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We Have to Stop Talking About Weight Loss

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Monday, October 14, 2013



We have to stop talking about weight loss. The "lifestyle change" we're all creating cannot be fully present as long as we're focused on what we don't want. "I don't want this 10 or 100 pounds hanging around. I don't want these love handles. I don't like my post-pregnancy belly. I am embarrassed by my upper arms. I am so out of shape. I can't walk/run/lift weights. I have too much loose skin." We've all had a litany of complaints about our bodies -- the things we want to change, the things we don't like to see in the mirror or on the scale. So we keep talking about them, thinking about them, focusing on them. We keep saying "no" to our bodies as they are today.

And let's not get started on all the ways we say "no" to food. "I can't eat that. That's not in my plan."

How would the journey be different if we focused on "yes?" What if we were driven, not by rejecting ourselves, but by embracing positive changes? What if the "yes" to good health, good food, good activity, and most of all, self-approval, was burning so much brighter than that old self-loathing? What if we tried every day to tap into the self-approval, the longing for health, the joy of life, and let that be our fuel for this weight-management journey?

I'm starting by switching my language from weight-loss to weight-management and health-maintenance and other positive terms. I'm also focusing on what I can do, right now, to advance my progress. That doesn't come from castigating myself for past actions with my body. It follows that longing to be healthy, strong, vital, and active.

Have a beautiful week, friends!
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CATNCAG 6/10/2014 4:44PM

    emoticon blog Angel City Gal! emoticon that we should respond & think that way about everything! Focus on the positives forget the negatives! I'm in the process of doing this myself! emoticon

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LORIVIOLA 3/24/2014 1:44PM

    emoticon for the emoticon blog.
i send you virtual hugs too.

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TERRIJ7 3/4/2014 11:38AM

    Great advice!

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GRAMPIAN 12/10/2013 6:03AM

  Good attitude. emoticon

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NASFKAB 12/6/2013 10:10PM

  great thanks

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SLIMLEAF 11/18/2013 5:50PM

    I've only just come across this blog - over a month since it was written - but better late than never!

I found it challenging, helpful and inspiring. Why haven't I thought of this myself?!

Thank you for sharing it.

I wonder what exciting things tomorrow holds now that I can stop haranguing myself over my failings?!

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ALIDOSHA 11/18/2013 4:07PM

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WRITINGDIVA1 11/12/2013 2:17PM

    Thanks!

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BLPRETTYGIRL1 11/12/2013 11:32AM

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DANI33333 11/5/2013 1:05AM

  sorry computer duplicated last comment, and it won't let me edit it to delete it! Sorry my apologies :(

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DANI33333 11/5/2013 12:56AM

  We totally need to talk about what we can do or eat, instead of what we are not suppose to do. Filling our lives with positive uplifting things can create a wonderful experience for us all. Please lets find out what works for our own body, and do those wonderful things that helps us feel better.

Thanks,
Dani http://www.weightlosstournaments.co
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DANI33333 11/5/2013 12:56AM

  We totally need to talk about what we can do or eat, instead of what we are not suppose to do. Filling our lives with positive uplifting things can create a wonderful experience for us all. Please lets find out what works for our own body, and do those wonderful things that helps us feel better.

Thanks,
Dani http://www.weightlosstournaments.co
m/

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DANI33333 11/5/2013 12:56AM

  We totally need to talk about what we can do or eat, instead of what we are not suppose to do. Filling our lives with positive uplifting things can create a wonderful experience for us all. Please lets find out what works for our own body, and do those wonderful things that helps us feel better.

Thanks,
Dani http://www.weightlosstournaments.co
m/

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DANI33333 11/5/2013 12:56AM

  We totally need to talk about what we can do or eat, instead of what we are not suppose to do. Filling our lives with positive uplifting things can create a wonderful experience for us all. Please lets find out what works for our own body, and do those wonderful things that helps us feel better.

Thanks,
Dani http://www.weightlosstournaments.co
m/

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DANI33333 11/5/2013 12:56AM

  We totally need to talk about what we can do or eat, instead of what we are not suppose to do. Filling our lives with positive uplifting things can create a wonderful experience for us all. Please lets find out what works for our own body, and do those wonderful things that helps us feel better.

Thanks,
Dani http://www.weightlosstournaments.co
m/

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DANI33333 11/5/2013 12:55AM

  We totally need to talk about what we can do or eat, instead of what we are not suppose to do. Filling our lives with positive uplifting things can create a wonderful experience for us all. Please lets find out what works for our own body, and do those wonderful things that helps us feel better.

Thanks,
Dani http://www.weightlosstournaments.co
m/

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DANI33333 11/5/2013 12:53AM

  We totally need to talk about what we can do or eat, instead of what we are not suppose to do. Filling our lives with positive uplifting things can create a wonderful experience for us all. Please lets find out what works for our own body, and do those wonderful things that helps us feel better.

