arranged for a company to take 24/7 care of Frank, but the people coordinating his care moved him to a care home because they're not convinced ex is strong enough to care for him. And to be honest, I think they probably looked at the condition of the house and it helped with the decision (ex is a hoarder). Ex is going to a meeting next week about all of this. He doesn't yet know the name of the facility, but it's about ten miles south of ex and about sixty miles south of me.

My heart is in a whirlpool right now. Part of me thinks this may be the best for both of them. Part of me feels like crying and screaming. I just don't know how I should feel.

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BELSNICKEL 10/18/2013 5:33AM

    Sounds to me like things are working out. Tough time though. I imagine there not much you can. Sometimes, Just being a friend and listening can be a lot. emoticon

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MONETRUBY 10/17/2013 9:03PM

    Sending you emoticon and prayers.

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CSYOUNG1952 10/17/2013 8:16PM

    Sending lots of hugs and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. If your ex is not taking good care of himself then he needs to be where someone can.

emoticon Connie

I canít change my past but this is my chance to change my future.

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BARBARASDIET 10/17/2013 5:20PM

    If it is the best care for your son....

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CATLADY52 10/17/2013 5:14PM

    It may be that the time came to do something and you inadvertently got left out of the loop. Possibly your ex will provide you with the name of the facility soon so you can check it out. emoticon I doubt anyone could blame you for yelling and screaming to yourself about the situation.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/17/2013 3:03PM

    OH my. I am just so sorry. I agree that it would make things a whole lot easier to deal with if you at least knew the name of the facility and could see it and see your son!!! Is that possible to find out from the hospital the name of the facility? Or who was in charge of transferring him there??

My prayers and thoughts are with you. ((((HUGS)))))

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LIS193 10/17/2013 3:02PM


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MPARKER67 10/17/2013 1:37PM

    Understand why you are up in the air.

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CHEFSOPHIE 10/17/2013 11:37AM

    I am so sorry for you. It must be so difficult learning about this after the fact.

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SHERYLDS 10/17/2013 11:13AM

    ďThe strongest oak tree of the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. Itís the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and rains and the scorching sun.Ē ~Napolean Hill
hang in there emoticon

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MRS_TOAD 10/17/2013 8:26AM

    My thoughts and prayers are with you! emoticon

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GARDENCHRIS 10/17/2013 7:39AM

    it will all work out.... emoticon

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MPETERSON2311 10/17/2013 7:34AM

    I hope things get better soon.

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SKIRNIR 10/17/2013 6:39AM

    Hard to decide if it is what is best until you get a chance to see the facility, talk to the staff, etc. Don't even know the name of the facility? That would drive me crazy.

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WINDSONG~ 10/17/2013 5:44AM

    It will be what is needed and if not then it can be altered. Hugs

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.DUSTY. 10/17/2013 3:28AM

    You had mentioned in an earlier blog that you both were going to start looking for a place for Frank since your ex was getting concerned that soon he wouldn't be physically able to care for him.

I know it's very emotional for you but like you said maybe it's best. It just came a little sooner than you expected.


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GLAMNGLOWDIVA 10/17/2013 1:38AM

    You're right this might be the best for both of them. I'm sure you're emotions are all over the place with this. Maybe a little screaming will help.

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MT-MOONCHASER 10/17/2013 12:36AM

    I think that both trains of thought and feeling have merit.

So maybe you should to a little screaming (to yourself) and some crying, and then see how it all works out.

If the care home is a decent one, Frank should probably have more interaction with a variety of people than he was getting at home, which could be a very good thing for him.

That is a hard decision for anybody, but often it is good for all involved when looked at in hindsight. That doesn't make it one bit easier in the present, though.

I hope that things will all work out for you and yours.


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NASFKAB 10/16/2013 11:42PM

  what to write hope it all turns out for the bst

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LINDA! 10/16/2013 11:41PM


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