Wednesday, October 16, 2013
SHERYLDS great blog (go read it!) gave me pause this morning. Any behavior you engage in that is self-sabotaging, that takes you away from what you want, or that distracts you from your goals is behavior that is self-defeating. These behaviors kill vitality, leaving you exhausted. And when you don’t have vitality, there is no awesome energy to create a good (best?) life.
I’ve found these ‘killers’ in my own life:
• Stopping for fast food when you’re committed to healthy eating.
• Focusing on what other people need to do rather than on what you need to do. An addendum to this would be taking care of everyone except yourself—a trait too often found in the healthcare industry.
• Reading that last chapter in a good book when you’re supposed to be at the gym.
• Saying no, no, no to that cookie and 15 minutes later giving in (and in and in again).
• Saying that you want to lay off the sweets then meeting a friend for coffee at where? A bakery. An addendum here, at least for me: watching cooking shows(!).
• Procrastinating taking actions that will give you what you desire.
• Worrying about what other people think of you.
I think feelings of inferiority cause us to sabotage ourselves sometimes. They preclude stepping out of our comfort zones to take a healthy risk. Instead of converting anxiety into a productive action, we let it paralyze. Meanwhile, time passes, the years pile up, and you realize anxiety has devoured a good portion of life. Oof.
Looking over the list, I think the most positive thing is the fact that my life is in my own hands. I make the decisions. Empowerment is an overused word, but there it is.