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BULLING, Giving up, Moving On, QUITTING

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Sunday, October 13, 2013

Some of our greatest tests are how we respond others.

It seems that there are too many MEAN PEOPLE in the world.
Unfortunately some of them are on spark.

Mean words meant I am thinking about quitting, giving up on spark.
Mean words hurt more than one can ever put into words.
Mean people love being bullies.

There is ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE for being mean or rude on the journey. We are all trying our best each and every day. We don't need mean rude remarks on posts or emails that make us want to GIVE UP.
If you are that way, kindly, please go away.

PLEASE change the way you think. Work on YOU. Work on improving what is making you think in a hurtful way attacking others. There are so many self-help classes out there that can change, improve the way you think. Seeking out a LIFE-Coach can also help. Our lives are our opportunities to grow as people, to learn to be the best we can. That is what we should strive for.

Spark bullies please leave.
While I work on my goals, struggle with my challenges, focus on my dreams you dare stomp on me, attacking. How rude. How would like someone doing that to you? JUST THINK OF HOW KIND WORDS CAN LIFT PEOPLE UP. Think of how rude words rip people apart. I DON'T LIKE FEELING SAD. YOU HURT ME. emoticon
Yes, I have feelings.

You choose to take time to write angry words hurt me and you don't even know me.

I will PRAY for you. I will send you POSITIVE ENERGY. I hope you can find some PEACE in your LIFE.

It's YOUR CHOICE on how you BEHAVE. Do you want to leave your mark in this world knowing you made your day brighter by hurting someone else?
Do you have nothing else to do but be mean?
Is it too hard to be KIND or NICE.
I am so sorry you have had a bad day.
I don't think you meant all those mean things.
I am so sorry for your DIFFICULTIES.
LIFE is challenging, it's made that way to make us STRONGER, more COMPASSIONATE, KINDER, and WISER.

I can send you a virtual hug if you like.

Why not think of SPREADING CHEER, complementing someone on making it through 10 minutes of cravings, or a day of sticking to the plan.

I dare you to RISE UP and cheer someone on.

I dare you to say something KIND or nice.

I feel so sorry that your day is so bad that you find the need to hurt others.

Here on spark, I let MY SOUL SHINE.
Don't stomp on it.

I dare you to have the COURAGE TO FIND KIND WORDS within your heart.
I dare you to see the BEAUTY IN EACH DAY.
I dare you to find HUMOR in life.

Your life may be easy in comparison to mine.
I bet you can't handle a day walking in my shoes.
I bet you never would of survived the things I have had to endure in my life.
I bet you would roll over and give up to the pain and challenges I face.

I always hope to make someone else's day a bit BRIGHTER.
I strive to do my BEST each and every day.
I desire to CHEER others up.
I love to ENCOURAGE.
I love to INSPIRE.

Dear Bully. I feel so sorry for you. Please remember you will be welcomed here even when you are mean as others care for you.

We hope our KINDNESS WILL LIGHT A FIRE OF DESIRE TO REACH OUT AND INSPIRE OTHERS. There is hope for you. I know your probably facing lots of hard times that are making you struggle. Your words are a CRY FOR HELP. You matter, don't give up on yourself. Hugs.

I pray you find PEACE and LOVE.

May you learn to find JOY to DANCE through life. Be blessed my new friend. If you ever need a hug, encouragement I am here for you.

My dear new friend. I hope you can let your soul SHINE.

I won't carry your burden of anger.
I hope you can find some healing.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

GIRLONTHEGO2010 10/16/2013 8:26AM


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WRITINGRUNNER 10/16/2013 2:20AM

    Wonderful blog! I am horrified that there are bullies on Spark, that is against my whole view and ethos. Spark is a place where we encourage people and celebrate their successes, it should be used to congratulate, offer advice, motivate and support. Please never feel like quitting here.

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ROXYCARIN 10/16/2013 12:49AM


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1DRWOMAN 10/15/2013 11:49PM

    Mean people must be coming out lately...I wrote a venting status update on my facebook page today about we we feel it's okay to judge people, gossip and rip other people down - we should be positive, uplifting, and inspiring...nobody knows what each person is struggling thank you for this FANTASTIC blog! IT"S AWESOME!

