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I don't have the right...

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Wednesday, October 16, 2013

I was cleaning out a bunch of old papers and ran across a picture from a 2007 church directory of my family and I. It was printed on an inkjet printer, hence the big water stain on my face (of all places) but I had forgotten that this picture even existed. There weren't too many of them around since they had been mostly purged because they never showed me in a good light, or angle, or anything else for that matter. Thankfully a few survived.

I sat and stared at it for a LONG time. I looked at my non-existent neck, face, arms, even the fact that I was hiding behind my youngest daughter Emily. That WAS ME, the old me.

I then looked at me from a few days ago, the picture of me in the finishers shirt.

Then:


Now:




I just realized something.

I don't have the RIGHT to stay down in the dumps for any reason.

There are so many who are striving every day to try to get to a place where they can have such a picture and here I am whining about a few things and allowing that to spoil my personal victory.

I remember a long time ago I told someone who was struggling and was discouraged about not being what they thought they should be a few things that came to back to me at that moment...

Let me share:

So what if you didn't run the perfect race, or even come close to doing as well as you thought you should. So what if you jiggled and didn't look suave and cool for the cameras. So what if you had to "lower yourself" and walk because you needed to.

So WHAT?

If the race course ran by a hospital, there were patients that watched you run by and longed to be able to breathe like you, to have use of their legs, to have the sun on their face, or to simply breathe fresh air and not have to listen to the moans of the suffering.

If the course ran by a residential area, there were those that sat in their chairs wishing they had your courage, wishing they could be active like you. To know what it is to do what you are doing and not feel like they are going to die.

If the course ran by a prison, there were inmates that felt a stab of regret about what landed them there, and felt some sort of longing to just be able to have a choice in their lives and do something without being watched, locked down, or herded from one area to another.

Then there are those at the finish line, the waiting families and friends that wonder what it has to feel like to do something like that and wear a medal, to finish something they started, to endure and see it through.

It all came back to me and I realized that with so many people who would give anything to have what I have, I am a debtor to them. To make sure that if they cannot experience it themselves, to not make it worse by making them watch as I act foolishly and squander away what they have dreamed about.

So what if I am a little off track, I'm still charting a course to ultimate victory because I have learned that in the long run, I will accept nothing less.

Happiness is a choice and ultimate success is also a choice because each decision lays the ground work for the next like one foot in front of the other. I know from experience that no matter how fast or how slow, one foot in front of the other will get you to the finish line be it a 5k or a 70.3

I don't have the right to be crabby.

It's time to smile.


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AJB121299 10/18/2013 2:43PM

    nice

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EMILYBEHNKE 10/18/2013 2:25PM

    Really well written and truthful post. Time to focus on the positives, and bust through all those negative thoughts! Also--you look great, good job!

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MOTIVATIONFOUND 10/18/2013 1:53PM

    So true! Thank you so much for the reminder! emoticon

You look awesome! Fantastic job and an even better attitude.

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NLYR20 10/18/2013 1:44PM

  Wow, wonderful way to put it together...

It's the choice to be on course for victory...

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ADAPTINGANNIE 10/18/2013 1:16PM

    Very well said. Never thought about those who might wish to be able to do even the little that I can. Thanks you for sharing and making me think a little. Just a little funny- I misread your second to last line - read "crabby" as "crybaby".....guess it is just whatever you need.
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MARITA_TOMES 10/18/2013 12:28PM

  Way to go! You're an inspiration to me! I have just started my long journey of weight loss and getting fit and active! Seeing other people who have done it and are still doing it, makes me know that I can do it! Knowing that all people struggle and it doesn't come natural or easy to anyone is a great thing to keep in the back of my head. Everyone struggles here and there and it's the attitude and mindset that you CHOOSE to have that is what keeps you on track and pulls you back to your ultimate goal! Thank you for sharing! emoticon

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MRSRIGS1 10/18/2013 11:43AM

    Excellent! emoticon

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CLOEARIEL 10/18/2013 11:18AM

    What a great mindset! Thank you!

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JPONCIN 10/18/2013 11:05AM

    Finally made it. Nice job! :)

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LINDAKAY228 10/18/2013 10:52AM

    Great blog! You can do it!

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SUN_SET91 10/18/2013 10:44AM

    Thank you for sharing. A true inspiration to others. Congratulations on your weight loss.

