Tuesday, October 15, 2013
I just have to vent. I witnessed something disturbing and disappointing from people I have known most of my life and thought I knew better. Everybody who knows me knows I average about 10-minutes a month on facebook - if that. But the past month, I have been making an effort to reach out and be more sociable with my friends and family. Anyway ... I was on the page of a dear old friend who had shared and commented on a video that is going around, I guess. I watched this video and it was of a very large woman, moving around in her livingroom, clearly with the purpose to do something about her weight. Her face was set, determined, and focused (it also looked as if she might have some trauma-related retardation). She did a little dancing, and got on the floor and did some calisthenics. I felt she was to be commended for her efforts, and brave to record it as part of her 'before' files. But the comments below the video, were all nasty, petty, and cruel. I couldn't believe it. Especially because I had always thought of this friend as a particular kind and wise person - since we were teens! But even more so, because she has always struggled with weight herself, as have I, and because her two oldest sisters have always been most profoundly obese and have suffered quite a lot of misery because of it. And some of the others commenting nasty remarks are also fat - and always have been. But the worse part of it all - ALL of these people are people who identify themselves as Christians; at least one of them, the holier-than-thou type, which is even indicated on his facebook name.
I think that woman should have been commended for her courage and determination. Encouraged. What she is attempting to do is SO difficult to do, even when you are surrounded by loving support. Now she has to try to succeed with the energies of random people in the facebook sphere, sneering at her. It was really bothering me and I just had to let it out somewhere.
To the loving beings who answer my most heart-felt prayers: Please help that woman, and everyone else who is struggling with the task to lose weight and get healthy all on their own, to stay strong and true to their goal, in spite of all of the odds against them.