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BULLING, Giving up, Moving On, QUITTING

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Sunday, October 13, 2013

Some of our greatest tests are how we respond others.

It seems that there are too many MEAN PEOPLE in the world.
Unfortunately some of them are on spark.

Mean words meant I am thinking about quitting, giving up on spark.
Mean words hurt more than one can ever put into words.
Mean people love being bullies.

There is ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE for being mean or rude on the journey. We are all trying our best each and every day. We don't need mean rude remarks on posts or emails that make us want to GIVE UP.
If you are that way, kindly, please go away.

PLEASE change the way you think. Work on YOU. Work on improving what is making you think in a hurtful way attacking others. There are so many self-help classes out there that can change, improve the way you think. Seeking out a LIFE-Coach can also help. Our lives are our opportunities to grow as people, to learn to be the best we can. That is what we should strive for.

Spark bullies please leave.
While I work on my goals, struggle with my challenges, focus on my dreams you dare stomp on me, attacking. How rude. How would like someone doing that to you? JUST THINK OF HOW KIND WORDS CAN LIFT PEOPLE UP. Think of how rude words rip people apart. I DON'T LIKE FEELING SAD. YOU HURT ME. emoticon
Yes, I have feelings.

You choose to take time to write angry words hurt me and you don't even know me.

I will PRAY for you. I will send you POSITIVE ENERGY. I hope you can find some PEACE in your LIFE.

It's YOUR CHOICE on how you BEHAVE. Do you want to leave your mark in this world knowing you made your day brighter by hurting someone else?
Do you have nothing else to do but be mean?
Is it too hard to be KIND or NICE.
I am so sorry you have had a bad day.
I don't think you meant all those mean things.
I am so sorry for your DIFFICULTIES.
LIFE is challenging, it's made that way to make us STRONGER, more COMPASSIONATE, KINDER, and WISER.

I can send you a virtual hug if you like.

Why not think of SPREADING CHEER, complementing someone on making it through 10 minutes of cravings, or a day of sticking to the plan.

I dare you to RISE UP and cheer someone on.

I dare you to say something KIND or nice.

I feel so sorry that your day is so bad that you find the need to hurt others.

Here on spark, I let MY SOUL SHINE.
Don't stomp on it.

I dare you to have the COURAGE TO FIND KIND WORDS within your heart.
I dare you to see the BEAUTY IN EACH DAY.
I dare you to find HUMOR in life.

Your life may be easy in comparison to mine.
I bet you can't handle a day walking in my shoes.
I bet you never would of survived the things I have had to endure in my life.
I bet you would roll over and give up to the pain and challenges I face.

I always hope to make someone else's day a bit BRIGHTER.
I strive to do my BEST each and every day.
I desire to CHEER others up.
I love to ENCOURAGE.
I love to INSPIRE.

Dear Bully. I feel so sorry for you. Please remember you will be welcomed here even when you are mean as others care for you.

We hope our KINDNESS WILL LIGHT A FIRE OF DESIRE TO REACH OUT AND INSPIRE OTHERS. There is hope for you. I know your probably facing lots of hard times that are making you struggle. Your words are a CRY FOR HELP. You matter, don't give up on yourself. Hugs.

I pray you find PEACE and LOVE.

May you learn to find JOY to DANCE through life. Be blessed my new friend. If you ever need a hug, encouragement I am here for you.

My dear new friend. I hope you can let your soul SHINE.

I won't carry your burden of anger.
I hope you can find some healing.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

STEPBYSTEP1955 10/14/2013 3:02PM

    emoticon blog and great attitude. I'm so sorry that someone was mean to you. I am glad that you are handling the situation in such a positive manner. Please don't let that person have the satisfaction of seeing you give up/quit Spark. We are here for you!

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JAVAGAL47 10/14/2013 2:46PM

    I can not imagine receiving a rude remark here on Spark. I hope that the person did not realize how it came across. Even so, prayers will be said for whomever made the statements or comments to you. That oerson needs to understand how what they say comes across. I have been here for years, and this is a first for me.
I was a greeter in an assisted living place and maybe because I loved to help anyone who had a problem, I had no bad experience. OH, well there was one 100 (now 101) year old who told my daughter she didn't like me. But she did like my dog's wagging tail! She just had definite ideas about who should fill her empty cup of coffee, or get a spoon she needed, etc. THAT she felt was the staff's job, and I had no business trying to help her.
Know you are loved, and go on loving others. I don't know you but your blog shows you care. A Spark friend, Betty emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MRSRIGS1 10/14/2013 2:45PM

    It's horrible to hear that bullying is happening on this site. I'm sorry that someone was awful to you. I think it's awesome how you took something 'ugly' and found a positive approach to let them know they said and had hurtful actions. Good for you! emoticon

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LCRUMLEY81 10/14/2013 2:33PM

  great blog

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FIT4MEIN2013 10/14/2013 1:52PM

    emoticon I never 'feel' the mean remarks personally. I wish that everyone could have had the blessing to have a dad that impressed on them that if someone doesn't like them, it was the other person's problem. The only ones who have the ability to hurt me are those whom I love. Frankly, I don't love a lot of people. I am a friend to many, acquaintance to more, but love few.