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FARIS71 10/18/2013 10:06AM

    Awesome and inspiring as usual! Hard to argue with photographic evidence! I think I should pull mine out for a reminder.

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    Great

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MEWHENRYSMAMA 10/18/2013 6:56AM

    AWESOME!!!!

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ROSAMARCELLE 10/18/2013 4:01AM

    Very well said and very inspiring to others on the way down. emoticon

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SUNNYARIZONA 10/18/2013 12:32AM

    Amazing how far we come.....and to NOTE that reality, makes for alot of JOY in ones life to know that you have done what needed to be done.....AND we all, and you, are a work in progress. NO one arrives, and says DONE....we have to continue to be vigulant, stick with our plan, and we achieve victory!

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MARYJEANSL 10/18/2013 12:07AM

  Wonderful attitude - and you are so right!

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SUGAR0814 10/17/2013 11:55PM

    Thank you for sharing! Congrats on your weight loss!! emoticon emoticon

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    emoticon Proud of you!

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IRISHGAL46 10/17/2013 11:24PM

    Sounds perfect to me. emoticon

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GINGERVISTA 10/17/2013 11:15PM

    emoticon blog!
How nice to look at current photos & know how much better you FEEL, not just how you look. And one of the BEST things we can do for our kids is be an example of health & fitness. emoticon

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  emoticon emoticon on you inspiring blog.

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SEAJESS 10/17/2013 10:50PM

    Hey, sweetie, you have the right to any feeling that pops up just 'cause you're human. You can't stop a bird from landing on your head. What I'm hearing you say is that you're not gonna let it build a nest.

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AFREIMAN 10/17/2013 10:45PM

  A person should never negate their feelings by telling them-self they have no right to them. That leads to a disconnect with both yourself and those around you.

Would you tell someone else when they have a bad day ...or when something goes wrong that they have no right to feel that way because they have X, Y or Z going for them...

Probably not.

Instead of saying you don't deserve to feel bad become more self-aware and reflective... Don't negate your feelings...they do matter.

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KKLENNERT809 10/17/2013 10:25PM

    You are an inspiration for us all. Congrats on your success and keep it up!

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DEEEBEE 10/17/2013 10:16PM

    That's wonderful! Thank you for sharing. And, BTW, you look great! You have accomplished SO MUCH!

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PENOWOK 10/17/2013 9:39PM

    You betcha!!

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JAMER123 10/17/2013 9:33PM

    Great blog and a positive inspiration to others!! Good for you!! And a CONGRATS to you on your weight loss!!
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YICHE12 10/17/2013 9:31PM

    What a transformation! Good for you. emoticon

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CICELY360 10/17/2013 9:25PM

  Good blog

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CIRCULARPRAISE 10/17/2013 8:48PM

    Excellent post! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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MSLADYBUG3 10/17/2013 8:28PM

    Enjoyed reading your Blog, very nicely said. Keep moving forward.....

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TIME-4-TINA 10/17/2013 7:58PM

    It's actually nice to stumble upon those kinds of pictures of yourself to see how far you've come. You don't recognize yourself, because it's not you anymore.

Now, I see you were using the "Hide the Heavy" technique with your daughter in the picture. You know I hold the patent on that. Did you get permission to use that technique? ha ha!
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LIVELYGIRL2 10/17/2013 7:07PM

  Oh Robert, give me 5 !!!

I'm glad to see your family and I would have to think they too are thrilled with your progeress and new life.

God has given you a new chance, as you said, others don't take or recognize. emoticon emoticon

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NANCYSINATRA 10/17/2013 6:29PM

    Oh my, how that spoke to me today. I have been whining and having a pity party. Thank you so much for sharing. What a great reminder!!

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SHERYLP461 10/17/2013 6:09PM

    What a wonderful thing to realize you are perfect just the way you are

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LINDAK25 10/17/2013 5:42PM

    I'm so glad that you posted this. You're right happiness is a choice. You have so much to be grateful for. It's true. Let go of all that negative energy that's holding you back. Just a little Spark can lighten up the dark.

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JSEATTLE 10/17/2013 5:34PM

  I love your post. Great accomplishments for you, isn't it neat to go through the old pictures as they can be so revealing!

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