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BULLING, Giving up, Moving On, QUITTING

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Sunday, October 13, 2013

Some of our greatest tests are how we respond others.

It seems that there are too many MEAN PEOPLE in the world.
Unfortunately some of them are on spark.

Mean words meant I am thinking about quitting, giving up on spark.
Mean words hurt more than one can ever put into words.
Mean people love being bullies.

There is ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE for being mean or rude on the journey. We are all trying our best each and every day. We don't need mean rude remarks on posts or emails that make us want to GIVE UP.
If you are that way, kindly, please go away.

PLEASE change the way you think. Work on YOU. Work on improving what is making you think in a hurtful way attacking others. There are so many self-help classes out there that can change, improve the way you think. Seeking out a LIFE-Coach can also help. Our lives are our opportunities to grow as people, to learn to be the best we can. That is what we should strive for.

Spark bullies please leave.
While I work on my goals, struggle with my challenges, focus on my dreams you dare stomp on me, attacking. How rude. How would like someone doing that to you? JUST THINK OF HOW KIND WORDS CAN LIFT PEOPLE UP. Think of how rude words rip people apart. I DON'T LIKE FEELING SAD. YOU HURT ME. emoticon
Yes, I have feelings.

You choose to take time to write angry words hurt me and you don't even know me.

I will PRAY for you. I will send you POSITIVE ENERGY. I hope you can find some PEACE in your LIFE.

It's YOUR CHOICE on how you BEHAVE. Do you want to leave your mark in this world knowing you made your day brighter by hurting someone else?
Do you have nothing else to do but be mean?
Is it too hard to be KIND or NICE.
I am so sorry you have had a bad day.
I don't think you meant all those mean things.
I am so sorry for your DIFFICULTIES.
LIFE is challenging, it's made that way to make us STRONGER, more COMPASSIONATE, KINDER, and WISER.

I can send you a virtual hug if you like.

Why not think of SPREADING CHEER, complementing someone on making it through 10 minutes of cravings, or a day of sticking to the plan.

I dare you to RISE UP and cheer someone on.

I dare you to say something KIND or nice.

I feel so sorry that your day is so bad that you find the need to hurt others.

Here on spark, I let MY SOUL SHINE.
Don't stomp on it.

I dare you to have the COURAGE TO FIND KIND WORDS within your heart.
I dare you to see the BEAUTY IN EACH DAY.
I dare you to find HUMOR in life.

Your life may be easy in comparison to mine.
I bet you can't handle a day walking in my shoes.
I bet you never would of survived the things I have had to endure in my life.
I bet you would roll over and give up to the pain and challenges I face.

I always hope to make someone else's day a bit BRIGHTER.
I strive to do my BEST each and every day.
I desire to CHEER others up.
I love to ENCOURAGE.
I love to INSPIRE.

Dear Bully. I feel so sorry for you. Please remember you will be welcomed here even when you are mean as others care for you.

We hope our KINDNESS WILL LIGHT A FIRE OF DESIRE TO REACH OUT AND INSPIRE OTHERS. There is hope for you. I know your probably facing lots of hard times that are making you struggle. Your words are a CRY FOR HELP. You matter, don't give up on yourself. Hugs.

I pray you find PEACE and LOVE.

May you learn to find JOY to DANCE through life. Be blessed my new friend. If you ever need a hug, encouragement I am here for you.

My dear new friend. I hope you can let your soul SHINE.

I won't carry your burden of anger.
I hope you can find some healing.

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

LORIVIOLA 3/24/2014 1:42PM

    emoticon for the emoticon blog.
i send you virtual hugs too.

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TERRIJ7 3/1/2014 10:23PM

    This is an old blog now but I just came across it. I'm sure you felt better being able to put all your feelings into words and confront those who were rude or inconsiderate to you. I haven't had to experience that and hope that nothing I've said has caused anyone pain. Press on!

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GRAMPIAN 12/9/2013 6:09AM

  F emoticon ull of wisdom.

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BLPRETTYGIRL1 11/12/2013 11:33AM


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MILLERISHEALTHY 10/27/2013 11:54PM

    Thank you so much for this blog. It's something I've been wanting to say for a long time and just didn't know the right way to do it. I don't understand bullies and I don't believe they belong on Spark. The majority of people here are very caring and supportive, but there are a few who seem to want to hurt others. I, for one, wish they would go away or at least get some help. Anyone who is here hurting others is either in a lot of pain themselves, or they're just plain mean.