My parents, my daughters, my grandmother and cousins all have the ability to hurt me, but no one else does.

I am confident in myself and pray that you and others will also have that confidence one day. You are wonderful, thriving, miracles of God. Rejoice in it! If someone has a problem with you, it is THEIR problem, not yours.

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PATRICIAANN46 10/14/2013 1:46PM

  emoticon Bullies are usually people with low self-esteem who only feel good when they are making others feel bad. Your blog rises above them and actually forgives them. You can also BLOCK people from getting to your site. I admire you very much and emoticon for being such a wonderful inspiration to all of us.

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JEANNEBUM2 10/14/2013 1:26PM

  I think it's human nature that we remember the hurtful things more than the kind. I have a sign on my bulletin board at work that says, "People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel". That's been true for me. No matter where you go, someone will be thinking or saying something ugly. I try to feel sorry for them, rather than mad, because mad hurts me, and I've done nothing to deserve it. Being sorry for them makes me feel like I'm the better person. But most of all, just be glad you aren't like them!

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JUSGETTENBY42 10/14/2013 11:53AM


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JANTHEBLONDE 10/14/2013 11:45AM

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FAVORITEAUNT84 10/14/2013 11:22AM

    I love this blog entry. I don't love the reason you felt the need to create it - bullying sucks and you shouldn't have had to experience it. However, it is beautiful! emoticon

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TRIPLE_EMME 10/14/2013 10:34AM


Sorry to hear about your bad experience. Words can hurt.

Please don't give up. Let your soul shine.

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FUNLOVEN 10/14/2013 10:22AM

    Obviously someone has hurt you badly! I am sooo sorry to hear this.

I hope you know that people rarely see themselves as they are. Who ever hurt you probably doesn't even know what they did. Sometimes you can ignore it when someone hurts you. We just let it slide. But when someone keeps hurting you over and over you need to address it with that person. I hope you were able to do this. If not, I'm worried that the person or persons will never recognize themselves in this blog.

Now, look at all of the positive Spark people who are here to support you and cheer you on.


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GARDENCHRIS 10/14/2013 10:13AM

    I'm sorry you were bullied..... emoticon

bullies have to bully as they feel so bad about themselves they have to bully to feel good about themselves and it is just a vicious cycle..... so really.... the bullies are the ones who are the saddest people on earth....... I let them be in their own little sphere of self hate....... ignoring them is the best defense..... if you do not respond they get no enjoyment......and they move on all on their own. Until someone stronger in themselves tells them to shut up and go home, then they sulk... to bad so sad. Yea to all bully slayers!

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JANEMARIE77 10/14/2013 9:57AM

    sorry you where hurt by someones words but i love your attitude.
"Iíve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
Iíve learned that you cannot make someone love you, all you can do is be someone who can be loved ." Anon

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BRENDA_G50 10/14/2013 9:54AM

    emoticon with what you said in your blog about bullying. emoticon

I'm so sorry that someone was mean and rude to you and I'm so glad that you turned that negativity around by answering it with positivity. I find you to be a very positive and inspiring person that we can all learn from. I've always thought of SP to be a place of encouragement. Please don't let that person get you down. We are here for each other.


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DJSHIP46 10/14/2013 9:40AM

    Sorry to hear that you've been hurt...

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PRIN1978 10/14/2013 9:39AM

    Wow! Never thought that would happen on this site! Like your blog!! emoticon emoticon

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DIANNEMT 10/14/2013 9:35AM

    I am so sorry you had bad interactions here on Spark. I don't know if there is a way to ban that person from your page without going private but ask. DON'T LEAVE just cause one person is bad--but stay with the rest of us!!

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111BUTTERFLY111 10/14/2013 9:27AM


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SBARGANZ 10/14/2013 9:20AM

    Oh, gosh! I'm sorry people said mean things. Don't quit!

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REGILIEH 10/14/2013 8:55AM

    WOW!!! I have NEVER had anybody on SP be mean or bullying to me, just the opposite. In fact I have been on maintenance for years and stay active here because of all the wonderful people and I learn so much from them.

I always figure if someone is mean, catty or whatever that they do not feel good about themselves so I try to kill them with kindness as I do feel sorry for them because something has happened them to kill their self esteem.

I am so sorry anyone treated you badly.



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RUDITUDI2000 10/14/2013 8:54AM

    Thanks for being shiny! Don't let anyone put your light out! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RANDOMLY_HONEST 10/14/2013 8:47AM

    So sorry to hear that you were treated rudely. Way to go being the "bigger" person and responding positively.