Thanks,
Dani http://www.weightlosstournaments.co
m/

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SAVVYHORSEGIRL 11/3/2013 7:44PM

    A most excellent post. emoticon

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RASPBERRY56 11/3/2013 5:43PM

    Thank you for sharing!

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APRILRUSSELL3 11/3/2013 4:17PM

    Thank you for this perspective. I know this is something I need to change about how I'm looking at this. I just so desperately want to be thin again but as long as I'm focused on the negatives, I won't be as successful. I need to make this journey fun!

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ISABELLE31 11/1/2013 11:14AM

    Wonderful perspective. Thanks for sharing!

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MCJULIEO 10/29/2013 3:13PM

    So well put!

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MYRNA929 10/29/2013 12:11PM

    Great blog! Thanks for sharing and reminding us to think positive! emoticon

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SECRETKEL 10/27/2013 10:47PM

    Very well said! I couldn't agree more! Great post!
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WHITEANGEL4 10/27/2013 10:15PM

    Well said...as I tell people I am not on a diet, but a healthy eating plan

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ZANNACHAN 10/26/2013 2:09PM

    I love this blog! So very well said.

I have worked hard since I decided I needed to change my lifestyle to focus on the positives, because I realized very quickly that negatives (such as "I can't have that") made me feel angry, frustrated, and deprived. So I don't say "I can't drink pop" I say "I need to drink at least 8 glasses of water a day." I try to focus on being healthier, stronger, fitter, more active, and more in control of my body and my life.

But I still struggle with it. I have my days--I hit a patch recently--where it's really hard not to hate my body--hate it because it hurts, because I can't do things I feel like I should be able to do, because I'm fat and carrying too much unhealthy fat in the gut especially, etc. But hating my body accomplishes nothing but alienating myself from my own body--good and bad. So I try really hard to stay positive and what I want--to be healthy and active etc.--than on what I don't like.

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EFFRAYECHILDE 10/25/2013 7:38AM

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BARBARAJ73 10/23/2013 8:50AM

    emoticon Have "obsessed" by the negatives for too long. Time for a positive outlook!

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FIRECOM 10/22/2013 11:03AM

    We all need to find our own path, and you have certainly found yours. I applaud you.

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SADDHU1 10/21/2013 1:48PM

  Very wise words and well said! Attitude determines our beliefs. Beliefs determine our actions. Our actions determine our habits. Our habits determine our destiny in this world.

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TBOURLON 10/21/2013 10:20AM

    I agree there has to be more to life than weight loss. I've been obsessed with my weight for years, and also afraid I'd pass that obsession on to my daughters. Well now my 17 year old weighs herself daily. She's lost some weight and is proud - GOD, she sounds like me. She made a 34 on the ACT, now THERE'S something to be proud of. I started playing guitar again, and I'm trying to write another book - hopefully one I'll finish this time. And the key to that is to play and write daily, consistently, follow an outline/plan; sound familiar? emoticon

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BANDMOM2012 10/21/2013 9:52AM

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CHARTHESTAR 10/21/2013 7:42AM

    Excellent post.
100% true.
Congrats on a popular blog post!

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LEANMEAN2 10/21/2013 5:28AM

    agree. Thanks for sharing.

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GETULLY 10/20/2013 12:26PM

    So true. I walk because it makes me feel great; a side benefit is the calorie burn. Very well said!

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SHERYLP461 10/20/2013 7:18AM

    Perfect, I have a friend that starts each response with no, even if she is agreeing with you

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MAYBER 10/20/2013 12:06AM

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts
And you are right on about talking about our weight losses
Taking one day at a time
Love Prayers Peace

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RACEWELLWON 10/19/2013 2:47PM

    I agree , awesome blog!

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NLYR20 10/18/2013 1:36PM

  Nice positive approach!!
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JIBBIE49 10/18/2013 8:30AM

    emoticon great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. What an honor. emoticon

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PIGGYWAY 10/18/2013 7:50AM

  LOVE YOUR PIECE THAT SOUND A LOT LIKE ME

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SASSYTHING52 10/18/2013 1:44AM

    good blog

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CORNERKICK 10/18/2013 12:57AM

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EMMACORY 10/17/2013 10:09PM

    I agree that language is important. What we think about influences us more than we can imagine. Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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WHITEANGEL4 10/17/2013 9:48PM

    Great blog...keep i up

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POPSY190 10/17/2013 5:12PM

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LADYMARCIA1 10/17/2013 4:59PM

    Thanks for the positive message. It has resonated in me because I'm trying only positive re-enforcement to my life. As a breast cancer survivor, I want to be grateful, positive and live the rest of my life in constant recognition of how wonderful it is to be alive. And not allow the life previously lead to infiltrate this new found gratitude I feel for being so blessed. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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IMAGINE46 10/17/2013 3:52PM

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KRAZEKATZ 10/17/2013 2:39PM

    Terrific outlook, we can all take a page from you book/blog today and incorporate it into our journey. emoticon

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CHRISTASP 10/17/2013 2:37PM

    Good thoughts! Thank you.

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