Again, thank you so much! emoticon emoticon

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SADDHU1 10/21/2013 1:45PM

  May I offer you a virtual hug? You do not need to take unkind words to heart or quit Spark People. You are already well on your way to success and there are many paths to the goal. Thank you for the reminder to be soft with words and loud with encouragement! You did a real service to all of us by writing this blog and raising awareness. Thank you. Spark on!

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MYAKAYAH 10/21/2013 2:35AM

    thanks for sharing, even if it helps one person not to be mean, rude or envious it was worth it! emoticon

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JOYFULSPIRIT920 10/20/2013 7:44AM

    Mean people suck!
Let your spark continue to shine!!

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MAYBER 10/20/2013 12:09AM

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts
Kindness is needed more today in this world
And you have let it begin with you
One day at a time
Love prayers peace

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CLPURNELL 10/18/2013 7:42PM


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WAKETHEDRAGON 10/18/2013 1:32PM

    People who feel good about themselves deep down don't bully. In fact, negative comments tend to bounce off them. They have learned that what they think of themselves is far more important than what anyone else thinks.

Bullies, on the other hand think so poorly of themselves, deep down, that almost anything is an offense to them. They often take others' successes as condemnation of their own failure. They lash out. It's very sad.

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SPARKLERS30 10/18/2013 1:28PM

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JIBBIE49 10/18/2013 8:31AM

    emoticon great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. What an honor. emoticon

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PIGGYWAY 10/18/2013 7:48AM


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NANFITGRAN 10/18/2013 6:12AM

    Excellent blog! I'm sorry you've had a negative experience on SP. I've been fortunate to have only support, motivation, and kindness. Keep on giving off the loving, positive vibes and sharing the joy. It is so needed and appreciated by most folks here. And hit that BLOCK button to rid yourself of the negative, mean comments. emoticon emoticon

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MISSLISA1973 10/17/2013 11:51PM

    I am so sorry someone was mean to you.

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KKLENNERT809 10/17/2013 10:32PM

    I have read your blog before but I enjoyed it so much, I wanted to read it again! Thank you

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WHITEANGEL4 10/17/2013 9:51PM

    Sorry for the negative on your blog...just keep a positive attitude and ignore all else... Great blog

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CLAYARTIST 10/17/2013 9:07PM


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FRAN0426 10/17/2013 7:53PM

    People have no right to bully others, but they seem to take pride in doing so. Yes, they words do hurt, but there is a way to stop someone who sends nasty messages--HIT THE BLOCK button---they won'y be able to hurt you again. I am sending emoticon your way.

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TEXASFILLY 10/17/2013 6:47PM

    Bravo! So many good things in this blog. Thank you for sharing. We have a wretched time with bullying at our middle school, so I will be using some of your grand posters to share. Thank you, dear heart~ & may you continue to be blessed with joy and peace. *hugs* BB~ emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUSIEMT 10/17/2013 6:39PM

    Good Blog! I am so sorry for what happened on one of your blogs. That was totally uncalled for. emoticon

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IMAGINE46 10/17/2013 4:18PM

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TRANSFORMWE 10/17/2013 2:58PM

    Important topic, beautifully said. Focus on the vast majority who are positive and supportive.

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ROZZIEOZZIE 10/17/2013 2:43PM

    I have not had that experience on SP, or much in my life at all! I am very sorry that you have been bullied on this website - we should all be supporting each other in our difficult times, not making those times even worse! Hugs back to you for your positive message!

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JNEWBS 10/17/2013 1:58PM

    Beautiful Blog. You are finding peace and reaching out with love when others have been cruel. You are a good person, don't let anyone's mean comments take that away from you. emoticon

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NONNAOF2 10/17/2013 11:58AM

  What a fantastic blog! Being a bully is such a sad situation. The person doing the bullying probably has their own inner demons to contend with, so they take it out on others. How much easier it would be to spread positive energy in this world! :-)

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1GROVES2 10/17/2013 11:56AM

    I was so hurt around the 4th month I was on here by the message boards. People were calling me names and just being mean! I decided to quit, but a team leader told me to stay and to be wary of the message boards. I just did not come on to SP very often....then I went back to the message boards, big mistake! I asked a question, don`t even remember what and got slammed! I mean really bad! And when I tried to explain that it was impossible for me to do that way, I was turned in and sent an email from the moderator to " stop this behavior, or I would be kicked out of SP"! I cried over that, but then decided I was gonna take it any more! (this same person was rude to me before, twice even) so I emailed the moderator telling her to look past my last message and look at what was said to me! I was told to " just throw all your toys outta the crib and lay down & cry"..... So....I think she was scolded too.... but still, I only play the games on the msg boards and rarely ask for advice any more!
I have arthiritis very badly and am not able to do certain things and I also have allergies and other problems that I have to follow Dr advice about.
Thanks for bringing this huge problem out in the light! Some people may not be aware of this, but I am.