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LKS2GAB2 10/14/2013 8:40AM

    We are hard enough on our self we do not need negative energy from others. I have been fortunate to have found a wonderful group of people on this site that has encouraged me and lifted me up when I was really down. I hope this person reads your blog with an open mind and really thinks about the words.

This is a beautiful blog. emoticon

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MIMIDOT 10/14/2013 8:38AM

    Sorry someone was rude to you. I can't believe it! You're so nice and positive to others. Here'e a hug from me. Hope you have a great day!

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WATERONE 10/14/2013 8:31AM

    You are so right! There is no excuse for someone being rude or mean. I'm so sorry you were faced with this. emoticon Excellent blog.

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JIBBIE49 10/14/2013 8:08AM

    emoticon Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail.

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 10/14/2013 8:08AM

    I'm sorry someone was rude to you.

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WATERDIAMONDS 10/14/2013 7:49AM

    I hope whoever needs this has read it and will at least consider its message.

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IDICEM 10/14/2013 7:39AM

  Sorry that you've gone through an unpleasant experience on SP and glad you've found a positive way to deal with it.

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CHERYLHURT 10/14/2013 7:16AM


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PENOWOK 10/14/2013 6:58AM

    Excellent thoughts and posters!!

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THEBEV2 10/14/2013 6:22AM

    There are rude people in real life and they might be even more prevalent in the "virtual" world of relative anonymity. Ignore them! Listen to all your wonderful supporters at Spark and "delete" those mean-spirited people from your thoughts. Thank you for your thoughtful and caring blogs. You help so many people and we all love and support you in your journey.

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HAPPYMENOW58 10/14/2013 6:06AM

    Great blog! I am very sorry someone was awful to you...You are so sweet...and always so positive! You do not have to put up with it......My mother always used to say......Remember, NICE matters! I guess a few people never learned that! You are nice, and YOU matter...Hugs! emoticon

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BESSHAILE 10/14/2013 6:01AM

    I used to tell my son "Don't give your power to someone who's mean, ugly, cruel." Now I tell that to anyone who complains of bullies. We already know they're low life - why give them our power?

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CARRIELYN56 10/14/2013 5:51AM

    Thank you for the good reminders on the wonderful parts of life. emoticon

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TRYINGHARD54 10/14/2013 5:51AM

    I cant stand rude people.. They have no place here. sorry this has happen to you..
emoticon I'm sure it happens to a lot of us. So sad !

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RASPBERRY56 10/14/2013 5:11AM

    This is, indeed, the most unfortunate thing about living in a assumed "free speech" type of society and world - sadly, the concept of "responsibility" when using speech is all to often neglected - to the world's peril!

Thank you for sharing!

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SANDYCRANE 10/14/2013 5:00AM

    I have never encountered a bully on Spark, but shame on them. This is a great site.


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SHERRYBETH84 10/14/2013 12:48AM

    Hurting people Hurt people. I am so sorry you were sent a hurtful comment. I would like to think their intentions were honorable and the pain was unintentional, but there have been some instances were a sparker has lashed out on someone.

Your response was so loving and forgiving that it made my heart grow bigger. My reaction would have been punitive and hateful. I was appalled that there are so many other negative commenters on these personal blogs. To have someone send an angry face or harassing statement is unacceptable.

I ask for a spark alert whenever you blog because I find your blogs so up lifting. I copy so many of your pictures and appreciate the work and care you put into your blogs.

Thank you for showing me how to be gracious and forgiving.

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NPDSLEUTH 10/13/2013 10:36PM

    I had mean people try to bully me here too. When I first started, some woman was berating me over my food choices. It was very painful so I really feel what you are saying.

I can tell you that I am SO PROUD of you and your resolution to stay on here and look beyond them. Don't you DARE let them sidetrack you! You've worked too hard to allow anyone to impact you that way.

Block them, ignore them, do what you have to do. Their rudeness/ugliness is THEIR problem, not yours. Delete, delete, delete.



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MICKEYH 10/13/2013 10:29PM

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KOHINOOR2 10/13/2013 10:11PM

    Don"t ever be discouraged by anyone's evil words or deeds. You are very special to all of us at spark's blogs are very informative, inspiring a positive. keep up the good work. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TORTILLAFLATS 10/13/2013 10:01PM

    I haven't found that to be true here. I am so sorry it happened to you!

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WALLAHALLA 10/13/2013 9:52PM

    So sorry you have been attacked by meanie weanies. I know we can delete comments we don't like, but I wish we had a way to block certain people from commenting at all. I have someone who leaves me the angry face almost every day, and I have no idea why. I would feel horrible if I knew I had hurt someone's feelings here. emoticon emoticon

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ROCKYCPA 10/13/2013 9:47PM

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WINE4GIRL 10/13/2013 9:02PM

    Love the blog! Keep up your positive attitude. You are so correct, words can change someone's attitude and they can change a life!

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