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Sunday, October 13, 2013

Funny how our brains work... I sit here with insomnia after another "discussion" with my hubby about my size. He feels I am "huge' and need to lose weight to help our marriage. I like me, I am chubby but I am a good person. Do I wish I was more physically fit? Sure! Do I think that the successof my mmarriage, career, and life in general should depend on being thin, most definitely not.

It really rots me when others feel the need to point out you're bigger than is socially acceptable, don't they realize you know this?!? I have started the whole weight loss journey more times than I care to remember yet every time I end up back where I am. It may be failure I am not sure but I have no idea how to change things and I am not certain I want to.

I guess I am just looking for support or maybe even a friend who can understand. Any feedback would be appreciated... This is my first blog and comments would be appreciated.

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LOOZTALL 10/13/2013 10:17AM

    All I can offer is support. we are all going through the same thing here whether weight challenged or not; the main goal is healthy. I guess weight loss comes with it. You shalldo well not because of your husband's comments but because you want to be healthier. . . THAT IS your FOCUS. Try to be active on the page so we ca support one another. emoticon

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CLGALINDO 10/13/2013 9:32AM

  It will be hard to add to the sage advice you've already been given. We all have had similar struggles, though they may look a little different or go by a different name. It has to be about you and for you. You have to know you are worth it. For me, I started by using a mantra "just today". Just today I will make choices that heal and not hurt, just today I will do a physical activity for 10 minutes, just today I will give 100% to this. Pretty soon the "just todays" string together to form new habits, new attitudes and a new healthy body. Those 10 minutes of physical activity begin to stretch to 20, 30, 45, 60! Your body gets revved and craves it. Your food becomes fuel. You will join challenges on Spark, have fun and your mind and body will respond to the rewards. The more you involve yourself in your own life, the more you will get out of it. For me, I went from a size 18 to a size 4/6 and was taken off of my blood pressure medicine. This is life now, not a's a lifestyle that I am blessed to have, with a community of support. JUST TODAY!

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LIVELAUFLUV 10/13/2013 9:10AM

    Welcome to SparkPeople! This is a place where no one judges anyone else, as we are all working towards the same end, and that is being healthy.

Do this for you, for no one else. It's your journey to take. Learn about you, embrace you, and make changes because you want to.

You are awesome!


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TEACH7TH 10/13/2013 7:59AM

    I agree with the other's have to do this for yourself. My ex-husband felt the same way as your husband...I was never good enough for him, and that took a major toll on my self-esteem. I still struggle every day with issues of not being good enough, or feeling like everyone is judging me. Please don't end up where I have.

If you want to do this, then do it. Trying to do it for someone else doesn't work.

Good luck! I do know you CAN do this!!! emoticon emoticon

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MAHARMON 10/13/2013 6:57AM

  This is your journey , not anyone else's. This is something we do for ourselves. Nourishing our bodies and being healthy is the most important thing. emoticon emoticon

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BABYSOX 10/13/2013 6:48AM

    If you really want to get healthier, than you can do it. If you are content with where you are now, then just maintain that. Do not try to change for anyone.
The truth is that if your body is healthier, you will feel better. I never realized how unhealthy I was, until I started to change and get healthier.

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CANADIANFROG09 10/13/2013 6:10AM

    emoticon with JAROL7...Do It For You! emoticon emoticon

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JAROL7 10/13/2013 5:35AM

    Don't do it for others. Do it for yourself. Save your knees, save your hips. Joint replacement is no picnic and it's better to take the weight off of your joints for yourself.

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JACKIE15108 10/13/2013 4:45AM

    This is're the same person tick or thin....

check out the featured blog...
Looking for the Inner Beauty - Tales from 100# Down

10/11/2013 10:19:12 AM, by PINKHOPE

it's on today's front blog page.
good luck!

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