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RENATA144 10/15/2013 11:04PM

  emoticon for this beautiful & Powerful blog !!!

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JUNEAU2010 10/15/2013 10:04PM

    I am so sorry to read about bullies on this site! I appreciate your hugs and your positive words and images, though. The energy one is particularly wonderful. emoticon

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WILSLM70 10/15/2013 8:16PM

    What a fantastic blog.... thank you for sharing.

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GODSCHILDAMYB 10/15/2013 7:03PM

    I agree with you. I grew up not being liked by many and being put down. SparkPeople is a place to be inspired and motivated and truly I hope that person feels sorry for anything said innapropiate to you. You are tough to keep pushing on. Good luck to you and may God bless you greatly!!

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AJB121299 10/15/2013 4:40PM


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FIRECOM 10/15/2013 3:35PM

    I really needed this today. I am in chemo and I have been really down on everthing after the last treatment. I react differently after each infusion and this past two weeks I have been absolutely, totally, exhausted.

On the other hand, I have not been bullied on SP -- YET. Sorry that you have.

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CHANGING-TURTLE 10/15/2013 3:32PM

    Sending you emoticon and emoticon sorry someone bullied you

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MOONLIT 10/15/2013 3:18PM

    The best revenge in life is living well and the best revenge to mean people on spark is accomplishing your goal and helping others on their way to accomplishing theirs!
You hold your head high and keep going, screw the nay sayers!

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JRRING 10/15/2013 2:57PM


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STELLASMYBEBE 10/15/2013 1:24PM

    You are an inspiring person! :)

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JCROB1146 10/15/2013 1:11PM


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HMBROWN1 10/15/2013 12:42PM

    Sorry someone hurt your feelings. Glad to see that you are still "sparking" on.

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MSROZZIE 10/15/2013 12:17PM

    A very beautiful and heartfelt blog! Thanks for sharing! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RUNNINGYOGINIRE 10/15/2013 11:37AM

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MONTREAL12 10/15/2013 10:30AM

  Such a profound "truism" yet easier said than done; however, you are absolutely right - we can choose to empower "negative" commentary or we can ignore. By the way, flattery can also lead to misguided self image. Thank-you for this and enjoy the day!

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HEALTHYME229 10/15/2013 10:18AM

    There are a lot of challenges with a site like this. The anonymity lets people say things they never would say to someone’s face and think it is ok. We also base our opinions of people on generally very limited information. Except for rare circumstances, we never really know what the other person’s life is like. I agree that mean and hateful words are best left unsaid because they can cause a lot of hurt and pain to the recipient. Words are so tricky. Sometimes demeaning or “bullying” type phrases are disguised. While I appreciate your expression of your hurt feelings and your desire to challenge mean people to share kindness and encouragement, do you realize you bullied a little back? When you said you bet they could never have survived what you have in your life or would roll over for the things you have faced – how do you know? You know no more about that person’s life than they know about yours so how can you judge what they can or can't endure? When we are hurt, we are all guilty at least once in our lives of saying something we shouldn’t. That said - your desire to not let this person or your obviously challenging past keep you down is very inspiring.

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MITTHRAWN 10/15/2013 10:15AM

    I think the most inspirational part of this post is the outpouring of support that you see in pages and pages of comments.

Whatever negativity might have occurred I think this shows sparkpeople is by far filled with supportive positive people.

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SUGARSMOM2 10/15/2013 9:51AM

  emoticon emoticon words can hurt or help . the ones that hurt can not find a spot here on spark . they make some stop trying . they harm the soul of the being that is trying to improve the way they deal with life & people .You have a good spirit . do not allow others to put you down . emoticon

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GRANDMABABA 10/15/2013 9:49AM

    I was the target of bullying as a child and also as an adult in recent memory. I was the most surprised when it came from another on SP. sometimes remarks leave us raw for a time. I pray you are protected from such hurt! This is just not acceptable anywhere, but especially in a place where we should be safe from such abuse.
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ELLELARS08 10/15/2013 9:41AM

  Part of the reason I was hesitant to have an online presence was because of bullies but I am learning to let that go and just focus on the nice people.

