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Tuesday, October 15, 2013

I recently let a chip build on my shoulder and found that I was becoming brutal! And that is both in word and cutting off the very ones that I love or care about! One of my online friends sent me the following reminders so that I could rein in that which was destroying me so much! Here is an excerpt from him when he gave me a good old fashioned ďtongue lashingĒ!

Itís when you've awakened with a full day ahead of you after only two hours of sleep.

Itís when thereís nothing for you to do but sit by your friends as they deal with tragedies and all the hard stuff life throws at us.

Itís when you donít know how to handle the situations in your life that are anything but black and white.

Itís when you feel utterly helpless and powerless as you watch someone you care about aching with the deep soul wounds that only come from losing the person that comprised the other half of their heart.

Itís when your own heart feels as though itís been crushed beyond recognition over and over again.

Itís when your path is entirely unclear and you donít know if the next step is solid ground or off a cliff.

Itís when youíre not sure if the decisions you've made are the right ones.

Itís when sometimes you realize they werenít.

Itís when it looks as though the world is irrevocably falling apart.

Itís when it seems like people are becoming more and more disconnected, lonely, and afraid.

Itís when you feel as though thereís no way you can even begin to help fix any of it.

Itís when you realize that, in spite of it all, you really are smart and strong enough to make it through step by agonizingly slow step.

Itís when you realize that just when you thought you had nothing left to give, you find you actually have everything left to give and more.

Itís when you want to give up on it all, but find that one thing that drives you to keep going.

Itís easy to love and give and feel happy and alive when things are going well, when we feel as though the world is our oyster. But what happens when life feels as though itís caving in with a spirit crushing weight?

If we are open to the lessons from our hardships, misfortunes, and tragedies they will inevitably build within us an increasingly unshakable compassion, understanding, and love.

And just because we think we canít see something doesn't mean itís not there. The world around us reminds us of it all the time. Even the sun, moon, and stars silently show us that they exist even when thereís too much in the way to see them.

This dressing down really helped me see that it is not always just about me....

Hope if you need them, they will also make you stop to think and practice what you know and believe is right for you!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SASSYSAX 10/16/2013 4:01PM

    I love reading your blogs. I'm gong to subscribe to it.

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LOLABLACK69 10/16/2013 7:54AM

    Thank you... emoticon

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BTRX71 10/15/2013 7:53PM

    Wow! A truly amazing blog. Thank you for sharng this. emoticon emoticon

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CELLOPLAYER1 10/15/2013 7:21PM


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GABY1948 10/15/2013 6:34PM

    Jean, this was an OUTSTANDING blog! Thank you so much for sharing!

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PDSLIM 10/15/2013 3:31PM


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    The place I feel the most alone and lonely is in a crowd. Because when I am by myself I expect it to be just me and then I find God to keep me company.

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JEANNE229 10/15/2013 12:55PM

    Amazing words...

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SANDRALEET 10/15/2013 11:28AM

    We all at one time will get where you are We can feel lonely hopeless and scared Put we are not alone God and our loved ones are with us Hang in there my friend emoticon

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LJCANNON 10/15/2013 10:34AM

    emoticon Best Tongue Lashing EVER!! Your Friend is Very, Very Wise!! Thank You for sharing this. I wonder if You or Your Friend would mind if I borrowed it?

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MOM2ACAT 10/15/2013 10:31AM

    So very well said, and another reminder that we must all be kind to one another; not just our friends and family, but those we don't know.

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BEEANDHAM 10/15/2013 10:07AM

    Thanks for sharing!

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AWESOMECHELZ 10/15/2013 8:00AM

    My dearest Jean:

For me, I need to find a balance between what I know to be right and doing it when it is very hard AND nurturing to myself since, if my vessel is empty, I have nothing to give. That balance is challenging and makes life interesting, doesn't it? Here is a scripture that helps me:

"And see that all these things are done in wisdom and order; for it is not requisite that a man should run faster than he has strength. And again, it is expedient that he should be diligent, that thereby he might win the prize; therefore, all things must be done in order." Mosiah 4:27

So balance the tongue lashing with self-healing, and your peace will be more complete. God bless you today, my friend. Sending you warm hugs all the way from Florida. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DJSHIP46 10/15/2013 7:45AM

    Thanks for sharing... Joy is portable, just remember to take it with you... Have a great day emoticon

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FERRETLOVER1 10/15/2013 7:22AM


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PATRICIA441 10/15/2013 7:07AM

    Most of us have gone through and will go through again what you described in your post. I have found this is when I need my friends even more and even more than that I need God. I turn the hurt and utter ,unbelievable pain over to Him who knows what I am going through and is there for me 24/7. If I am so deep in that pain or hurt and cannot pray I know I have wonderful, caring friends that will . I pray you know that we are here for you. That we are a click away ready to lift you up, to hold you in our hearts and be there with you however you need us. Much love, Pat emoticon

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    It often isn't about us... it often isn't about them... it's that we're human and imperfect, despite our best perfectionist tendancies !

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NASFKAB 10/15/2013 6:46AM

  beautiful thought provoking

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