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FANCYQTR 10/17/2013 11:07AM

    Great Blog! I just don't understand people who go out of their way to be mean to other people and I have had it happen all my life. You just can't go around telling people they are stupid, ugly, whatever. I agree that people should lift each other up and I hope that your blog gets the message across.

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NEWVINE 10/17/2013 10:56AM


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RURAL3 10/17/2013 10:38AM

    sorry you have felt that way. I have never experienced that on this site.

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SEATTLE58 10/17/2013 10:07AM

    I'm so sorry that you feel you've been bullied here on SP. emoticon I certainly hope that I haven't been one of them. It's so good if we can just let those mean words just roll off our backs. I try to do that. Not always easy but it is possible. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NEZE11 10/17/2013 9:02AM

    emoticon Great blog! Most bullies are attention-seekers. More than anything else they want attention. It doesn't matter what type of attention they get, positive or negative, as long as they can provoke someone into paying them.
Do not reply to their postings, and on forums carry on posting without reference to their postings as if they didn't exist. In other words, treat nobodies as nobodies.
Have a great day!! emoticon

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INGMARIE 10/17/2013 8:26AM

    That my friend was a very nice " kick in the a** respond.
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DAYSPRING-STAR 10/17/2013 8:22AM

    Wow! Your powerful and well written message found a home in my thoughts!

First I thought that it has been very rare that I have come upon someone in the Spark community that I thought was mean, much less a bully. Thank goodness for that!

My second thought was, I hope I have not been less than kind and supportive of other Sparkies.

I do not want to be on either side of a SparkBullying or even less than kind interaction!

Thank you for the reminders of our impact on others. Thank you for the food for thought. Thank you for the opportunity to consider both our own and other's perspectives and intentions. We have a choice to make ourselves and our world a kinder, more peaceful, and loving place.

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CHERYLHURT 10/17/2013 8:05AM

  Sorry someone was unkind! emoticon

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SJKENT1 10/17/2013 7:46AM

    I have never understood why people have to be mean to one another. Someone told me recently that "wounded people wound". Sad.

I'm glad you are able to rise above the meanness... and take the high road.

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 10/17/2013 12:20AM

    Wow, what a KICK-ASS response to a hurtful person. This was great. :)

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KATYDID412 10/16/2013 8:58PM

    I feel fortunate that I haven't run into any of these bullies on SP. It's such a hard thing because of course we all believe in freedom of speech ... but this site in my opinion is supposed to be the place we all come to feel free of judgment and negativity. That there are those unhappy people whose goal is to make others unhappy is just a fact of life, but the fact that they're here on SP makes me sad.

I loved this blog -- good for you to be able to be forgiving and loving even in the face of ugliness.

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ELAINEANNE1 10/16/2013 3:25PM

    Thete are some good words on here thamk you.

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VELVEETA4 10/16/2013 12:43PM

    Don't let one person kill your spark. I've run into rudeness, too. I wish there were a "block" function on SparkPeople. Just know there are several here, including myself, that are cheering you on! Keep up the SPARK!

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SUNSHYNECOOKS 10/16/2013 10:05AM

    I am sorry someone offended you. You realizing they may be hurting and so are reacting in a negative way is inspiring. We all should be aware that we all have our issues and be uplifting and supportive, or keep our thoughts to ourselves. Have a wonderful day. emoticon

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I.M.MAGIC 10/16/2013 10:03AM

    My mother always told us that it isn't what happens to us that matters... it's what we do with it. You're doing great, working through this and putting it behind you.
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DIETER27 10/16/2013 9:55AM

  Another awesome blog! very inspiring!

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EMILY0724 10/16/2013 9:44AM

    October has been named "National Bullying Month." We must make people aware of this horrible social problem. I'm sorry you have been a victim.

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JSPIN74 10/16/2013 9:37AM

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