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SHAKESALOT 10/15/2013 9:20AM


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REBIRTHDIVA 10/15/2013 8:52AM

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MEGAMOM134 10/15/2013 8:39AM

    Toxic people sharing their toxic poison. I so hear you. I am glad you are choosing to let it roll off you. A person like that obviously has problems. I let someone like that chase me away from the last weight loss site I was on. I won't let it happen again but it has kept me from getting as involved in this site as I did in the last. I am keeping to myself more which is a shame as we are all suppose to be here to support each other. May your troll stay away and may the sunshine always smile on your day.

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GOPINTOS 10/15/2013 8:34AM

    I was very sorry to read of your rude experiences. I am hoping that those are the minority, as the majority of those I come in contact with are nice, and just trying to find their own way along their journey.

I am glad that you did not give up. We can not let anyone else stand in the way of us reaching our goals and having the best possible health that we can.


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GRATEFUL_BEING 10/15/2013 8:31AM

    Great blog! I let someone chase me away from here for a few months. Last year. I'm glad you wrote this blog for all the people who have to deal with mean people here and in
3D life. Thanks.

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MARGLYNE14 10/15/2013 8:25AM

    Well Said! I needed this..Thank You! emoticon emoticon

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JEWELLE217 10/15/2013 7:21AM

    Bullies are like cancer...they spread their misery everywhere! I'm so sorry someone has been so rude to you. There is no excuse for that kind of behavior on Sparkpeople or in life!

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LRSILVER 10/15/2013 4:56AM

    Well said

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DEEGIRL50 10/15/2013 4:05AM

    I hope whatever was said was meant to be helpful and came out wrong.

I've met only supportive and encouraging people on SP. I hope it stays that way.

emoticon Kindness & Sunshine

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BLUEJEAN99 10/15/2013 2:00AM

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MATSCHI 10/15/2013 1:34AM

    Wow, what a powerful blog! I am sorry you had to experience this.

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CHARTHESTAR 10/14/2013 10:40PM

    I can't believe that anyone on spark could be so mean.
especially to you- who always has something positive to say even with all you deal with.

I have actually started feeling sorry for mean people. they must have such sad lives.

I just love the pictures and quotes you posted. the one that just says peace is so beautiful.
Then the one about forgiving others. May share both of them?

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JAMER123 10/14/2013 10:25PM

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I have been on the bullied side most my life and know what you said to be true. One has to learn how to let the hurtful comments roll off one's back! Thank you!
joy LIFE!!

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ONLYTEMPORARY 10/14/2013 9:45PM


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J2740LOU 10/14/2013 9:27PM

    This blog is beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

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SAMMIESMOM13 10/14/2013 9:11PM

    Good for you. Don't let meanness overcome you. I've always said people who find a need to belittle others are unhappy within themselves. They think they will feel better by making someone else feel bad. It never works but they keep trying. They don't realize bringing a smile to someone else's face is what make you feel better too.
Just you keep on keeping on. What bullies say and think doesn't matter.

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SLIMLILA 10/14/2013 9:06PM

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thank you, thank you... I could have really used all this positive in a workplace bullying situation.... I wish I was as strong as you... please continue to inspire anyone else who has been hurt and had their heart broken like this. emoticon

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KARRENLYNN 10/14/2013 7:50PM

    It's amazing how cruel people can be to each other. Each persons journey is different and the words we speak and beliefs we hold are filtered through our own experiences.

I'm sorry that has happened to you and how strong you are to fight back.


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DELLMEL 10/14/2013 7:50PM


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KKLENNERT809 10/14/2013 7:01PM

    Wow, very awakening to us all! I wish everyone could be nice to each other. emoticon

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SIRENALEANNE 10/14/2013 5:22PM

    Another Awesome Blog! emoticon

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JSEATTLE 10/14/2013 3:23PM

  You're right. Mean people suck but they feel pain also.

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